Why it makes no sense to help children buy an apartment Bashny.Net

Parents are not always ready to help their older children. “This is your life and your problems,” as if the voice of your father or mother is reproached. Unfortunately, very often the apple of discord becomes parentage.

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The heroes of our new history had a hard time. No matter how many times they asked for help, they were always refused. Having overcome all the difficulties of life, they managed to stand on their own. However, now relatives need them. Will Olga and Nikolai forget their past insults? Read about it further in the article.

“Don’t count on our help, earn yourself!” said our mother-in-law, who has two apartments. In one she lives with her husband, and the second passes. That was the way it used to be when I was just getting married. Young and green, I was hoping that we could help with housing. But it wasn't!

That was the position of my husband’s parents. Since we decided to legalize the relationship, we understand the responsibility we take. Then you have to work like the damned to provide for yourself. We had no other option, so we took any job.



We didn't even think about children at the time. Our goal was to make money on our own housing. I remember a time when we saved every penny to make the first payment for the apartment. We limited ourselves in everything and achieved our goal in the end. But at what cost?

You could go on vacation once every few years. Our diet was simple and rather scarce, there could be no talk of entertainment at all. But when we had our own home, it was time to think about the children. I gave birth to twins at a fairly mature age. Now our children are 8 years old, and my husband and I are 44 years old.

When relatives cross all boundaries with mother-in-law and father-in-law, we practically do not communicate. Before, when we met, they considered it their duty to end any conversation with morals. Although Koley and I never asked for anything from them again. After that apartment incident, we realized we were on our own.



We had to meet with relatives a couple of times a year, on holidays. The rest of the time they were not interested in our lives. No time for them! Both have a decent pension, plus tenants pay rent every month. Petr Sergeevich and Alla Grigorievna traveled a lot and lived for their own pleasure.

However, everything came to an end when the father-in-law said that he was going to another. Apparently, some young woman fell for decent money and stable housing. One of the apartments belonged to my husband’s father. After the divorce, he took her. And the second apartment (the one that was rented out) went to the mother-in-law.



She is 65 years old and is not used to living alone. Her pension is short, her life in luxury is over. In the apartment you need to make major repairs, but there is no money for this, of course. And you know what? Now Alla Grigorievna calls her son and demands that he help her: “I am your mother, you must help me.”

Should I? To be honest, I have no desire to communicate with my mother-in-law. For so many years, she didn't care about us or our condition, and now she's in desperate need of her son's reliable shoulder. By the way, Kolya is also in no hurry to fulfill all the requirements of his mother. She refused to help him, and now he refuses.



Over the years, we have become strangers to each other. So why do we have to drop everything and spend a lot of money renovating an apartment where we don't even live? I think it would be fair to remember the words of my mother-in-law: “Do not count on our help!”

The reluctance of Olga and Nicholas to help their mother-in-law is understandable. The woman could hardly imagine that her husband would abandon her at such a mature age. About the airbag, as it is now fashionable to say, she did not think. And now her last hope was her son. The one she refused to help when she needed it.



It seems that everything is very clear in this situation. The only question is whether moral principles and conscience will allow the heroes to completely turn away from the needy mother-in-law. What do you think? Share your impressions in the comments!