He took his wife’s stash and went to the mall to buy new clothes.

The rules of family life are best set together. Before you set the rules, you need to make sure that all family members agree to perform their duties and support this or that idea. If this is not the case, if problems arise, and no one tries to solve them by joint efforts, then life oppresses the family, and chaos and misunderstanding ensues in it. This happened in Oleg’s family, and who is to blame?



The rules of life in the family “My daughter-in-law is a despot”. She takes all the money from her son, and sometimes Olezhya does not even have enough travel, let alone for lunch. Larisa is young and smart, she is 28 years old, she is 5 years younger than her son. When they began to live together, Larisa established her own rules in the family, and Oleg did not mind. The fact is that in the family of Larisa it is customary to add the salary to the general budget. She says that it is easier to plan spending and spend money wisely, Valentina Vasilievna does not restrain her indignation.



“They don’t have children yet, perhaps for the best. Both work. Oleg earns a decent living at 33. More than Larissa, of course. And they live in a small one-bedroom apartment, which my husband and I gave my son a field of graduation. We knew he wouldn't disappear and make a living. Now he's borrowing money from me.



Larisa carries a container to work, and Oleg has a dining room at work, it is not customary to go there with her food. Only Lara doesn't let you take money from the public treasury for lunch. Says it's going to ruin them. As soon as Oleza begins to talk about money, everything ends in tears. Larisa is offended and arranges scenes, they say, and what will happen when she stops earning. The daughter-in-law is supported by her mother. She was the one who advised her to make the family budget a common one.”



Here is only the mother-in-law spoke about savings so that children could collect more spacious housing. But Larisa spends the money at his discretion. Not only food and travel, but also cosmetics and new clothes. And my son wears an old patched shirt every year.



Once Oleg came to us in this form to help install the bathroom with her husband. Takes off his sweater, and there's a T-shirt all leaky like a sieve, ashamed to look! I asked him if he didn't make a new shirt. And he blushed, saying, "Larisa said you wouldn't see under the sweater." And Larisa buys a new outfit for the holidays, and gives her son socks and shower gel.



Oleg is very kind and never creates conflicts. But when he came and saw socks in the drawer that he had thrown out because of the big holes, he became very angry. Larochka, I'm sorry, took it out of the bin and sewed it up, then put it in the closet. Then Oleg took the money from the nightstand and went to the shopping center for new things.



And when he came back, there was a note on the table: “I’m at my mom’s.” I will come back when you apologize.” That was the last straw. Shouldn't he be wearing rags because of such a frugal wife? And she is not economical at all, an ordinary egoist, spends only on herself. And when Oleg married her, Lara had no dowry. Mom bought everything. And now she's got her son's money and she wants a general budget.



The problem is that Larissa single-handedly decided how and who will manage the budget. She tried to repeat the experience of her parents, but this order of things did not suit her husband. His trouble is that he kept silent and put up with what did not suit him for a long time. When people stop talking about what they think, they are much easier to resolve the conflict in the family, finding a compromise.