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Daughter and son-in-law bought strawberries, and with parents did not share, ate in his room
Do you think that the separation of budget and food helps or hinders living in the same house with many relatives? Today we want to share with you a life story about how one small unpleasant incident broke up a close-knit family for a month, and find out if you have ever faced something like this.
We hope you will help us in this difficult situation!
I used to live with my husband, younger daughter and granddaughter three times. But two years ago, the eldest daughter Lisa and her son-in-law decided to buy their own house and asked to stay with us for a while so as not to spend money on rented apartments while they saved up for a down payment for a mortgage.
We had enough space, so we agreed to help them. And until recently, everything was fine. But a few weeks ago, I started noticing that Lisa and her son-in-law were acting strangely.
Lately, they have stopped tipping on food and eating with us at the same table. In the mornings, they were supposed to rush to work, and in the evening they came back very late, so usually we were already asleep.
Well, I thought it was young. And the truth is, they probably work from dawn to dusk and glimpse the canteens. I'm worried. I asked them to pack their lunches at least. But that was rejected.
And one day at lunch, my husband said that he saw our precious Lisonka and his brother-in-law drag packets of various delicacies into the room. And in the morning they did not even mention that they had organized a food warehouse in their bedroom.
Shortly after our conversation, this situation repeated itself. And it became clear that children do this all the time. They eat all kinds of delicacies secretly, but they do not think about sharing.
One day I couldn’t stand it and decided to talk to my daughter. I was outraged that she was hiding food from her family.
Lisa's answer surprised me! “Mom, you know we’re saving for an apartment right now. We do not have the opportunity to feed the whole family. And what you cook, do not eat, because we are used to a different diet. That's it, the daughter said unfazedly.
I had nothing to say. They really didn't touch our food. What could be the claims? Well, they ate separately, but for their own money. In the end, as for the rest of the expenses, then Lisa and her son-in-law were tipped off on equal terms.
And yet I was very offended by this unpleasant incident.
As a result, after this dialogue with my daughter, we hardly talk. We've been living like strangers for a month. It's time to do something about it. But what? I can't take this position of my daughter. I believe that since we live in the same house as a family, we should behave accordingly.
What do you think about this whole situation? Who do you think is more right, mother or daughter?
We hope you will help us in this difficult situation!
I used to live with my husband, younger daughter and granddaughter three times. But two years ago, the eldest daughter Lisa and her son-in-law decided to buy their own house and asked to stay with us for a while so as not to spend money on rented apartments while they saved up for a down payment for a mortgage.
We had enough space, so we agreed to help them. And until recently, everything was fine. But a few weeks ago, I started noticing that Lisa and her son-in-law were acting strangely.
Lately, they have stopped tipping on food and eating with us at the same table. In the mornings, they were supposed to rush to work, and in the evening they came back very late, so usually we were already asleep.
Well, I thought it was young. And the truth is, they probably work from dawn to dusk and glimpse the canteens. I'm worried. I asked them to pack their lunches at least. But that was rejected.
And one day at lunch, my husband said that he saw our precious Lisonka and his brother-in-law drag packets of various delicacies into the room. And in the morning they did not even mention that they had organized a food warehouse in their bedroom.
Shortly after our conversation, this situation repeated itself. And it became clear that children do this all the time. They eat all kinds of delicacies secretly, but they do not think about sharing.
One day I couldn’t stand it and decided to talk to my daughter. I was outraged that she was hiding food from her family.
Lisa's answer surprised me! “Mom, you know we’re saving for an apartment right now. We do not have the opportunity to feed the whole family. And what you cook, do not eat, because we are used to a different diet. That's it, the daughter said unfazedly.
I had nothing to say. They really didn't touch our food. What could be the claims? Well, they ate separately, but for their own money. In the end, as for the rest of the expenses, then Lisa and her son-in-law were tipped off on equal terms.
And yet I was very offended by this unpleasant incident.
As a result, after this dialogue with my daughter, we hardly talk. We've been living like strangers for a month. It's time to do something about it. But what? I can't take this position of my daughter. I believe that since we live in the same house as a family, we should behave accordingly.
What do you think about this whole situation? Who do you think is more right, mother or daughter?
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