I support my husband for the fourth year, I do not see his salary in the eye, but today I did not stand up and demanded money.

Modern women and men perform household duties and earn on an equal basis with each other. In everyday life, it is important for partners to decide how they will manage the family budget and how much they will invest in it. When a woman provides for the family for any reason, the man performs household duties. There are no complaints against either spouse. But if the money issue has not been solved for years and one of the spouses is not satisfied with the situation, it is time to talk about it.



“I’ve been married for four years, and all this time I’m keeping my husband by default.” He's 8 years older than me, goes to work, but I don't see his salary. He was married and he and his ex-wife have a child together. But when their marriage broke up, Tolya moved to live with his parents. When I started dating him, I got the impression that he was sleeping with a colleague.



Toli has a difficult job, he is a sales manager. He is constantly nervous and sometimes he is not himself. Sometimes he just can’t be in the room next to you so as not to get hot on any occasion. My husband never cared or supported me. And when I really needed his attention and support, Tolya would pack his bags and go to his mother.



I could not live without him for a long time and asked him to come back a week later. We live in my apartment and I have never seen my husband’s money. I buy groceries and pay for the communal. And Tolik says that he is saving his money for our common dream - a house in the mountains. Whether I will ever see a house is a question.



In the winter, the utility bills came and I asked my husband to help pay them. Anatoly promised that he would help, but a month passed, and there was no help. Honestly, I'm tired of having a grown man living off of me. What if we had kids? They would have to go to work early to support their father.

At the end of the month, I asked him if he was going to pay for the house. But Tolya, instead of answering, pretended that he was very offended, and again began to pack his suitcases. I don't understand why he's doing this to me or what I've done to him. But such an attitude cannot be tolerated.”



When spouses do not come to a common denominator and do not try to solve the problem together, you have to divorce. There is no point in suffering and feeling sorry for yourself or thinking that a person will change. People don't usually change. And Tolya by his actions only proved that in any difficult situation he takes his feet. The wife sincerely tried for years to reason with her man, but he did not try to show her even a drop of respect and listen to her.



The main thing for the wife now is to gather her courage and not let the offended lazy husband on the threshold. Over time, she will realize that she does not have to pay a man to live with her. Someone will win her heart and make her happy.