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What to do if a nerd husband crosses all boundaries and stops taking care of himself
Cohabitation of spouses A real test for both of us. And if before marriage to live together for some reason did not work, then further permanent stay under one roof often leads to not the most pleasant discoveries.
It may be found that the beloved woman is a mediocre hostess who does not like to cook, and does not hurry to clean. At the same time, the young wife may realize that her beloved is still a slob, for which you need an eye and an eye. Will young people be able to go through these tests?
I met my future husband when I was barely 16. We dated for 6 years, and when I was 22, we got married. I got married because I got pregnant. We started living together, Inga says.
“What a surprise it was when I noticed strange things about my husband that I had never thought of before. He didn't shower after work, he didn't even wash his feet. He went to bed without brushing his teeth, and in the morning he did not find time for this activity. I found that the toothbrush I had bought him before moving in was still packed.
When I told him to go wash, he was walking. He didn’t take the initiative and went dirty. I was wondering how long he would last. As a result, a month passed, he did not bathe, but I could not stand it - scandalized and sent to the bathroom.
It was impossible to fix it. At least I didn't succeed. Which is weird, because I didn't see anything like that before the wedding. He always smelled good, obviously brushing his teeth.
Now I was disgusted when he was dirty and smelly and started to throw his hands off. He was also dissatisfied with me. More and more I said that I cook terrible and do everything worse than his mother.
I ended up lasting a little over a year. Even with a child in my arms, I felt better than with such a dirty husband. I still don’t understand how I didn’t notice anything in all these years while we were together.
A person is not born unclean - he becomes so if a similar example is given to him in the family. The reason may be, for example, the excessive custody of the mother, who patiently collects dirty socks for her beloved son. The attitude to order and cleanliness is often corrected by the wife, if she is not the same, says psychologist Dmitry Soroka.
“Can an unscrupulous lazy person be made a normal person? You can if you're patient. In normal relationships, husband and wife can negotiate. They act according to the formula “asked – did”. Therefore, serious conversations, during which they make concessions to each other, will help to rectify the situation step by step.
If the spouses are not able to talk, do not know how to hear criticism in their address, and instead of constructive proposals bombard each other with accusations, then it is not easy to achieve good results.
After all, it is not in vain before the wedding and the bride, and the groom is advised get to know each other well domestically. The fact that for one norm, for another may seem unacceptable. And even if there is no opportunity to live together, you should visit more often to understand how and in what conditions a person lives and what habits he has.
It may be found that the beloved woman is a mediocre hostess who does not like to cook, and does not hurry to clean. At the same time, the young wife may realize that her beloved is still a slob, for which you need an eye and an eye. Will young people be able to go through these tests?
I met my future husband when I was barely 16. We dated for 6 years, and when I was 22, we got married. I got married because I got pregnant. We started living together, Inga says.
“What a surprise it was when I noticed strange things about my husband that I had never thought of before. He didn't shower after work, he didn't even wash his feet. He went to bed without brushing his teeth, and in the morning he did not find time for this activity. I found that the toothbrush I had bought him before moving in was still packed.
When I told him to go wash, he was walking. He didn’t take the initiative and went dirty. I was wondering how long he would last. As a result, a month passed, he did not bathe, but I could not stand it - scandalized and sent to the bathroom.
It was impossible to fix it. At least I didn't succeed. Which is weird, because I didn't see anything like that before the wedding. He always smelled good, obviously brushing his teeth.
Now I was disgusted when he was dirty and smelly and started to throw his hands off. He was also dissatisfied with me. More and more I said that I cook terrible and do everything worse than his mother.
I ended up lasting a little over a year. Even with a child in my arms, I felt better than with such a dirty husband. I still don’t understand how I didn’t notice anything in all these years while we were together.
A person is not born unclean - he becomes so if a similar example is given to him in the family. The reason may be, for example, the excessive custody of the mother, who patiently collects dirty socks for her beloved son. The attitude to order and cleanliness is often corrected by the wife, if she is not the same, says psychologist Dmitry Soroka.
“Can an unscrupulous lazy person be made a normal person? You can if you're patient. In normal relationships, husband and wife can negotiate. They act according to the formula “asked – did”. Therefore, serious conversations, during which they make concessions to each other, will help to rectify the situation step by step.
If the spouses are not able to talk, do not know how to hear criticism in their address, and instead of constructive proposals bombard each other with accusations, then it is not easy to achieve good results.
After all, it is not in vain before the wedding and the bride, and the groom is advised get to know each other well domestically. The fact that for one norm, for another may seem unacceptable. And even if there is no opportunity to live together, you should visit more often to understand how and in what conditions a person lives and what habits he has.
