How to stop a man’s hobby that prevents a family from being happy

First of all, first of all, the planes, but the girls — though in this particular case we will talk about wives — as they say, then. Really, hobby It can be a cornerstone in a relationship. Wives are wondering why? Could some clunker be more important than me?



To some extent, yes, maybe. However, this is an issue that should be at least minimally understood. That editorial "Site" I would love to. We have a letter from a desperate lady, a comment from a psychologist and options. Okay.

My husband loves cars and quite often participates in all sorts of rallies. He has two foreign cars that he constantly improves in his garage and sometimes I think he forgets everything. As if he had no family, no children, no wife. We were invited to our wedding anniversary, and I wake up in the morning and he's gone. Doubts immediately crept in.



I called. Turns out, again on some kind of race. It sounds bad, he's got something roaring, yelling. I tried to remind him to go to visit. In the end, she went to the party herself, because, as usual, he did not have time to return in time. It just pisses me off sometimes. He's an adult and he's acting like a boy!

Resented him. After all, he is not a child who does not understand anything. I don't know what's going on with him? As soon as he sits in his Honda, he disconnects from the world completely. Maybe he doesn't love me anymore. Is he not interested in me? How can we ensure that such cases do not happen again? Or is it time to draw other conclusions? ?



Our psychologist hints that there is no catch here, most likely. It's manhoodIt gives you the necessary amount of adrenaline. And it does not matter what it is: a car, a motorcycle, skiing, boxing or a parachute. You need to understand that such a hobby is the only way to get thrills, to which a man is so used.

Therefore, he tends to neglect relationships, cross boundaries and break boundaries. In these moments, he feels truly free and happy and will always look for the opportunity to experience these emotions again and again. Of course, this does not mean that his wife is no longer important to him.



We insist that fighting such a hobby makes no sense. For two reasons: either the man will win, abandon his wife to exclude any encroachment on his territory, or lose and in this case will become acutely worried about his loss. In just a few months, this extinct person will not be recognized.

Obviously, this issue was already on the agenda, since the husband “runs away” without warning, so that his wife does not prevent him from getting to the rally. He prefers to settle the conflict after, rather than be left without sweets. This is the way boys behave, who are already anticipating possible delight. All socialization At this time, the spouse has already been able to watch.



If we approach the issue traditionally and consider the man as the breadwinner, and the woman as the keeper of the hearth, then a truly wise decision would be acceptance. Any attempt to delve into the topic, to try to empathize will make a wife not an enemy, but a friend. He doesn’t use his cars to hurt him.

Most likely, a man simply does not have a way to clearly explain why it is important to him. He may not be sure that his wife understands him. But if diplomatic approachYou can become that incredible woman who inspires and respects the freedom of others. I will have to ride with the wind on his Honda.



Women can rightly say this is great! Again. Family issues should be addressed by women. Mutual respect and dialogue on equal terms do not work, because the “boy” is not able to pull himself together and move his hobby a little. It is necessary to become as comfortable as possible in order to get the status of a loving wife. And to be that kind of prefix to a man.

What about personal achievement, motherhood, and a family based on partnership? The answer is simple and brutal at the same time. The wife will either win and then get the conflict, or lose and leave. Alas, a man will not show wisdom in this matter, and if nothing can be done with his attitude to such a hobby, the specter of a breakup has already materialized somewhere nearby.



Each case is individual and possibly psychopathy It could make a difference. We should not forget that relationships are not built for nothing, you need to constantly work on them. Where to smear with cement, and where to sew a thread. Be sure to share your position on this in the comments and whether the spouse should put up with such a passion of her husband.

Male hobby It’s not always a car or fishing. Someone enthusiastically composes a crossword puzzle, writes a book or plays video games. Is it stopping you from living? After you share this article with others, read another article about what qualities a real man should develop. Thank you for staying with us!