What to do if at the wedding everyone admires the mother-in-law, not the bride

Don't try to understand strangers. family values and traditions. They may be different from what you are used to. Some people in the family do not have such things. "Does that happen?" you ask. Of course, yes! Today’s history confirms this once again. We're going to tell you about a woman that many people would call a bad grandmother. Is it possible to judge a person for his approach to life?



Family values and traditions It often happens that women do not develop a relationship with their mother-in-law. On the contrary, someone is lucky in this regard. My story is quite different: we do not have these relationships at all. Let me try to explain.

My future mother-in-law had just turned 50 when we met. That day I learned that Victoria Dmitrievna works as an administrator in a beauty salon. Although her appearance could be guessed: a cold coated blonde, long eyelashes, eyebrow tattoo and bright red lipstick on the lips. She even carried out garbage with heels and makeup.



Several times a week, Victoria Dmitrievna goes on dates. And she has regular yoga classes, meetings with friends and beauty treatments. It seems that this woman even prepared for our wedding more than we did. And how they all admired her then!

After the wedding, we moved in with our mother-in-law. We spoke very rarely because she preferred to spend time away from home. She hardly cooked and never sat down with us. To be honest, I wondered if she had always behaved like that.



But Artem didn’t want to talk about it. I only found out that my father left them almost immediately after he was born. Looking at her mother-in-law right now, I'm not surprised that she might not get along with men. She looks so indifferent to everything! We have not returned to this subject.

I soon found out I was pregnant. On the eve of March 8, I was in the kitchen and cooking dinner. However, the news disheartened me so much that I felt sick. I asked my mother-in-law to help me with the cooking, but she only grinned in response: “My joy, what a cooking!” I'm running off to the corporate party, until tomorrow!



The next day she knew she was going to be a grandmother. “You are so young, where are you in a hurry? We could live for a little bit. Will you change your mind? the mother-in-law asked. Of course, that is not the answer I would like to hear. But, apparently, the grandchildren of Victoria Dmitrievna were not needed.

After the birth of a baby, our lives have hardly changed. Except the clap got bigger. My mother-in-law always disappeared somewhere, came home in the evening. I didn't approach my grandson very much. Sometimes, wave his hand and send him an air kiss - that's all grandmother's love and care.

I remember one time I had to go out to get water, and the little one didn't sleep. I go to my mother-in-law's room to ask her to sit with Vanechka. And she lies in the butterfly position on the mat with her eyes closed. I said it once and said it the second time. It turned out that Victoria Dmitrievna meditated with headphones, not up to her grandson, you know.



© Freepik And recently my mother-in-law even issued! He says I'm going to leave you and get married. She has never slept at home since. While my husband is working, I am always with the child. Vanechka is almost a year old, and he has never stayed with his grandmother for more than an hour. Is that normal?

I once asked my mother-in-law why she ignored all my requests to sit with my grandson. "I'm not your nanny. It was you who wanted a child, now and learn all the charms of parental life on your own, said Victoria Dmitrievna.



I am very sad because my mother lives far away and cannot come. Every week she sends us parcels with gifts for her grandson, dreams of seeing him. Soon he will grow up, and we will visit them. Finally, my son will know what a real grandmother should be like.

With Victoria Dmitrievna, we practically do not communicate. Her new boyfriend has already taken all her belongings out of the apartment, and she doesn't come to us. These are family values and traditions. Or rather, their total absence. Maybe you should talk to your mother-in-law again and explain to her how important it is to communicate with your little grandson.

Not all 50-year-old women want to sit at home and babysit their grandchildren. And that's totally normal! Modern people of mature years have long begun to break out of the shackles of stereotypes and live as they like. And people around them are not always ready to understand this.



I am sure that many will find the behavior of the mother-in-law of the main character strange. But let’s not forget that we are all very different. Someone’s role of grandmother inspires and delights, and someone does not need it. And you just have to accept that. not trying to change someone else. What do you think?

Have you ever experienced such situations in your family? It will be great if you share your story with us in the comments!