Who are the “Machiavellians” and how they use loved ones and friends

Our environment shapes our lives. Almost all our troubles, as well as happy moments, are connected with people. Relatives, friends, acquaintances, employees... Manipulation of people has long ceased to be something alarming. We’ve heard about her techniques and those who use them.

In small doses, manipulation comes from all of us. Even young children successfully manipulate their parents, forcing them to follow their lead. However, there are those whose actions can cause serious harm to your psyche and quality of life.



The very concept of Machiavellianism is modern. It is almost on par with personality disorders such as sociopathy and narcissism, although it is not a disorder in itself. It got its name thanks to the author of the immortal “The Prince” Niccolo Machiavelli. According to the philosopherA true ruler should not disdain any means of achieving his end, even if they are cruel and go against moral standards.



Of course, modern Machiavellians never resort to brute force. However, they enjoy and fully consciously use all other manipulative techniques. Why should Machiavellians be feared and avoided? It is quite simple: these people will do anything to achieve their goals. They don’t care about the needs and feelings of others.

What defines a Machiavellian

1. Purpose first The goals of such people can be anything. They don’t always need money or power. It could even be a relationship. For example, a guy wants to get it from a lady. attention, time and energy. Such a person will lie, flatter, and even intimidate until he gets his way.
   
   

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Ethics and morality are empty words. To the Machiavellian, our usual moral standards mean little. For example, he might Convincing the Other of Your Love And then, when it comes to deceiving, it comes down to deceiving and even enjoying it. Such people apologize only when it benefits them.

Self-justification



Such manipulators are often lie to themselvesThere is nothing wrong or wrong with their behavior. The strongest wins. If someone can be manipulated and manipulated, they deserve it.

Suspicion and wariness The Machiavellians are very large. trustlessness. They all judge by themselves and have low levels of empathy. It is difficult for them to understand that their behavior can bring incredible mental pain and hurt someone’s feelings. They rarely feel that way themselves. Often these people are characterized as those who have a “stone” heart.





You may ask, why do we fall for the tricks of such personalities, fall in love with them and go on about it? Usually this type of person charismatic It is easy to calculate the behavior of others. We can say that they are able to prepare their audience, bringing it to the right condition. You won't even notice you're being manipulated.

How to protect yourself from manipulation No one will be pleased to communicate with groundless. It is most painful when you do not notice the true essence of the Machiavellian for a long time, and then suddenly there comes the realization of the damage he has done to your mental and mental world.



The first and most important point of defense is not to be emotionally attached to such a person. A person plays with your feelings for his own benefit, nothing in your relationship is important or valuable to him.

Don’t tell them too much and open their hearts. They will use all this against you. Calmness and balance on your part are also important. Learn to refuse.Even if you really want to say yes. And if it is difficult for you, reduce all contacts and meetings.