What motivates women who are forty years old alone with their wealth?

Today there are more opportunities to find a soul mate than ever before. More and more successful women choose freedom. Is it really so hard to find a good couple? Why? rich and single women Are people around 40 less and less surprised these days?



Modern man is no longer obsessed with being married at all costs. He cares about the quality of the relationship. And if the existing union does not give him the necessary emotions, love, protection and other pleasant bonuses, then the thoughts of divorce and further free life will haunt him with a frightening frequency.



Modern active and financially secure women easier to decide on divorce than their mothers and grandmothers in their time. And even the risk of being lonely is becoming less and less frightening today. But is it that simple?

“By flaunting loneliness, many women try in vain to drown out despair, longing and the fading hope of finding a worthy partner. And internal contradictions only prevent a woman to understand what she really wants, says psychologist Irina Zemtseva.



The expert believes that the problem always lies in the past. Having a bad experience behind her shoulders, a woman often harbors resentment and anger, suffers from guilt. This pushes her to loneliness, a safe path in which the experience will not be repeated.

And yet the past does not let go. Therefore, many single They focus their love on their children. They see a child as someone who will never betray them. But this only harms the growing young man, makes him dependent on the parent.

“Once in adulthood, such a child fails both at work and in his personal life. The intransigence, incompatibility and rebelliousness that he had to go through in childhood and adolescence remain with him for a long time. And the mother, who will be unbearable the very thought of leaving the child, will strongly support his antics and feed addiction, agrees psychologist Marielle Garel.



Often behind the loneliness of a strong and professionally successful woman hides the dream of an ideal family. But what prevents you from realizing this dream at least partially?

Experts spread their hands and note that modern women aged 20-30 years are in no hurry. They feel more like teenagers than real women. In their personal lives, they are looking for friends or passionate lovers, but not a companion for the rest of their lives.

And only by the age of 35 there is an anxiety that you need to urgently look for a perfect man. By the age of 40 you need to have children. Therefore, the requirements for a potential candidate are only growing. He must not only be a perfect husband, but also a responsible father.



The problem is that every woman would want a strong, prominent, financially secure man. A beautiful man who is not ashamed to introduce his parents and friends. But dreams, which can be understood at the age of 25, in a 40-year-old woman speak more of her infantility.

“Successful women, like fairy tale heroines, prepare their chosen ones for trials. To hold an important position, to be rich, healthy and physically attractive. But in life there is rarely a place for fairy tales. And men often fail such an exam, laments Marielle Garel.

And then, being alone, a woman will try to prove to herself and others that this is only her choice. Although some of the requirements for a potential suitor she was forced by society, the environment, fears. Therefore, loneliness is not only her “merit”.



What to do and is it possible to find peace of mind? There is always a way out, but to find balance, you have to try hard. Deal with your fears, reconsider your demands, and honestly acknowledge your hopes and desires. And only then try to build a personal life, fighting off annoying advisers and well-wishers.