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What's Attractive to Men in Hysterical Women
The Difficulties of Love
In my practice there were several patients of the Eternal Princes who were in love with tantrums and could not leave them, although they knew that such a relationship would not lead to anything good. One of these men from a successful businessman turned into the servant and driver of the hysterical Sweet Siren, his whole business fell into disrepair, as all the time he devoted to her and her whims. This story led me to explore this kind of relationship.
If you know the reason for this attraction, you can avoid it and save many worthy men from connection with a tantrum. After a couple of years of such relationships, a man turns into an exhausted old man who brings suffering not only to himself, but also to his loved ones.
Let us begin with the definition of the concept of hysteria, which includes a complex of diseases and related conditions. These include neurosis, psychosis, psychopathy and accentuation. All states of hysteria are closely associated with deep psychologically traumatic memories and experiences, with the structure of the personality, with violent, intensified and dependent on the composition of the public manifestations of symptoms of hysteria. It is often noted that the patient can behave more actively and hysterically with doctors, but in the environment of ordinary people become like a healthy person.
Doctors often think that such people are pretending and acting out the play, so they do not need treatment. Doctors should always remember – these people are really sick and they need treatment, so if they do not have enough strength to cope with them, it is better to transfer the patient to another professional, but in any case do not refuse help.
Hysterical psychosis manifests itself very clearly and acutely, concomitant symptoms - seizures, nervous movements, stupor. It is based on the strongest psychological trauma. Surrounding immediately it becomes clear that in front of them is a sick person, so a doctor is immediately called. Neurosis is similar to psychosis, it is also based on trauma, but in addition to external manifestations, it can also have neurological, somatic, vegetative, and any other symptoms. That is, such a person can complain of various pains, consult doctors of different directions.
With psychopathy and accentuation, you can see the same signs, but the degree of psychopathy leads to problems with society. At the same time, the nature of accentuation depends on the environment in which the patient falls. If the environment is positive, then a person can develop in it, for example, if the accentuator becomes an actor, then his characteristics and abilities for reincarnation will help in career growth. If he chooses a field of activity that is completely inappropriate for his features – exact science, activities related to the economy and money, then he will be haunted by breakdowns and attacks.
Now, in general, sketch a portrait of a hysterical personality. The main symptoms of hysterical disorders are emotional unformedness, highly developed egocentrism and egoism, physical and psychological infantilism. A person is characterized by rapid and sharp emotional excitability, instability of reactions to stimuli.
The temperature of such an individual is characterized by great activity and reactivity, the strongest sensitivity. The reaction rate is greatly increased. Such a person shows an amazing plasticity of character, sometimes it reaches the point that at different moments in life, absolutely opposite personalities appear in one.
An individual may sometimes be like an overly sociable extrovert, all of his character expressions contradict each other, his thoughts and actions are inconsistent. Psychological immaturity pushes him to react and make decisions depending on the prevailing emotions, life beliefs are shallow and unstable, he easily succumbs to other people's opinions, often fantasizes a lot. Such people have an increased degree of selfishness, they are fixated on themselves and capricious, can be arrogant. They love it when they get a lot of attention and want it. Individuals may be characterized by chronic lies and myth-making.
All interests and moods of hysterical individuals are absolutely unstable and depend on the current situation.
Their main goal, which is interesting to them, is to saturate their egoistic thirst for attention and self-admiration. From this goal comes their infantile behavior. All emotional and exciting stories of friendship or love occur instantly, surprising in its sharpness and brightness, but soon fading. It is difficult for hysterics to truly fulfill their specific social role, so they can simply put on masks. If the mask meets all the egoistic requirements, then the patient is so comfortable in it that even others can take it for a real person.
All these traits are characteristic of the “Sweet Sirens”, but they have a particularly pronounced temperamental hyperplasticity, they can be delighted with their victim. Sirens are so plastic in behavior that they seem to envelop their victim – they adapt to her character and habits.
That is why they seem so attractive to a man at the beginning of a relationship – it creates a feeling of the one who will understand and accept everything. Usually, the Sirens’ victims are promising and young Princes who do not yet have the necessary experience to recognize hysteria.
The admiration of the Sirens is unthinkable, they really admire the victim, see her potential and opportunities, support in all endeavors. Sincere help and delight lulls the vigilance of the victim, who does not even suspect a catch. Often the man in response also begins to feel delighted about the Serena. All friends and deeds become less important than the time spent with Serena.
And at some point, the development of a man begins to slow down, career growth stops, and Serena immediately moves to a new promising young man. And the former victim remains in a depressing situation, with a sense of despair and pain. It happens that men after this and do not recover and lead an unsightly life. Others recover and recover for a long time. Sometimes the victim's feelings escalate into drug love, and they don't see the meaning of existence without Serena. This behavior requires special treatment and help.
All actions performed by Sweet Sirena are unconscious, so do not condemn her, she really needs treatment. Her hyperplasticity forces her to envelop the victim, surround her, so that after parting she can no longer become the same. Sirens are all constantly helping in career success, they never reach the top steps, and remain in second place.
Now it became clearer to us that men love hysterics for the fact that they have a complete feeling that they have found a single soul mate for themselves. In the continuation of the relationship, they constantly expect Serena to become what she was in the beginning. But the longer it goes, the more hope fades. And as a result, the man turns into a tired old man, perhaps even with any diseases. After such a relationship, you need a recovery course from a therapist and a desire to forget Serena. published
Author: Mikhail Litvak
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: litvak.me/statyi/article_post/pochemu-muzhchiny-lyubyat-isterichek
In my practice there were several patients of the Eternal Princes who were in love with tantrums and could not leave them, although they knew that such a relationship would not lead to anything good. One of these men from a successful businessman turned into the servant and driver of the hysterical Sweet Siren, his whole business fell into disrepair, as all the time he devoted to her and her whims. This story led me to explore this kind of relationship.
If you know the reason for this attraction, you can avoid it and save many worthy men from connection with a tantrum. After a couple of years of such relationships, a man turns into an exhausted old man who brings suffering not only to himself, but also to his loved ones.
Let us begin with the definition of the concept of hysteria, which includes a complex of diseases and related conditions. These include neurosis, psychosis, psychopathy and accentuation. All states of hysteria are closely associated with deep psychologically traumatic memories and experiences, with the structure of the personality, with violent, intensified and dependent on the composition of the public manifestations of symptoms of hysteria. It is often noted that the patient can behave more actively and hysterically with doctors, but in the environment of ordinary people become like a healthy person.
Doctors often think that such people are pretending and acting out the play, so they do not need treatment. Doctors should always remember – these people are really sick and they need treatment, so if they do not have enough strength to cope with them, it is better to transfer the patient to another professional, but in any case do not refuse help.
Hysterical psychosis manifests itself very clearly and acutely, concomitant symptoms - seizures, nervous movements, stupor. It is based on the strongest psychological trauma. Surrounding immediately it becomes clear that in front of them is a sick person, so a doctor is immediately called. Neurosis is similar to psychosis, it is also based on trauma, but in addition to external manifestations, it can also have neurological, somatic, vegetative, and any other symptoms. That is, such a person can complain of various pains, consult doctors of different directions.
With psychopathy and accentuation, you can see the same signs, but the degree of psychopathy leads to problems with society. At the same time, the nature of accentuation depends on the environment in which the patient falls. If the environment is positive, then a person can develop in it, for example, if the accentuator becomes an actor, then his characteristics and abilities for reincarnation will help in career growth. If he chooses a field of activity that is completely inappropriate for his features – exact science, activities related to the economy and money, then he will be haunted by breakdowns and attacks.
Now, in general, sketch a portrait of a hysterical personality. The main symptoms of hysterical disorders are emotional unformedness, highly developed egocentrism and egoism, physical and psychological infantilism. A person is characterized by rapid and sharp emotional excitability, instability of reactions to stimuli.
The temperature of such an individual is characterized by great activity and reactivity, the strongest sensitivity. The reaction rate is greatly increased. Such a person shows an amazing plasticity of character, sometimes it reaches the point that at different moments in life, absolutely opposite personalities appear in one.
An individual may sometimes be like an overly sociable extrovert, all of his character expressions contradict each other, his thoughts and actions are inconsistent. Psychological immaturity pushes him to react and make decisions depending on the prevailing emotions, life beliefs are shallow and unstable, he easily succumbs to other people's opinions, often fantasizes a lot. Such people have an increased degree of selfishness, they are fixated on themselves and capricious, can be arrogant. They love it when they get a lot of attention and want it. Individuals may be characterized by chronic lies and myth-making.
All interests and moods of hysterical individuals are absolutely unstable and depend on the current situation.
Their main goal, which is interesting to them, is to saturate their egoistic thirst for attention and self-admiration. From this goal comes their infantile behavior. All emotional and exciting stories of friendship or love occur instantly, surprising in its sharpness and brightness, but soon fading. It is difficult for hysterics to truly fulfill their specific social role, so they can simply put on masks. If the mask meets all the egoistic requirements, then the patient is so comfortable in it that even others can take it for a real person.
All these traits are characteristic of the “Sweet Sirens”, but they have a particularly pronounced temperamental hyperplasticity, they can be delighted with their victim. Sirens are so plastic in behavior that they seem to envelop their victim – they adapt to her character and habits.
That is why they seem so attractive to a man at the beginning of a relationship – it creates a feeling of the one who will understand and accept everything. Usually, the Sirens’ victims are promising and young Princes who do not yet have the necessary experience to recognize hysteria.
The admiration of the Sirens is unthinkable, they really admire the victim, see her potential and opportunities, support in all endeavors. Sincere help and delight lulls the vigilance of the victim, who does not even suspect a catch. Often the man in response also begins to feel delighted about the Serena. All friends and deeds become less important than the time spent with Serena.
And at some point, the development of a man begins to slow down, career growth stops, and Serena immediately moves to a new promising young man. And the former victim remains in a depressing situation, with a sense of despair and pain. It happens that men after this and do not recover and lead an unsightly life. Others recover and recover for a long time. Sometimes the victim's feelings escalate into drug love, and they don't see the meaning of existence without Serena. This behavior requires special treatment and help.
All actions performed by Sweet Sirena are unconscious, so do not condemn her, she really needs treatment. Her hyperplasticity forces her to envelop the victim, surround her, so that after parting she can no longer become the same. Sirens are all constantly helping in career success, they never reach the top steps, and remain in second place.
Now it became clearer to us that men love hysterics for the fact that they have a complete feeling that they have found a single soul mate for themselves. In the continuation of the relationship, they constantly expect Serena to become what she was in the beginning. But the longer it goes, the more hope fades. And as a result, the man turns into a tired old man, perhaps even with any diseases. After such a relationship, you need a recovery course from a therapist and a desire to forget Serena. published
Author: Mikhail Litvak
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: litvak.me/statyi/article_post/pochemu-muzhchiny-lyubyat-isterichek
