The 10 commandments of an experienced father of two children

Designer Nikita Ivanov told about the rules that help him to raise two kids.

The editors of Website with the permission of the author decided to share these magical tips.

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Restrictions should also apply to security and personal freedom of other people. Articulate them clearly and simply. With everything else let the child experiment freely.

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Punishment is known in advance, inevitable and predictable. Unclear causal relationship shakes the nerves of children and parents. The parent screams and a fierce expression on his face is the symptoms that adults have to run to a psychiatrist.

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Mom and dad always together. If the mother is punished, the Pope does not negate the punishment. This does not mean that parents do not love the child. It's just punishment for the offense.

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To be senior means new opportunities, not new responsibilities. The eldest child never say that he is older and therefore needs something. It's ruining his childhood and relationship with his younger brothers and sisters. He did not have to, because against their will the first born.

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Children are the mirror of the parents. Than hysterical, and restless behavior of the child, the calmer and more consistent adult should behave. Children copy adults, they are looking for an example for behavior and imitation.

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Scaring children is impossible. Generally never does. Forget the stories about how mommy won't love the police take away, the neighbor will come and get in trouble. It cripples children.

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Do not compare children. If you wish the children happiness, not high marks, they all this stuff is not needed. Alignment with the other breaks people's brains and confidence. Black belt is when you don't even want to say, "You're the best!". Because "the best" — comparison, yeah :—)

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Let's choice and learn to listen to their desires. Indecisive and unhappy adults grow out of children, for whom everything is decided in childhood and not asking what they want. You can choose almost everything: cereal, toys, cartoon, clothes, plan for the weekend.

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"Do so" — does not work. Personal example — is gradually starting to work. Let the child inspired by your deeds and actions, not doing something by force.

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Love is not part of the deal. The parents love the child, not for achievements or good behavior. They just love, without conditions.

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Illustrator Dinara Galieva specifically for the Website


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