How to manage your emotions Bashny.Net

Emotions often do not originate there, not the same, then when you need to or not with the desired intensity.

Not always the usual response is the most appropriate response, sometimes emotions can hurt other people.

When we are overwhelmed with emotions, I think is much worse than in a calm state. Sometimes you just need to relax, and the extra emotions then anything.





Developed personality to be able to control your emotions is useful, and the ability to control emotions – education. It educated people differ from uneducated in the first place so that he is able to manage their emotions even where it is difficult and not desirable.

A fully developed person in control of his emotions, able to manage their emotions and attitudes, able to control himself.

In usual situations the desired emotions run directly, as direct and natural as raise hand: to raise (or lower) right hand, you do not need special methods and techniques. You just raise your hand and just let it go. So simply you wonder, when you need it, and change the surprise on a warm care when you need care.

 

How to manage your emotions, if necessary?

Watch your face. Keep calm face

The most important "recipe" is so simple that many it's annoying:

"To remove unnecessary emotion, just get the wrong person. Fix eyes and lips. The main thing — to do it right until the emotion has not yet unwound".

If you are able to do — the intensity of emotions at once subsides. If you find this difficult — train skill calm presence.

Life skill calm presence is one of the simplest and most effective ways to manage emotions. The Indians know how to control their emotions because they are able to keep a calm face. Recruit training in the army begins with the rack "Attention!" and other numerous procedures and rituals targeted, including the development of a peaceful presence. Recruits — these are ordinary children, for them to wriggle and rattle, so they tend to be afraid, offended and upset. The army teaches them to keep calm face, and through it — to manage their emotions, to be able to keep self-control and fortitude in the most difficult and responsible situations.

 

Follow the breath

The change in the force and rhythm of breathing almost instantly change the emotional state. If you need to calm down, then start to do a relaxed inhale and exhale. When you need to raise the energy enough to do energeticara exercise. Someone arranges a mini-workout of karate, someone uses special yogic exercises — the essence of all one: these exercises are accompanied by a strong pungent exhalations.

 

Manage your thoughts

Our thoughts direct our attention.

• If we pay attention to the bright side of life — we run a positive state.
• If the attention with thoughts chained to the troubles of the real or potential — is more likely to occur negative.

 

The wisdom is not not to see the difficulties of life, and to relate to them constructively: to remove the position of the victim and problems translate into tasks.

If negative thoughts going round and round they need to be stopped. How? Best switching to other, more positive thoughts, and do it better for reliability out loud. Talk to him out loud — Yes, it is sometimes necessary. Other options are to switch itself on bright, positive images — to imagine rainbows, beautiful flowers... usually women and children it helps.

Another big job — to work with the beliefs that are behind the majority of emotional reactions.

 

The keys of emotion

In many situations people are driven by their emotions, not noticing how they're doing, even if used to start or stop emotions special keys emotions.

The simplest and most effective key emotion is facial expression and body figure: if you came to visit and you need to Express your sincere joy, you begin to welcome them joyfully, lovingly care for them, perhaps they will embrace, and your face will be alive, warm and open: almost immediately after that, you can already feel a sincere joy.

Most people explains that it's "because people are nice", not realizing that the real reason

1) they can run the kinesthetic cues of emotions

2) to share with guests with positive emotions, supporting and eliciting each other.

On the contrary, the onset of the perturbation until it untwisted, it is easy to remove only what you relax your face, breathe out, reduce the volume of their utterances, to mitigate your language and especially your tone.

Who wants to, he will always find a way to elevate or change their mood, remove unnecessary emotion, or set yourself on a particular case. To meet friends, to include the cheerful music, shopping, elementary... sleep — a lotof household and at the same time effective ways to improve mood known to everyone.

In addition to household ways to change your state, there are many special exercises. It's autogenic training, control of the intensity of emotions, the Key Aliyev and many others.

However, to manage their own condition, in most cases do not need knowledge of special techniques, and the timely and careful use of that Arsenal, which is known to all and always at hand. The main thing — desire and training.





Difficulty in managing emotions

Managing emotions should not be presented as a particularly difficult task, but it is impossible to simplify. In fact, your emotions can not control everything, and not all emotions can be controlled in principle. The ability to control himself in difficult situations is a separate task that requires special knowledge.

The task of managing emotions is usually difficult because it put people who have already missed the moment of occurrence of emotions, in failing to warn of this occurrence, failing to warn of the actions of others, created them these emotions. In this case, if person becomes more active, leadership position and starts their own and others emotions itself before it will pour down waves of foreign emotions, he did not need to control their emotions. He was ahead and in control of himself.

Whether or not a person can manage their emotions, the person is easy to determine just by looking at his body.

• If the human body is assembled and quiet, probably a person owns their emotions.
• If the body rasklapanje, hands and feet and facial expression and walking casually as if on their own (it happens), the person is likely to your emotions to monitor and control not used.
• Even worse, if the body is very tense, when the body stiffness or General body "rattles".

 

"Rattling" occurs when the uncontrolled voltage running through the body, resulting in a close look will notice the twitching of the shoulders, fingers, lips, muscles under the eyes... to remove the "rattling", train a calm presence. This is one of the most important conditions controlling emotions.

Another prerequisite of managing emotions — the ability to confidently relax in a variety of conditions and circumstances habit to follow the peaceful state of his body. This is a skill you can develop, exercise gives excellent results.

List other skills, without which the emotion management impossible or difficult:

• The ability to control your attention. In particular, to draw their attention to what is needed, and distract yourself from unnecessary.
• The development of facial expressions training facial expressions and gestures, the use of a rich set of timbres of the voice.
• The development of imagination, the ability to believe what just have the ability to act "as if", to immerse himself "in the alleged circumstances".
• Control of the breath. The ability to control your breathing, the ability to play with your breath, the ability to calm or energize yourself with different types of breathing.

 

And one of the most curious points in the management of emotions is the realization of the domestic benefits in particular seems to be a negative for us emotional States. As a rule, people do not realize that this anger or resentment, or fear, this terrible disorder, this hysteria or suddenly all tiredness is not really a "natural reaction", and our not quite conscious personal choice, beneficial to us in this situation and deals with all our different tasks.And yet you do not realize now WHY you are experiencing what you are experiencing, attempt to remove the state will be ineffective: only distracted, the status will immediately return to you again.

Is it easy to catch the inner spring that makes us stick to the usual experience, is it possible to "catch" their own internal benefit? Trained people are accustomed to honesty with yourself, keep track of the internal benefit of your emotions without much difficulty, the majority in this case requires the assistance of a psychologist.

Total: your emotions can not control everything. Not all emotions can be controlled in principle. But their ability to control emotions, you can develop, if you set yourself such a task. Learning to manage emotions can by themselves or refer to specialists in specialized centres. In the latter case, it is important that the experts were highly qualified, and the center — the test of time. published

 

Author: N. And. Goats

 

P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©

Source: www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/kak_upravlyat_svoimi_emociyami_vop_zn_