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As you appreciate others: 2 main criteria
At the first meeting with you people are quick to answer 2 questions:
— Can you trust this man?
— Can you respect this person?
Psychologists call these 2 dimensions sincerity and competence, respectively, and ideally you want people to perceive you as having both.
Interestingly, most people, especially in a professional context, I think the more important factor of competence. In the end, because they want to prove that smart and talented enough to handle it.
But really, warmth or trust to the person, reliability is the most important factor in evaluating you for some other people.
From an evolutionary point of view, more critical to our survival is knowledge worth if this person is our trust? Imagine a caveman in those days was much more important time to understand whether your brother to kill you and seize your property than how from the expert in the maintenance of fire, etc.
Competence may be valued highly, but only after trust is established. Therefore, the excessive demonstration of your strengths can give the opposite effect.
In life, people often get hung up so much that they considered clever and competent that they begin to ignore social events to reject help and withdraw from others, demonstrating their superiority. Alas, all these overachieving often awaits a rude awakening to reality when they don't get what they want in life and work, as nobody really knows, and doesn't trust them as human beings.
If people don't trust you, no matter how you try to influence them to demonstrate their advantages, you will not go far. In fact, you will only arouse suspicion, as people will feel that you are trying to manipulate them.
Warm, reliable and at the same time a strong man is admired, but only when a trust is established, your strength becomes a gift, not a threat.published
Also interesting: Something called TRUST
Have some respect for yourself
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: larkin-donkey.livejournal.com/204315.html
— Can you trust this man?
— Can you respect this person?
Psychologists call these 2 dimensions sincerity and competence, respectively, and ideally you want people to perceive you as having both.
Interestingly, most people, especially in a professional context, I think the more important factor of competence. In the end, because they want to prove that smart and talented enough to handle it.
But really, warmth or trust to the person, reliability is the most important factor in evaluating you for some other people.
From an evolutionary point of view, more critical to our survival is knowledge worth if this person is our trust? Imagine a caveman in those days was much more important time to understand whether your brother to kill you and seize your property than how from the expert in the maintenance of fire, etc.
Competence may be valued highly, but only after trust is established. Therefore, the excessive demonstration of your strengths can give the opposite effect.
In life, people often get hung up so much that they considered clever and competent that they begin to ignore social events to reject help and withdraw from others, demonstrating their superiority. Alas, all these overachieving often awaits a rude awakening to reality when they don't get what they want in life and work, as nobody really knows, and doesn't trust them as human beings.
If people don't trust you, no matter how you try to influence them to demonstrate their advantages, you will not go far. In fact, you will only arouse suspicion, as people will feel that you are trying to manipulate them.
Warm, reliable and at the same time a strong man is admired, but only when a trust is established, your strength becomes a gift, not a threat.published
Also interesting: Something called TRUST
Have some respect for yourself
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: larkin-donkey.livejournal.com/204315.html
