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Don't blame me. Guilt lies on your bed
If you have ever experienced betrayal, you know how painful it is. The thought of being cheated on burns your gut while wounding your heart. The first person to ask questions is, of course, mistress. A terrible woman, a devil who ruined her family. Why did you do that? Why?
The next question is, did your spouse love you at all? Were the words of love he told you true? Someone meets this news with a straight back, but in complete ignorance, and someone has been following her husband for months and has repeatedly suspected infidelity.
And after the betrayal, everyone lives differently. There are women who find the strength to forgive and understand their spouse. And there are women who at the cellular level do not tolerate infidelity. They will not forgive, they will not understand, they will drive away, they will also try to take revenge.
Some will take revenge not only on him.
After the first “anaphylactic shock”, when everything calms down a little, women begin to actively think about “the one that...”. Avoid harsh epithets. Who is she? Does she know he has a wife? Why did she destroy our family? I wonder if he loves her?
Very often, another woman becomes an idealized image, even if we know her. She may be a sister, a friend, or a random girl from a bar. Sometimes a deceived woman feels the need to find a separation to “look shameless into her eyes.” Not so much to show myself as to find out what is in her that is not in me.
But that's not enough. It is necessary to find the extreme, or rather, the extreme. Then, of course, we begin to blame either this woman or ourselves. Especially if the spouse prays for forgiveness, and does not leave, silently collecting things. And then there is a reasonable excuse: It is not him, and she is to blame for everything. She's a man.
The truth is that all people are born with free will. Whatever his mistress may be, you can't take the blame off someone who's been tempted to change. It doesn't matter what condition he was in. He made a decision, conscious or not conscious. After all, he's not a bully, he's a man.
She's just a woman.
Accept that fact. She's a woman who could have been lied to, too. Lie that he has no wife or that his wife is a monster. These tales are so easy to believe.Rarely do cheaters admit to their mistresses that he has a beautiful family and two children, and he sleeps with her because he wants peppers.
So, The unfaithful husband is the only active and conscious participant in this drama. As they say, he knew what he was doing. So it’s worth considering: if he surrendered so easily to her, wouldn’t any other woman besiege him at any other time?
9 Laws of Happiness
What it means to forgive
A traitor cannot be forgiven without putting his guilt first. Only if he admits that he is to blame and you see a genuine desire to start with a clean slate is it really worth it!published
Source: marketium.ru/izmena-ne-vinite/
The next question is, did your spouse love you at all? Were the words of love he told you true? Someone meets this news with a straight back, but in complete ignorance, and someone has been following her husband for months and has repeatedly suspected infidelity.
And after the betrayal, everyone lives differently. There are women who find the strength to forgive and understand their spouse. And there are women who at the cellular level do not tolerate infidelity. They will not forgive, they will not understand, they will drive away, they will also try to take revenge.
Some will take revenge not only on him.
After the first “anaphylactic shock”, when everything calms down a little, women begin to actively think about “the one that...”. Avoid harsh epithets. Who is she? Does she know he has a wife? Why did she destroy our family? I wonder if he loves her?
Very often, another woman becomes an idealized image, even if we know her. She may be a sister, a friend, or a random girl from a bar. Sometimes a deceived woman feels the need to find a separation to “look shameless into her eyes.” Not so much to show myself as to find out what is in her that is not in me.
But that's not enough. It is necessary to find the extreme, or rather, the extreme. Then, of course, we begin to blame either this woman or ourselves. Especially if the spouse prays for forgiveness, and does not leave, silently collecting things. And then there is a reasonable excuse: It is not him, and she is to blame for everything. She's a man.
The truth is that all people are born with free will. Whatever his mistress may be, you can't take the blame off someone who's been tempted to change. It doesn't matter what condition he was in. He made a decision, conscious or not conscious. After all, he's not a bully, he's a man.
She's just a woman.
Accept that fact. She's a woman who could have been lied to, too. Lie that he has no wife or that his wife is a monster. These tales are so easy to believe.Rarely do cheaters admit to their mistresses that he has a beautiful family and two children, and he sleeps with her because he wants peppers.
So, The unfaithful husband is the only active and conscious participant in this drama. As they say, he knew what he was doing. So it’s worth considering: if he surrendered so easily to her, wouldn’t any other woman besiege him at any other time?
9 Laws of Happiness
What it means to forgive
A traitor cannot be forgiven without putting his guilt first. Only if he admits that he is to blame and you see a genuine desire to start with a clean slate is it really worth it!published
Source: marketium.ru/izmena-ne-vinite/
