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It's biology, nothing personal: the Hormones responsible for the duration of family relations
You probably think that your strong and happy marriage are bound to mutual attraction, love and respect, shared partner values. Yes, we all know that the origin of love the chemistry of hormones. What is the chemical formula of a long marriage?
Dawn Maslar, Professor of biology, explains what happens in the human body when he is in love when he looks at their children and how to raise the fallen level of hormones responsible for the cooling of feelings.
Honeymoon length in two years
"When a person falls in love, the brain simply "intoxicated" happy hormones and it lasts about two years, says Maslar. — Serotonin levels may drop — and then you're just dying to be near your beloved day and night, this is the period when you can neither eat nor sleep without your lover". And remember that folk wisdom about "saw the eyes that were taken" in this case was complete bullshit.
The eyes do not see, ears cannot hear, the brain did not think. You are even ready to tattoo the name of their beloved on the forehead. The amygdala in the brain — time, warning us about the possible stupid things off. "How have you not seen what he is man? Can't you draw conclusions after the case?" — Sometimes you can hear years later. Did the findings, because under the influence of hormones, the function of the ventromedial prefrontal cortex of the brain, which must analyze "whether this person is" depressed. That is, at this point, "no brains".
When he fell testosterone
When people answered each other's back, began to meet, the level of testosterone in men decreases. This is the moment when he removes the account from the Dating site, refuses to meet with other women and generally no longer involved in the competition of the males. He found his chosen one, and all the rest he was not interested, because testosterone inhibits oxytocin — the bonding hormone, the decrease of testosterone, conversely, contributes to the emergence of an increasingly close relationship between partners. And it doesn't matter when the infamous "stamp in the passport" or not.
Ovulation — a factor in attractiveness
Yes, ovulation makes women more attractive and desirable. But what about the pregnancy, you say? After all, for 9 months, ovulation does not occur? Really — all? No, during pregnancy in women and, consequently, in men, increases the level of oxytocin. Therefore, the relationship grows stronger.
Children — not a hindrance
The appearance of the children — it's a blast of oxytocin. Therefore, from a chemical point of view, they are another factor of family togetherness. Otherwise, if not because of the chemistry of hormones, the family can remain together in conditions when the normal sleep, sex, and generally a clear mind impossible?
"Sex is just a part of life together, for her passion and dopamine," says Maslar. And dopamine is produced when you normally eat, sleep and exercise. That is, it is difficult with infants.
Most interesting is that the gender of the child affects the level of oxytocin in the body of his father. If a boy is born, oxytocin is increased, but not much. And if you are a girl then he can go overboard. Maslar believes that this is a biological defense mechanism, a male less aggressive and more attached to his wife and daughter.
Talk about it
And when starts the "bad" phase in this cycle of hormones?
"The level of hormones responsible for family happiness, is reduced to the 10-year anniversary of living together. If you have crossed that line — the hormones begin to grow again," says Maslar. But only because having lived so much in the marriage, you both become more responsible, ethically correct and tolerant, but this behavior again causes a rise in oxytocin.
What to do if hormones don't want to go off-scale?
Talk to one another. About anything. Because if you were not husband and wife, roommates, in women decreases the level of oxytocin, while men just lowers testosterone. The result is both depressed.
But the conversations really help, judging by the experiment, Maslar: "We conducted an interesting experiment with couples who during the long years of marriage are no longer interested in each other sexually. We have one group of women given drops with oxytocin and asked to talk with their husbands about sex and relationships. Another group of women we were not given oxytocin, they were just talking with partners. The results were equally positive in both groups!". published
Also interesting: 3 unexpected benefits of marriage
Love the eyes or the soul
Source: womo.ua/eto-biologiya-nichego-lichnogo-gormonyi-otvetstvennyi-za-dlitelnost-semeynyih-otnosheniy/
Dawn Maslar, Professor of biology, explains what happens in the human body when he is in love when he looks at their children and how to raise the fallen level of hormones responsible for the cooling of feelings.
Honeymoon length in two years
"When a person falls in love, the brain simply "intoxicated" happy hormones and it lasts about two years, says Maslar. — Serotonin levels may drop — and then you're just dying to be near your beloved day and night, this is the period when you can neither eat nor sleep without your lover". And remember that folk wisdom about "saw the eyes that were taken" in this case was complete bullshit.
The eyes do not see, ears cannot hear, the brain did not think. You are even ready to tattoo the name of their beloved on the forehead. The amygdala in the brain — time, warning us about the possible stupid things off. "How have you not seen what he is man? Can't you draw conclusions after the case?" — Sometimes you can hear years later. Did the findings, because under the influence of hormones, the function of the ventromedial prefrontal cortex of the brain, which must analyze "whether this person is" depressed. That is, at this point, "no brains".
When he fell testosterone
When people answered each other's back, began to meet, the level of testosterone in men decreases. This is the moment when he removes the account from the Dating site, refuses to meet with other women and generally no longer involved in the competition of the males. He found his chosen one, and all the rest he was not interested, because testosterone inhibits oxytocin — the bonding hormone, the decrease of testosterone, conversely, contributes to the emergence of an increasingly close relationship between partners. And it doesn't matter when the infamous "stamp in the passport" or not.
Ovulation — a factor in attractiveness
Yes, ovulation makes women more attractive and desirable. But what about the pregnancy, you say? After all, for 9 months, ovulation does not occur? Really — all? No, during pregnancy in women and, consequently, in men, increases the level of oxytocin. Therefore, the relationship grows stronger.
Children — not a hindrance
The appearance of the children — it's a blast of oxytocin. Therefore, from a chemical point of view, they are another factor of family togetherness. Otherwise, if not because of the chemistry of hormones, the family can remain together in conditions when the normal sleep, sex, and generally a clear mind impossible?
"Sex is just a part of life together, for her passion and dopamine," says Maslar. And dopamine is produced when you normally eat, sleep and exercise. That is, it is difficult with infants.
Most interesting is that the gender of the child affects the level of oxytocin in the body of his father. If a boy is born, oxytocin is increased, but not much. And if you are a girl then he can go overboard. Maslar believes that this is a biological defense mechanism, a male less aggressive and more attached to his wife and daughter.
Talk about it
And when starts the "bad" phase in this cycle of hormones?
"The level of hormones responsible for family happiness, is reduced to the 10-year anniversary of living together. If you have crossed that line — the hormones begin to grow again," says Maslar. But only because having lived so much in the marriage, you both become more responsible, ethically correct and tolerant, but this behavior again causes a rise in oxytocin.
What to do if hormones don't want to go off-scale?
Talk to one another. About anything. Because if you were not husband and wife, roommates, in women decreases the level of oxytocin, while men just lowers testosterone. The result is both depressed.
But the conversations really help, judging by the experiment, Maslar: "We conducted an interesting experiment with couples who during the long years of marriage are no longer interested in each other sexually. We have one group of women given drops with oxytocin and asked to talk with their husbands about sex and relationships. Another group of women we were not given oxytocin, they were just talking with partners. The results were equally positive in both groups!". published
Also interesting: 3 unexpected benefits of marriage
Love the eyes or the soul
Source: womo.ua/eto-biologiya-nichego-lichnogo-gormonyi-otvetstvennyi-za-dlitelnost-semeynyih-otnosheniy/