How to put in "the fifth corner" and there is not to die Bashny.Net

It's about how we do complicate your life, ruin relationships, reduce their self-esteem, disappointed in business and work are undermining health.

 

1. Faith in its stability

How much we sometimes give tribute to our narcissism and pride, believing that pravoslaven all. Set interesting challenges, test your strength, and terribly proud of this feat.

— Are you sure you want to be a workhorse?

 

2. Zaslushivanie to the disease

How do we test your nerves and health on strength, pressing himself to the Redline. Can't stop until, while a medical thermometer shows 50°, or even with an oblique bony is already booming in the stairwell.

— You really ashamed to take care of yourself and you think this is weakness?



 

3. The bribery to own importance

What an interesting way and others play on our ego need words, and how we're bought! Sense of self-worth and importance to suck up our ego and leaves us no choice to say "No" because "no one else will!".

— You believe that only You can and must take the rap?

 

4. The threat is important

How many times do we hear these words about "urgent!", "very important!", and it may sound at any time of the day, even with deadline "yesterday". Report, project estimates,... And we rush to his chest on the tank "important", and no matter what we have going on.

You, in fact, agree with this whip?

 

5. Trap of interpersonal relations

Friendship at work is the most insidious demon of exploitation. It is hard to deny the fact who yesterday drank tea together and listened to how hard it is and not just. They do not want to hurt the person who to us himself to be good. And here it is the bondage of "co-pood of salt". And this one always expects anyone to speculate.

— A friend if someone You considered a friend? No Fox whether it is an hour with hohotok about "Broken unbeaten luck"?

 

6. The desire to please, to gain

Our pride, it is again not away often respond to someone with a Lifeguard. Glue the stars for his efforts on the door of his office with hope and expectation of some special respect or gratitude when it all bandaged and everything is brilliant green.

— Did you ever think that the way You advertise your Lifeguard?

 

7. Trap of debt and promises

All of the foregoing as promised all, without considering the possible circumstances of their own "impossibility" and all "but" that submarine trays to go will have no place then.

How to give a promise in the eye is more important than stress?

 

8. How to persuade yourself and agree with yourself to tolerate

The inability or fear of all the "replay" takes us to a new level. The level of "convince yourself"! How we start to skillfully wield a welcome "positive thinking"! Start looking for the pros, dubious benefits, and promise myself next time to respond and to act differently. I rushed a deal with the Devil.

— For a notice, how do you prepare yourself to ready?

 

9. Sorry for others, but not yourself

We were once accustomed to, another Soviet legacy, "Sam dies, and friend help me out – the party will consider posthumously!" And we can know some of his "shit" and "guilt", which should redeem himself, and be pinakasikat, they say, we are not worthy to choose, and must work off karma on the other.

— You are not worse than others? Do you think that Your soul sin is greater than each of them?

10. Others are not interested in our circumstances

Why someone should care of our troubles and difficulties, if at our expense, now want to solve something? They are not interested in their sympathy for us – it ties their hands for us to exploit.

— I think this is fair?

 

11. The contract with immediate persons

Giving a promise by one person to another, in this reality involved, not the fact that will appreciate our efforts and favors. If we agree to help out in any case and we promise boss, colleague or customer do not have to appreciate our sacrifice in agreement with others.

— What makes You think that Dorogova one applies to others?

 

12. Hands on another

And so, when we consider ourselves to be cheated, wrongly accused, our efforts are devalued, and we still found guilty, we begin to search for a fair balance the degree of responsibility and guilt in others.

— Where You were earlier with these questions?

 

13. Ban another angry

Realizing himself as a victim and feel miserable, we select the right the other to be mad at us, even if it has its own history and its own truth that cannot be with our truth – that different they can be expensive. Our sacrifice and his desire to obtain "service of appropriate quality".

— Is there now a reason for someone to blame for Your choice?

 

14. The desire for revenge

And peak of our fiasco is made in a desire to inflict the same pain or a wish unkind to those who have "framed" by the strike and who did not rate us highly.

— Wonder how it will look from the outside?

 

Eric Berne: the Man programmed to obey, obey, obey...

Why do we men after 50

 

15. Disappointment in people and the business

And then, eventually, we waved it all away and flaunt indifference, inaccessibility and indifference. Demonstrate their innocence.

And it was worth it in the end?

 

Take care of yourself! Keep the border! Be aware of your resourcest and the inability! published

 

Author: Irina Popenkov

 

Source: www.b17.ru/article/vrednie_soveti/