3 mistakes that lead to 80% of divorces in the CIS

Literally 60 years ago divorce was rare and was openly condemned by society. In today's world divorce has become not a rarity but rather a pattern. Often divorce is considered a "reasonable" approach. 70-80% of families are breaking up. So you do not become part of this sad statistics, we will discuss the hidden causes of what is brewing in the family divorce.

In relationships it's simple: if we stop working on them, they inevitably begin to deteriorate. Therefore, it is important not to forget about it and do at least simple things to ensure that the relationship is not damped, and our partner does not become another "thing" in the apartment.

3 hidden signs of impending divorce in the family





You have less to communicate

In modern families there is a problem: the couple rarely communicate with each other, and every year the amount of communication decreases.

People come home from work, reluctant to say a few words, and then mind their own business. And so every day. Occasionally weekends and holidays, make a variety, but that is not enough.

The couple spend time on TV, on the Internet, what else, but not to communicate with his second half.

This is a clear reason that your relationship is going nowhere and can result in the most negative way.

This banal lack of communication in the family is the cause of most problems in the family. We treat the spouse as to the next things, which many in the apartment, but the man is not a thing and it is, in the end, annoying and it goes away.

Output:

It is necessary to overcome the influence of all distractions and begin to chat with your spouse.

You don't need to bother each other time conversations, if you are unaccustomed to it. Just gradually increase the time of intercourse.

This simple act is already helping to significantly improve relations in the family. Communicating with each other, you will be able to understand what is happening in the family, and where you go.

Began to occur direct communication with the opposite sex

Usually the original cause of all divorces is lust. It is pushing us to new opportunities and experiences.

Based on what is lust? Of course, on the opposite field.

As a result the person begins to communicate with the opposite sex, without apparent reason, and then had, without realizing it, begins to flirt, etc.

Remember that is just to let your consciousness of lust, you only start to think about the beautiful girl or man, and then it will be incredibly difficult to cope with it. No wonder they say that everything starts with thoughts.

If you notice these signs in yourself or in your partner, it is a Wake-up call.

Output:

Perhaps it will seem strange, but to prevent this threat it is necessary to begin not just to communicate with your spouse, but do it in a pleasant and delicious atmosphere at the table.

Is family therapy. Used to be the rule every day to gather the whole family at the table, to chat and discuss various issues. You have no idea the positive effect on the family environment this simple method.

It is also important to learn to control their feelings and show their respect to their loved one.

There is frustration about the fact that reality does not coincide with our expectations

Create a family, people used to idealize his partner and the joint future life.

We often think that my choice is the best and I will be happy throughout your life. Loving people can give your other half qualities, which one is actually there.

Then it takes several years, and often only about a year, and suddenly one of the partners realizes that the perfect person for the spouse remained not so much.

Comes disappointment.

For example, the husband thought that his wife will always look after themselves, is beautiful and slim and she has gained weight and slimness of the body does not take time.

Or the wife thought that her husband will be successful, will be to earn decent money, but in the end they live on average salary and not too many can afford it.







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Output:

In this situation, you should understand that this is what our expectations are not met, we are themselves deceived.

If you before wedding are not specifically discussed all the main issues of family life and not come to a common denominator, then, what to do now. Now we need to start moving from the situation that is helping and supporting each other.

Remember that divorce is not the answer and definitely a bad thing. published

 

Author: Sergey Yuryev, especially for econet.ru

 



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