Why does love, or simply about the relationship in the pair Bashny.Net

In a couple one of the main topics of conversation, especially women.

All due to the fact that personal relationships bring us much joy and pleasant feelings. But there is another side of the relationship, when they bring pain and disappointment.

Many of us live with confidence that one day they will meet their "soul mate" and live happily together their whole life. But, unfortunately, it happens not so often.

Statistics show that the number of divorces in many countries exceeds 50% of the number of marriages and the number of extramarital Affairs is estimated at 30-60%, while women cheat less, and men more often.





Family and children make our life beautiful, but when something goes wrong and relationships end gap, replace the joyful feelings of pain and despair. It is therefore important to understand how we unconsciously choose their partners.

When it comes to love and sex, men and women behave differently, and the explanation lies in our past. Therefore, modern men are attracted to visual images and signs women's health, fertility and youth, and women are attracted to images of male authority, status, obligations and financial wellbeing — exactly the same as their predecessors.

For men are often personal relationships are based primarily on what kind of services you can provide him with the woman. Because when man asked to tell about his woman, he always starts talking about the services she provides him: she's a good hostess, an excellent cook, is cleaning the house, wonderful kids, a good friend, very sexy, etc.

And when a woman talks about her man, she says he makes good money, is smart, he's funny, he has a good job, etc.

In other words, the man provides her means, and he is interested in services which can provide him with the woman, and in her visual appeal.

Scientific studies confirm that the passion is based on the emission of sexual hormones — testosterone and estrogen. And these hormones cause a person to immediately seek physical satisfaction.





Also science has proven that love, passion and sexual desire — all chemical reactions that occur in our brain. Scientists conducted an experiment and found that after about two years, all indicators of the release of hormones come back to normal, even if the partners continue to live together. The decrease in the level of hormones testosterone and estrogen occurs regardless of the original intensity. Also on the original intensity is not affected and for how long will their relationship.

But then the question arises, why, when hormone levels are reduced, some people split, others stay together? Because almost all couples face the fact that love and passion are gradually fading, sexual desire starts to fade and replaced by a bouquet of these feelings, comes the habit of daily care and routine.

And then suddenly one of the partners realizes that begins to live by habit, ceases to feel responsibility in relationships and perhaps even lives other people's desires, not their own. Often, women sacrifice their own needs to support her husband, raise children, etc.

Sometimes it happens in relationships and between the partners formed a big emotional gap and then there is high probability of extramarital Affairs. Therefore, the best way to keep the family peace is a Frank conversation about your relationship.

In the first two years of marriage have Affairs more often than at any other time. During this period, women wonder whether the choice they made and would it not be better to live with someone else.

This is because to really get to know each other, it takes about two years. Also, being together long enough, often the partners also face the fact that someone of the partners has an affair. This idea is so unpleasant and painful that many such cases prefer to ignore it or to pretend that I know nothing about the affair partner.

However, few understand the reasons why this is so. To stay in a relationship after discovering infidelity is much more difficult than to break them and start a new relationship with another person. And only a few find the accumulated pain and aggression.

Also few find the strength to stay in the relationship. Very important at this moment is the ability of partners to openly communicate with each other and talk about what happened and why.





It is very important to your partner sincerely accept responsibility for what happened, and frankly admitted that it was a mistake. In this case, do not solve the problem of mutual accusations, and only aggravate the situation.

So it is not necessary in such a situation, make a hasty decision, as it is better first to calm down a little, and then make a more informed decision. It was then that the opportunity to save and restore relationships, and change them for the better.

The novel is a troubling symptom, existing but not recognized by one or both partners problems.

Male and female infidelity is a sign that the relationship must change in some way. I wish you successfully and easily cope with emerging problems in the relationship!

 

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