Caesar, well, God – gods. You probably have often noticed how women or men run away from reality. Women, mostly, get caught up in parenting and problems at home and men at work. Yes, it shows that family is not all right. As already mentioned, family is a house that we build ourselves brick by brick, and much more important to anticipate the problem in advance than to try to fix it later.
As long as you have not taken family care or household duties in the service, it is impossible to ignore your spouse. The person is arranged so that it extends to warm. You never noticed how you are attracted to the burning fire that you can't tear my gaze away from the flames? This is the warmth that emanates from it and makes you keep your eyes on the fire.
And what happens when it fades? We, or adding new wood, or simply turn away from the fire. And your half: feeling of warmth on your part, or becoming miserable under the burden only of family obligations or looking just the same it is warm outside its already extinct hearth. Don't spend your heat, and you will not lose a loved one – it throws new firewood on your hearth.
In practical psychology there is such concept as crisis of monotony. In other words, it is commonplace monotony of existence, which negates the sensual relationship between spouses, turning our daily life into a routine. This is a very common problem for couples that can transform even the "pleasure in displeasure". Therefore, strive each day to bring to life each other nice innovations, and, giving joy to yourself and your second half, you will get over a routine and not get bogged down in it.
Try for a bit to change the situation. And you should also know: nothing strengthens family units, as a joint working activity. If you have a cottage or a small piece of land, then consider yourself very lucky.
You can work together on it to work, growing, for example, useful culture, escaping there at the weekend. No movies or other entertainment venues will have a similar effect to the collective family labor. Very useful for family relations various joint trips to nature, so try to gradually acquire equipment for camping (tents, bikes, sleeping bags, etc.). Or you can arrange a family trip on traditional fishing.
Try to equally distribute responsibilities, thereby instilling a sense of responsibility to each member of his family.
As the power of the state based on their ideology, and the power of family is based on the principles generated for years, which should be read by both spouses. In any case one should not impose their ideas and opinions to the second, on the contrary, they should be respected mutually.
For example, in modern marriages, it may happen that one of the spouses is a deeply religious and the other does not. In any case, one cannot impose religious dogmas and customs of its second half, forcing her violently to go to Church and attend the services.
Or it may happen that the spouses are of different religions. Here, moreover, it is necessary to show a special delicacy of this matter and to respect the religious feelings of each other. Again, it should be remembered that human nature is woven of contradictions. Namely on the basis of them, we perceive the world. Trying already formed to force a person to do something at the behest or through conflict, you, on the contrary, detach it from yourself. To take any action, person, first, he has to want it. In any case it is not necessary to remake your favorite. Believe me, with proper handling, this will happen by itself.
Of course, the ideal variant is when the ideas and interests of spouses are the same, but that is not the point. Throughout the life of the spouses, a woman should be an inspiration to her husband, and each must understand that it is always responsible for the family climate, despite its vredonosnie responsibilities.
As for men, only respect and attention to their wives gives you the opportunity to be more favorable.
With age we become wiser, and is extremely important for both spouses is able to live up to sweet old age in marital harmony as the result of mutual love, respect, understanding and care. Show on personal experience example of youth, because with you, as you once looked up to ancestors, will follow the example of the new generation.
Source: globalscience.ru