Irina Khakamada is to Combine the drive, the thrill and career

How to be happy? The main question asked by Irina Khakamada all. On TV "Home" starts "a Short course in happy life", and Irina Khakamada told us about the filming of the series, clever the Director Valeria Gai Germanicus, his character-a psychologist and, of course, answered the hidden question. We, too, want to know how?!

My short course

I remember filming with pleasure. Valeriya Germanika is an amazing Director that, in my opinion, about twenty-six she was, but believe me, I have lead workshops, women are much more experienced, thirty and forty years – not react so much. She as an artist feels other people as a talented artist. In the script the characters were more primitive, that she directed and edited, of course, really deepened the characters. The characters directly on the set was shown with all its overtones-tones-nuances and began to live. Therefore, there were such vivid characters, I think that any woman can learn their traits in one of the heroines.

Psychologist in misfortune

My heroine, Faith – psychologist: strong, wise, all open-mouthed, listening to her advice, and right so it all comes first – the style icon. But in reality, this guru a happy life is an ordinary woman mess. Is this a known phenomenon, a classic situation, I think, for psychologists teach others, but can not cope with many things in your own life. Therefore, quite often, in my opinion, women are psychologists from disaster: something did not work – went to study psychology, and then began to help others – such a scheme, so forgive me for the highly trained specialists. (Laughs.) That my Faith be a psychologist, regrets, loves man as he is... It's me, by the way, coined the phrase that she utters drunk sharing with another woman, not knowing that it was just the wife of her lover, said, "He's a mouse, mouse grey. Well, what I see in him?". Our clever Director allowed the phrase to write like a good improvisation. And at the end of the film, had little man, when hug – kiss, I say, I mean, my character says: "a Mouse!". And it sounds like "I Love you". So I'm not myself in "Short course happy life" play, I'm not a psychologist, and I'm not like the other, and rightly so – to play themselves uninteresting. But the voice, Yes, and like I have this voice-over – deep, soulful in soul incoming. (Laughs.)





Life in motion

I was a depressed child because the mother is kind and depressive, and I took this genetic code. Father, on the contrary, a fighter, a revolutionary, and I took from him the will. And when I'm tired of being miserable for life, tried, leaving my mother's kindness, to remove, to remove her depressive code. And to get rid of this constant whining and feeling unhappy, and I had it replaced at the realization began to act, to move, in spite of that, his most insane dreams, up to "become President of Russia". And gradually accustomed to move constantly. As said by the Dalai Lama (I went to see him): "no matter How comfortable you may sit in a barcalounger and how easily nor settled in it, after a while your body will become numb. And once you fall asleep, you'll start to move him." In our lives the same. When does this sad endless? Yes as soon as you try "forever" comfortable in life to get in the chair, and in the life of any changes necessary as a rush to accept, and to move-move-move. Here on this drive and the buzz of constant movement produces vitamin of happiness. (Laughs.)

Search path

I do not claim to be a great teacher, but I know the path and some of the tools that will lead to the connection of success in your personal life – in a relationship with a man and self-realization. Know because it's been this way and it worked for me. Yes, I walked through the thorns and reached their stars. Therefore, the workshops'm on a personal example and share personal experiences. And yet I am the observer, constantly watching everybody and greedily absorb, digest foreign valuable experience. Only with age, after 35, I started to try to reconcile the two poles: the personal and professional lives. And only in the fourth ten has learned to hone and apply a thin tools that all connect and save. And then finally realized that it all depends on the woman.

Attention, repeated passed! Man re, to convince of something, to make a more wise or just – IMPOSSIBLE! Here once a woman gets her mind that the family of the husband to hold the child that must be educated, or for the opponent with whom you can argue – all is lost, nothing will come of it. A man can only agree, given his other planetary values. Well, you remember, the other half being on another planet, we are from Venus they are from Mars. That is, you need to have empathy and to develop it, to understand, accept and share alien values, which are not like women. Then, given, again, of these differences, it is necessary with my man on all points to negotiate: you me – I you and results in a strong family. As soon as these ideas came to me, I began to hone, and implement in your life, and then to teach others.





The shooting of the series "Short course happy life"

 

The formula of happiness

I move – go where I wonder, constantly in search of are at risk. The first tool of self-realization on the path to happiness is freedom, when it is not afraid to analyze yourself, not afraid to diagnose themselves and cease to fear his most wildest dreams. Continue, taking will in a fist, constantly moving, begin to change. I have in the Soviet Union the goal was to achieve the main criterion of success is to get higher education and work in the specialty. I've done: became an assistant Professor at Department, candidate of Sciences, but happiness has not happened, that is, it was but fleeting, short-lived. Then came the 90s, and I rushed for the money, this was the criterion of success, and therefore my goal. And again I just made is money earned. But happiness has come again for a while. All the time something was off, something was missing. Then I went into politics and there peaked, I believe, and a deep sense of satisfaction, of course. Political history I have completed seven years ago. To return to big politics is not going to, but remain a public figure, continue to protect people and I will do it as I can, I promise. But politics is a struggle for power, and I abandoned this idea in Russia.

So only now I became really happy person, this is important – the happiness, as a feeling, as an inner condition and as a criterion of success for life in my hierarchy of values. It is no social status, no money, no glory does not directly depend on, trust, and depend on them. So the formula of happiness I have to share! (Laughs.) The first is to do what you like is the most important, especially after 30, I mean, it is clear that sooner find yourself can be difficult, but after 30 you need to know that you do something you love and doing it for people. It is not necessary for everyone – you're not Steve jobs, but do it for those you know who are close in spirit. Second, you have to grow to be a professional to pay the money, and exactly those which you can easily do at first and feed a family, to live like human beings, do not have large surpluses. And third, to work favorite work is necessary in the circle of friends – nice to you people. If you come and all the hate, and then you are in the answer, taking into account how much time you spend at work, you messed your life up. Here are the ingredients, plus, it's important to be able to take a break, to interrupt the flow to rest. If we don't learn, life goes by just like a second because time is relative, so I do not understand how and when it leaked so much that you're old? And then, the bad infinity of continuous work takes away vital energy, killing creativity. To make unconventional decisions, need to pause and restart, otherwise the head is filled as a dump, and it should be all laid out on shelves, and some empty shelves to accommodate the new information. So I, realizing the importance of being able to switch, I learned to do it perfectly, like everything in life try to do. (Laughs.)

I have a hobby — can characters to draw, forgetting about all the good movie I love to watch, and once a week try to leave town with his family, and every year quite far away from the hustle and bustle to spend a few days alone with yourself, because your own space is a mandatory component. Here's a formula.

Source: domashniy.ru/