Are you being used or is it true intimacy?

A shot from the movie “Proximity” by Mike Nichols

How to identify the true essence of your loved one and his true motives for the relationship with you?

Not to be confused with:How to dispose of or profitably use to ride or get the energy of its location for yourself. And not in order to raise your own shares and give / get emotional strokes and pleasantness - no, not for that.

Namely, how to reveal the essence of man. Technique:

(Think carefully before using it – only if your Essence is transparent – it is safe, otherwise you will first clarify Your Essence and Transparency.)

1. Create a vacuum between you and the person. Give Him time to fill in your own. Meanings, Fears and Accusations

2. Don't defend yourself - under no circumstances.

He's going to start shooting -- saying versions. Listen carefully. For example, it is disrespect, which can be blamed and reveals the essence of the person.
You can see the resentment - they climb value labels to drive you into guilt. Here it is clear that the Man does not care, your joint, and the attitude to yourself loved.
It shows how hungry he is.
And if you find yourself with him in the way, he is hungry, he will not contribute to the common cause, but will chew on resources.
It is good, only “premature” (premature, unripe), it will be necessary to “cook” it all the time (in business or in human relationships – this is not a problem). Money and Compliments to the Hole Will Shut Up This is for the big business (and the mountains) He's not good. It will be more important to him than to make the world better after him. It's not bad - it's still ripening.

3. Make him angry.

For this purpose, nothing active and immoral is specifically done. Just “on time” (by polite standards) do not give him a stroke.

Politeness is what people invented to hide the Essence (very distracting such intimacy and honesty - interferes in using each other for unnecessary purposes)

Angry, honest!

Anger.The most honest energy is love in passion.
And then you see exactly who he cares about, and whether he has a way or only ideas about the way to be interesting and like.

4. Draw conclusions.

It is impossible to offend a person in the Way, although You send him to the South. He knows, who and where to go - fellow travelers are forgiven.So few.

Very few people actually do good things. substance. Most of the desire to be accepted and enjoyable in society.
These are important: respect, recognition and gratitude. They buy it, and they will not spend their energy “on the ungrateful” – their energy is in fact not – they “good deeds” for it and change.

I really like being here. rude. Then only those without crowbars and those who In the Way. I remember.what Every door in this world opens the other way.

Politeness and Respect are now pseudo warmth. You want the real one. heat - Stand up. holding(Only for people of high destiny.)

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Author: Natalia Valitskaya - evolutionary psychologist

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