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Of a child playing with their genitals, do not mind the presence of the audience — he has no need to hide from the sight of others, but only up to that time, until he is informed that he should be ashamed of. This post begins his journey into adulthood. The final step of the way, adulthood is a conscious effort to keep within the permitted limits your sex life.





“Sexual abstinence outside of marriage is the expected standard for all school-age children”, “Sexual activity outside the context of marriage is associated with harmful psychological and physical effects” — these are some of the items of the current U.S. sex education programs. In this case “education” is reduced to studying moral norms.

But most often children are “educated”, they did not mention. Most of the people's morality exists in the form of implied, but neartikulirovannaya rules. This practice has repressive iron bans, because in the process of upbringing the child is not informed of what rules he should follow and what rules to follow, but this does not relieve him from responsibility for the transgression. In the world of adults did not explain, decrying the gaze of the other is far more convincing than a paragraph of the brochure of social services.

Growing up is a dive into the world of morals; a world where all-encompassing seriousness makes possible the emergence of feelings of guilt and remorse; a world in which no longer play games.

Morality is a social construct, not a gift of nature: the child is not known to the moral standards before he introduced them. Man is not born with feelings of conscience, guilt and shame, and understanding of “what is good and what is bad” is simply “knowledge”, which are imposed by society as long as the future adult begins to believe that morality is not relative, but absolute.

However, before moving on to serious things, from childhood, no other dimensions except the dimension of the game. For a child — the game, including sexuality.

From the diaries of the personal physician of Louis XIII, we learn many interesting details about his growing up. At the age of one year the future king in the game “makes everyone kiss his penis” [1].

Louis XIII five years. Mademoiselle Mercier, one of the maids prismatrivalsya in tonight, haven't got out of bed (her bed was the bed of Louis): “He climbed to her play, asking her to alternately move my toes, it raises, at his request, his feet up, “he says to the nurse, so she brought the cane because he wants to slap the servant on the buttocks. Enforce... the Nurse asks: Sir, what you have seen in Mercier? Responds coldly: I saw the ass. What have you seen yet? Answers seriously, without emotion, saw her pussy”. At another time, “plays with miss Mercier, calls me and reports that Mercier pussy that's what (shows in his two fists) and that there is damp”.

Today, such games are unacceptable. As they grow older and entering the world of taboos and norms of sexuality woven into the overall fabric of the confrontation between the moral and immoral, is divided into allowed and forbidden, falls under the control of guilt and shame — and it's not toys.

Leaving the childhood, we all start to breathe heavy air, woven of vague boundaries that cannot be crossed, to not feel judged. But if over the last few centuries does not capture sex discourse of morality, now if someone could knock on your door and say, “Hey, come play in sex”. published

1. CIT. by: Ares F. Child and family life under the Old order. Ekaterinburg, 1999, P. 110

Author: Julie Reshe

 

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