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Disable yourself this: 8 dangerous actions in life and at work
If you help do list, it can help you a lot in terms of performance, improve relationships and personal well-being – compilation of a list of activities from which to refrain. Take responsibility and don't do that ever.
1. Look in the phone talking with someone.
Yes, you did. You threw the phone views – you seemed to sneak in, but they all was evident. You said, "Wait, I'll answer for FREE..." AND maybe didn't even "Wait" — and I just stopped talking, stopped to listen and was immersed in the phone. Want to stand out from the others? Want to be the person everyone loves because in conversations with him you feel like the most important person in the world? Stop looking in the phone. He will not notice that you do not pay attention to him. But other people will notice. And they really care about.
2. To do several things at the meeting.
The easiest way to be the smartest person in the room is to pay more attention to what is happening in the room. You will be shocked how much you can learn about the theme of the meeting and its participants — if we stop doing several things at once and start to listen carefully and watch. You will see the hidden desires and needs, you will find opportunities to build bridges, and you will find ways to become indispensable to influential people. It is easy, because besides you, no one is going to spend on this endeavor. And only you will be able to succeed in several respects.
3. Think about the people who can't affect your life.
Believe me: the stars and celebrities and well without you. But your family, your friends, your employees — people who really are important for you, — far from it. Give them your time and attention. After all, they deserve it.
4. To include plenty of reminders.
You don't need to instantly know that you received the letter. Or SMS. Or tweet. Or something else, as reported by your phone or computer. If you have any important business, it is important to address them without interruption. Fully focus on what you do. And then – on a schedule that you set for yourself, and not someone else — worry about outside and see what happens. And then immediately go back to work. Focus on what you doing it is much more important than to follow the lessons of others. They can wait. And you and what's important to you.
5. Let the past determine the future.
Mistakes are valuable. Learn from them. But then don't think about them. Easier said than done? It all depends on your relationship. When something goes wrong, make this an opportunity to learn something previously unknown, especially about yourself. When something goes wrong someone else, let it be an opportunity for you to show mercy, ability to forgive and understand. The past is just training. The past must give food for thought, but in any case not to determine your actions.
6. Wait until you're absolutely confident of success.
You can never be sure in the success of any new venture. But you can always be sure that you will give him the max and get creative with the best hand. And you can always be sure that you will try again if fail. Stop waiting. You will lose much less than you think – and will gain a lot.
7. To discuss someone behind his back.
Though, because be the subject of gossip sucks. (And the gossip too.) If you are talking to multiple people about what your colleague, would it not be better for everyone, if you spoke about it to him? But if talking to him seems inappropriate, it probably really inappropriate to talk about it. Better to spend time on productive conversations. You will achieve more and win much more respect.
8. To say "Yes" meaning "no."
To refuse service to colleagues, clients and especially friends hard. But the answer is "no" rarely has such terrible consequences, what are you waiting for. Most people will understand you, and even if not, should you worry about what they think? When you say "no" you'll feel unpleasant for a few moments. But when you say "Yes", not really wanting to do it, you will feel unpleasant for a very long time – at least as long as necessary for the execution of unwanted tasks. published
Author: Jeff Hayden
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: ideanomics.ru/?p=818
1. Look in the phone talking with someone.
Yes, you did. You threw the phone views – you seemed to sneak in, but they all was evident. You said, "Wait, I'll answer for FREE..." AND maybe didn't even "Wait" — and I just stopped talking, stopped to listen and was immersed in the phone. Want to stand out from the others? Want to be the person everyone loves because in conversations with him you feel like the most important person in the world? Stop looking in the phone. He will not notice that you do not pay attention to him. But other people will notice. And they really care about.
2. To do several things at the meeting.
The easiest way to be the smartest person in the room is to pay more attention to what is happening in the room. You will be shocked how much you can learn about the theme of the meeting and its participants — if we stop doing several things at once and start to listen carefully and watch. You will see the hidden desires and needs, you will find opportunities to build bridges, and you will find ways to become indispensable to influential people. It is easy, because besides you, no one is going to spend on this endeavor. And only you will be able to succeed in several respects.
3. Think about the people who can't affect your life.
Believe me: the stars and celebrities and well without you. But your family, your friends, your employees — people who really are important for you, — far from it. Give them your time and attention. After all, they deserve it.
4. To include plenty of reminders.
You don't need to instantly know that you received the letter. Or SMS. Or tweet. Or something else, as reported by your phone or computer. If you have any important business, it is important to address them without interruption. Fully focus on what you do. And then – on a schedule that you set for yourself, and not someone else — worry about outside and see what happens. And then immediately go back to work. Focus on what you doing it is much more important than to follow the lessons of others. They can wait. And you and what's important to you.
5. Let the past determine the future.
Mistakes are valuable. Learn from them. But then don't think about them. Easier said than done? It all depends on your relationship. When something goes wrong, make this an opportunity to learn something previously unknown, especially about yourself. When something goes wrong someone else, let it be an opportunity for you to show mercy, ability to forgive and understand. The past is just training. The past must give food for thought, but in any case not to determine your actions.
6. Wait until you're absolutely confident of success.
You can never be sure in the success of any new venture. But you can always be sure that you will give him the max and get creative with the best hand. And you can always be sure that you will try again if fail. Stop waiting. You will lose much less than you think – and will gain a lot.
7. To discuss someone behind his back.
Though, because be the subject of gossip sucks. (And the gossip too.) If you are talking to multiple people about what your colleague, would it not be better for everyone, if you spoke about it to him? But if talking to him seems inappropriate, it probably really inappropriate to talk about it. Better to spend time on productive conversations. You will achieve more and win much more respect.
8. To say "Yes" meaning "no."
To refuse service to colleagues, clients and especially friends hard. But the answer is "no" rarely has such terrible consequences, what are you waiting for. Most people will understand you, and even if not, should you worry about what they think? When you say "no" you'll feel unpleasant for a few moments. But when you say "Yes", not really wanting to do it, you will feel unpleasant for a very long time – at least as long as necessary for the execution of unwanted tasks. published
Author: Jeff Hayden
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: ideanomics.ru/?p=818
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