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Bad past: 6 ways to get rid of the memories
Say it is human nature to forget the bad, but in reality it is not so. Bad do not want to remember, but it comes to life in the form of habits, fears and complexes. And so over time you lose confidence and strength, because when you in trouble.
In life has enough problems and difficulties that we face every day, and for joy don't always have time and forces. But each of us has their past failed or even cruel situations that can poison the life.
If in the past was a divorce, he is sure to play a role in a new love. If you have ever fired, you will still be nervous when each claim of the authorities. If it was hard to make a living and didn't have enough money, you will decide for an expensive purchase.
For the most severe situations include loss of loved ones, accidents and disasters, serious illness and dependency, including loved ones. Here not to do without professional help, but a lot of bad memories can be erased from memory and their own.
Method 1. The notebook
Like it or not, but there are stories that forget does not work. Due to the fact that they spent a lot of time in them uchastovat dear people, and indeed it was in our life and one of her. But you can separate this out from the present and go back as you viewed the film, where the hero is similar to you but different person.
Scroll to the suffering of the past separate time. You can describe your feelings in a special file or blog and to afford any anger, bitterness, tears and sadness. Experiencing it from the heart, you will soon lose interest in the old stories, because it is impossible for every day to watch the same movie and not get bored.
Method 2. The ritual of farewell
On Shrove Tuesday we bid farewell to the cold and long winter, to meet the joy and freshness of spring. In life there are the same cold and unfriendly periods, and they can and need to say goodbye for the beautiful in the future.
To say goodbye to the bad, you have to collect all the things that you are terribly tired — you can do it symbolically folded in a box of photos of ex-husband, cheap things that you had to wear because of lack of money (even if you still afraid to buy something decent), the employment contract with the old work and other reminders. Leave it in a conspicuous place and visited his old life with the understanding that it is in the past.
Method 3. Substitution events
No, this does not mean that you should deceive yourself and convince them that nothing was wrong. But it happens that we remember the hard history just because it is the most vivid memory. This is really a property of memory. However, she in reality left only this horrible picture.
You need another story, as bright, but it's positive. You have to try — to organize an unforgettable journey, to achieve challenging goals with a clear result (to buy a car, do the splits, make a mad repair), in General, to do something extraordinary for yourself. Perhaps this person will want to remember about any old failures — there is something to be proud of and something to rejoice in new life.
Method 4. Brake lights
We return to the old, because I want to replay it again — not to make mistakes, to finish what is not told to fix something — in short, to live again the same story. However, the very attempt to be in a difficult situation already seems strange.
The problem is that we consider ourselves guilty of those terrible events and cannot understand that good people unpleasant things happen. Is it worth to them to go back? What lived, lived through and we behaved as they could at the time. Sometimes it is enough just to stop myself in the place where I wanted to suffer the past. Create for yourself signals — pinch, spit over your shoulder, to say something out loud.
Method 5. Real return
Close the page and complete the story sometimes it helps if you allow yourself to return to the place where return is impossible. Forbidden fruit is sweet and we are attracted to the past is bad, because it's so sad to think that the time is not turning the other way.
Make sure that the grief isn't worth it. Call ex-husband and realize that he is the man with whom you have divorced, not the one that you loved. Talk to former colleagues and will tell you that since you were fired, things got worse. Well, that all this is already in your past.
Method 6. Final analysis
This method should be already mentally prepared person or use it in combination with some other. Out with the old in fact occurs in the moment when you calmly accept everything that happened with you not like terror and horror, and especially not as a cross that you must bear, but as an event which has an explanation and which gave you the experience.
Each fills their cones, but it is always useful to learn something. In other words, without our past we wouldn't be who we are, and the bad past does not make you worse, but definitely could do better — smarter, more experienced, stronger, kinder and gentler, or more stable, so as to defend themselves.
To accept and love yourself again — this means to live in the present moment and enjoy it without regard to bad past. published
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind - together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: domashniy.ru/
In life has enough problems and difficulties that we face every day, and for joy don't always have time and forces. But each of us has their past failed or even cruel situations that can poison the life.
If in the past was a divorce, he is sure to play a role in a new love. If you have ever fired, you will still be nervous when each claim of the authorities. If it was hard to make a living and didn't have enough money, you will decide for an expensive purchase.
For the most severe situations include loss of loved ones, accidents and disasters, serious illness and dependency, including loved ones. Here not to do without professional help, but a lot of bad memories can be erased from memory and their own.
Method 1. The notebook
Like it or not, but there are stories that forget does not work. Due to the fact that they spent a lot of time in them uchastovat dear people, and indeed it was in our life and one of her. But you can separate this out from the present and go back as you viewed the film, where the hero is similar to you but different person.
Scroll to the suffering of the past separate time. You can describe your feelings in a special file or blog and to afford any anger, bitterness, tears and sadness. Experiencing it from the heart, you will soon lose interest in the old stories, because it is impossible for every day to watch the same movie and not get bored.
Method 2. The ritual of farewell
On Shrove Tuesday we bid farewell to the cold and long winter, to meet the joy and freshness of spring. In life there are the same cold and unfriendly periods, and they can and need to say goodbye for the beautiful in the future.
To say goodbye to the bad, you have to collect all the things that you are terribly tired — you can do it symbolically folded in a box of photos of ex-husband, cheap things that you had to wear because of lack of money (even if you still afraid to buy something decent), the employment contract with the old work and other reminders. Leave it in a conspicuous place and visited his old life with the understanding that it is in the past.
Method 3. Substitution events
No, this does not mean that you should deceive yourself and convince them that nothing was wrong. But it happens that we remember the hard history just because it is the most vivid memory. This is really a property of memory. However, she in reality left only this horrible picture.
You need another story, as bright, but it's positive. You have to try — to organize an unforgettable journey, to achieve challenging goals with a clear result (to buy a car, do the splits, make a mad repair), in General, to do something extraordinary for yourself. Perhaps this person will want to remember about any old failures — there is something to be proud of and something to rejoice in new life.
Method 4. Brake lights
We return to the old, because I want to replay it again — not to make mistakes, to finish what is not told to fix something — in short, to live again the same story. However, the very attempt to be in a difficult situation already seems strange.
The problem is that we consider ourselves guilty of those terrible events and cannot understand that good people unpleasant things happen. Is it worth to them to go back? What lived, lived through and we behaved as they could at the time. Sometimes it is enough just to stop myself in the place where I wanted to suffer the past. Create for yourself signals — pinch, spit over your shoulder, to say something out loud.
Method 5. Real return
Close the page and complete the story sometimes it helps if you allow yourself to return to the place where return is impossible. Forbidden fruit is sweet and we are attracted to the past is bad, because it's so sad to think that the time is not turning the other way.
Make sure that the grief isn't worth it. Call ex-husband and realize that he is the man with whom you have divorced, not the one that you loved. Talk to former colleagues and will tell you that since you were fired, things got worse. Well, that all this is already in your past.
Method 6. Final analysis
This method should be already mentally prepared person or use it in combination with some other. Out with the old in fact occurs in the moment when you calmly accept everything that happened with you not like terror and horror, and especially not as a cross that you must bear, but as an event which has an explanation and which gave you the experience.
Each fills their cones, but it is always useful to learn something. In other words, without our past we wouldn't be who we are, and the bad past does not make you worse, but definitely could do better — smarter, more experienced, stronger, kinder and gentler, or more stable, so as to defend themselves.
To accept and love yourself again — this means to live in the present moment and enjoy it without regard to bad past. published
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind - together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: domashniy.ru/
