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11 unpleasant truths about leadership
I think real leaders are easy to live, to work, to make decisions? In fact, these highly successful people often stumble, worry and have doubts. "They know their every move, their every decision means a lot," notes writer and speaker Deirdre Maloney in her book Tough Truths. It is divided into 11 lessons of leadership, where managers usually prefer not to speak.
1. It is the policyto succeed at work and in life, you have to navigate the political games. "To achieve higher wages, to persuade the child not to squeak on the plane, to convince the store to accept a product back without a receipt — all this requires the ability to persuade and influence people," says Maloney. True leaders understand how important this is, and are able not only to work professionally, but to build effective relationships.
2. Success makes you unpopularWhen you start your journey to leadership, you will support group — your boss, your colleagues. But as you begin to fulfill the expectations that have these people, you will be less to love. Therefore, in order to be a true leader, says Maloney, you need to have not only a strong will, but also strong nerves. And constantly remind yourself that your task is not to make everyone pleased, and to lead the organization to success.
3. You are interesting to others, Everyone considers himself an interesting person, but true leaders know that their stories are not as interesting to others as they are interesting to them. Therefore, they persistently show interest and attention to others. "Their history is short, their complaints even shorter, writes Maloney. They do not compose long emails or reports. They are doing so that others always want to hear from them something else". And when you pay attention to another person, that person inevitably shares with you their experiences and details of his life. And then, a link between you. Here's how to do, so people began to trust you.
4. Everyone is afraidno matter How sure people may seem, everyone is afraid of failure. "We are afraid to fail, says Maloney. — Afraid to look stupid." True leaders are successful because they are looking fear right in the eye. They are doing what you believe in, and strive for change.
5. Someone always isIf your morning was bad, never show it. People are watching. People say. And really any small community. But how to keep calm? Maloney advises to have a small circle of people you truly trust. Carefully choose these people — in their presence you can afford more than others.
6. The leader should be able to save energyTrue leaders understand the origin of their energy, and try to engage in precisely such cases. They also know that drains them of energy, and minimize these classes. "You should know not only what you like and what not, but what nourishes you and what depletes. And not only that, but who writes Maloney. — Make every effort to expand the zone and right to narrow the area wrong. You must realize that you have this power and opportunity. More than you think". Replace what you don't want, what inspires you.
7. The leader is able to identify his achievements, not to mention themReal leaders there is no need to trumpet their achievements and to tell others how great they are. "If you have to constantly explain myself, to tell about what your merits, to refrain from risks that you will not be perceived as a real leader," says Maloney. Moreover, successful leaders rather commend to others — staff, boards of Directors and others. They also accept responsibility when something goes wrong.
8. Negative conversations bannedIf you speak negatively about your organization or about the people with whom you work, you don't understand that true leaders understand that such conversations are you harm. After these words, the people will not trust you or build a deep relationship. They will respect you less, and lost respect for a very long time recovering. So no matter how tempting, do not scold anyone and anything, unless you are talking to a small circle of trusted people, says Maloney.
9. You have to go beyond their dutiesto go to work and do the same thing every day is easy. It's comfortable — but wrong. True leaders do not "work within the system," says Maloney. They change the system to achieve what you want. They come up with new versions, new jobs, new projects, new opportunities for professional development, about which their superiors do not even think. They see opportunities where others simply sit, staring at the screen.
10. Networking — it is inevitableYou have to be a master of communication, which people will remember. Every interaction is an opportunity to establish reliable and professional contacts with people. To understand them deeper. To be remembered. And get something — if not today, but tomorrow. Therefore not bursting about yourself — only give as much information as you need to intrigue others. And rehearse your conversations and written communication, says Maloney. Think about your words before you say them. Read your emails before you send them. Make out in them. Over time this will become second nature and help you to rise higher than it can to others.
11. You must have a personal lifeAnd not only in the "balance of work and personal life." True leaders know that they need personal life, because it helps to learn more about others to see them in proper perspective, to expand their knowledge. Many fall into the misconception that everything else besides work, not important, says Maloney. But when you have a personal life, you realize that you are the center of the universe, and that the difficulties you face is not unique, how would you as it may seem.published
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
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1. It is the policyto succeed at work and in life, you have to navigate the political games. "To achieve higher wages, to persuade the child not to squeak on the plane, to convince the store to accept a product back without a receipt — all this requires the ability to persuade and influence people," says Maloney. True leaders understand how important this is, and are able not only to work professionally, but to build effective relationships.
2. Success makes you unpopularWhen you start your journey to leadership, you will support group — your boss, your colleagues. But as you begin to fulfill the expectations that have these people, you will be less to love. Therefore, in order to be a true leader, says Maloney, you need to have not only a strong will, but also strong nerves. And constantly remind yourself that your task is not to make everyone pleased, and to lead the organization to success.
3. You are interesting to others, Everyone considers himself an interesting person, but true leaders know that their stories are not as interesting to others as they are interesting to them. Therefore, they persistently show interest and attention to others. "Their history is short, their complaints even shorter, writes Maloney. They do not compose long emails or reports. They are doing so that others always want to hear from them something else". And when you pay attention to another person, that person inevitably shares with you their experiences and details of his life. And then, a link between you. Here's how to do, so people began to trust you.
4. Everyone is afraidno matter How sure people may seem, everyone is afraid of failure. "We are afraid to fail, says Maloney. — Afraid to look stupid." True leaders are successful because they are looking fear right in the eye. They are doing what you believe in, and strive for change.
5. Someone always isIf your morning was bad, never show it. People are watching. People say. And really any small community. But how to keep calm? Maloney advises to have a small circle of people you truly trust. Carefully choose these people — in their presence you can afford more than others.
6. The leader should be able to save energyTrue leaders understand the origin of their energy, and try to engage in precisely such cases. They also know that drains them of energy, and minimize these classes. "You should know not only what you like and what not, but what nourishes you and what depletes. And not only that, but who writes Maloney. — Make every effort to expand the zone and right to narrow the area wrong. You must realize that you have this power and opportunity. More than you think". Replace what you don't want, what inspires you.
7. The leader is able to identify his achievements, not to mention themReal leaders there is no need to trumpet their achievements and to tell others how great they are. "If you have to constantly explain myself, to tell about what your merits, to refrain from risks that you will not be perceived as a real leader," says Maloney. Moreover, successful leaders rather commend to others — staff, boards of Directors and others. They also accept responsibility when something goes wrong.
8. Negative conversations bannedIf you speak negatively about your organization or about the people with whom you work, you don't understand that true leaders understand that such conversations are you harm. After these words, the people will not trust you or build a deep relationship. They will respect you less, and lost respect for a very long time recovering. So no matter how tempting, do not scold anyone and anything, unless you are talking to a small circle of trusted people, says Maloney.
9. You have to go beyond their dutiesto go to work and do the same thing every day is easy. It's comfortable — but wrong. True leaders do not "work within the system," says Maloney. They change the system to achieve what you want. They come up with new versions, new jobs, new projects, new opportunities for professional development, about which their superiors do not even think. They see opportunities where others simply sit, staring at the screen.
10. Networking — it is inevitableYou have to be a master of communication, which people will remember. Every interaction is an opportunity to establish reliable and professional contacts with people. To understand them deeper. To be remembered. And get something — if not today, but tomorrow. Therefore not bursting about yourself — only give as much information as you need to intrigue others. And rehearse your conversations and written communication, says Maloney. Think about your words before you say them. Read your emails before you send them. Make out in them. Over time this will become second nature and help you to rise higher than it can to others.
11. You must have a personal lifeAnd not only in the "balance of work and personal life." True leaders know that they need personal life, because it helps to learn more about others to see them in proper perspective, to expand their knowledge. Many fall into the misconception that everything else besides work, not important, says Maloney. But when you have a personal life, you realize that you are the center of the universe, and that the difficulties you face is not unique, how would you as it may seem.published
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
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