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It is necessary to know: the most common techniques of manipulators
Unfortunately, we often encounter those who will do their best to get what they want. We always feel uncomfortable when we’re being manipulated, but the worst part is that we don’t always understand what’s really going on. Here's what they do most often:
1. They're beginning to praise you. Flattery.
To get their way, manipulators often start by praising you. And when you are satisfied and relaxed, they will ask you to do what they want. Having paid a compliment, the person quite reasonably thinks that it will be very difficult for you to say no after that. After all, you don’t want to disappoint him or give him a reason to think you didn’t deserve those compliments. That's what the manipulator thinks. But you should not go along with him; it is better to say that you do not believe that you deserve these compliments, and then firmly refuse.
2. Provocation of jealousy
"It was a meaningless flirtation!", "He just bought me a cocktail!" or "He offered to take me home" - often these phrases just blow the male brain. The man is the owner and will not let anyone into his territory. Therefore, the owner of this “territory” becomes a woman who controls the situation and feelings of the angry “owner”.
3. Choice without choice
A person is offered a choice of two options, while either one of the options is impossible, and the second is beneficial to the offering party, or both options are beneficial to the one who makes the offer.
4. Incomplete action
In this case, the bet is on human curiosity. A person’s attention is drawn to an unfinished phrase or action. This trick is often used in TV series to keep viewers on the screen. For example, the series suddenly ends in the most interesting place. It creates intrigue.
5. Number of repetitions
People do not perceive information the first time. If you need to convey some information to people, the message should be repeated 2-3 times. They will be able to better understand what is required of them.
6. Denial of communication
"Oh, forget it," "Don't give it a meaning." Or he may insist that the message was misunderstood: “You didn’t catch the main thing,” “This isn’t about that at all.”
7. Hints.
Meaningful hints that allow for any interpretation are convenient because it is impossible to prosecute them as for slander. For example:
“Everyone understands how he bought a prestigious apartment in the city center.” The thought of the listener received the necessary “direction”.
8. Tears.
All women know that the easiest way to make a man uncomfortable is to cry. The man is ready to fulfill the most unreasonable requests, just to stop tears. Girls learn this female trick of manipulation since childhood - fathers are ready to do anything to calm their beloved daughter.
9. Trying to make you feel guilty.
Such manipulation tactics have been successful at all times and at all levels of human relationships. The saddest thing is that the victims of these tactics succumb to the demands of the manipulators, not because they want to, but because they feel they “must” do it. In personal relationships, this creates interdependence, which is extremely harmful to both relationships and psychological health.
10. Rule of three Yes
The human brain works inertially. You probably noticed that the second time to refuse is much easier than the first. It's the same with consent. It is enough to agree with the interlocutor 3-4 times, and it will be much easier to agree with him for the fifth time.
Consent does not have to be verbal, the main thing is that the person agrees.
11. "That's not all" technique
A two-step method of obtaining consent, in which an individual starts with an increased request and then reduces it in order to obtain consent. In fact, it is a model of market speculator behavior used for manipulative purposes.
12. Truisms
Truism is the most obvious statement, a well-known, beaten, banal truth. If you say to your opponent in the negotiation process, “Sometimes people make decisions under the influence of feelings,” “people often feel relieved after concluding a contract...” etc., then you disguise certain instructions as reasoning. published
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
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1. They're beginning to praise you. Flattery.
To get their way, manipulators often start by praising you. And when you are satisfied and relaxed, they will ask you to do what they want. Having paid a compliment, the person quite reasonably thinks that it will be very difficult for you to say no after that. After all, you don’t want to disappoint him or give him a reason to think you didn’t deserve those compliments. That's what the manipulator thinks. But you should not go along with him; it is better to say that you do not believe that you deserve these compliments, and then firmly refuse.
2. Provocation of jealousy
"It was a meaningless flirtation!", "He just bought me a cocktail!" or "He offered to take me home" - often these phrases just blow the male brain. The man is the owner and will not let anyone into his territory. Therefore, the owner of this “territory” becomes a woman who controls the situation and feelings of the angry “owner”.
3. Choice without choice
A person is offered a choice of two options, while either one of the options is impossible, and the second is beneficial to the offering party, or both options are beneficial to the one who makes the offer.
4. Incomplete action
In this case, the bet is on human curiosity. A person’s attention is drawn to an unfinished phrase or action. This trick is often used in TV series to keep viewers on the screen. For example, the series suddenly ends in the most interesting place. It creates intrigue.
5. Number of repetitions
People do not perceive information the first time. If you need to convey some information to people, the message should be repeated 2-3 times. They will be able to better understand what is required of them.
6. Denial of communication
"Oh, forget it," "Don't give it a meaning." Or he may insist that the message was misunderstood: “You didn’t catch the main thing,” “This isn’t about that at all.”
7. Hints.
Meaningful hints that allow for any interpretation are convenient because it is impossible to prosecute them as for slander. For example:
“Everyone understands how he bought a prestigious apartment in the city center.” The thought of the listener received the necessary “direction”.
8. Tears.
All women know that the easiest way to make a man uncomfortable is to cry. The man is ready to fulfill the most unreasonable requests, just to stop tears. Girls learn this female trick of manipulation since childhood - fathers are ready to do anything to calm their beloved daughter.
9. Trying to make you feel guilty.
Such manipulation tactics have been successful at all times and at all levels of human relationships. The saddest thing is that the victims of these tactics succumb to the demands of the manipulators, not because they want to, but because they feel they “must” do it. In personal relationships, this creates interdependence, which is extremely harmful to both relationships and psychological health.
10. Rule of three Yes
The human brain works inertially. You probably noticed that the second time to refuse is much easier than the first. It's the same with consent. It is enough to agree with the interlocutor 3-4 times, and it will be much easier to agree with him for the fifth time.
Consent does not have to be verbal, the main thing is that the person agrees.
11. "That's not all" technique
A two-step method of obtaining consent, in which an individual starts with an increased request and then reduces it in order to obtain consent. In fact, it is a model of market speculator behavior used for manipulative purposes.
12. Truisms
Truism is the most obvious statement, a well-known, beaten, banal truth. If you say to your opponent in the negotiation process, “Sometimes people make decisions under the influence of feelings,” “people often feel relieved after concluding a contract...” etc., then you disguise certain instructions as reasoning. published
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Join us on Facebook, VKontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: facebook.com/cross.club.ru/posts/1191457010883858:0
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