How to Become More Confident

We all look at the lives of famous people. Whether we specifically follow idols or just meet the news in the media, it is not so important that we all share a common interest in someone else’s life and what can develop us, make us better.

Celebrities are just like everyone else, with their pros and cons, but they certainly have a lot to learn: freedom of expression, confidence and self-love! Many of those stars who often flash before your eyes, own all this, and who does not dream of learning to feel confident in the center of attention, freedom of expression, self-love? So let's figure out what helps the stars to stay on top and in the hearts of people.





First and foremost, this is practice! Many of us feel discomfort simply from the glances of passers-by, what can we say about situations when we are in the center of attention. Everyone knows the principle of “wedge kicking”. Feel discomfort, fear, awkwardness, so you have a direct way to the stage, sing, dance, read poetry. To overcome your fear, you need to go into it, albeit not quickly, gradually, the main thing is not to stop and sooner or later it will begin to decrease, and then completely disappear.

A calm, confident sense of self in public, many stars gave just practice, which became a habit, whether they wanted or not, they had to be in sight and the more popular they became, the more often they were in the spotlight. And what prevents us from signing up for dancing, singing, in a theater or literary circle, starting to perform in public, exhibiting our works, sharing our attitude and creativity? The main thing is to take the first step, and then everything will go as if rolled up and the desired self-confidence will be in your pocket.

As for freedom of expression, you can’t do without self-love. That allows the stars to feel free with any people and in any situation, self-love and a share of obsession with others. Everyone achieves love for himself in his own way, someone through work on himself and personal achievement, someone at the expense of others, through intrigues and scandals. In the first case, self-love is deserved, thereby unshakable, the second is dependent on others, thereby illusory. We are interested in the first option, in connection with which the advice is simple, work more on yourself, learn, develop, give your best, those of the stars who have reached truly worthwhile heights are constantly working. To work and work again, every time your mind throws up thoughts of self-pity, you need to pull yourself together and keep working.

At first it will be difficult, but then it will become a habit and will be taken for granted. The more you invest in yourself, the more your love for yourself will be! It will belong to you and no one will be able to shake it. It is important to maintain a balance, so as not to go from pride to pride. Pride is the joy of one’s achievements, pride is the exaltation of oneself above others. By the way, pride is more often affected by those who achieve something at the expense of others, this is a kind of protective mechanism for the soap bubble, which without the achievements of others can burst at any moment.

When you are constantly engaged in self-knowledge, self-development, self-realization, You become wiser, wiser, more confident, calmer and freer, and so freedom in self-expression is achieved, when you are no longer afraid of being misunderstood, unrecognized. You know the value of your freedom, you have achieved it by your work and even if it is not valuable to others, it will remain so for you. And when we are confident in ourselves and our worth at all, the rest will not be able to resist for a long time and sooner or later recognize you.

Surely, you all noticed that many of the celebrities deserve fame, it is fearlessness and confidence in your truth, defending your right to be yourself. Sometimes you look and think, well, what is it about this person, his picture or song that it is recognized and his work is considered a masterpiece, and everything is quite simple, he is fearless, daring and boldly declares himself to the world and he is carried by the wings of self-love. There are frankly crazy people, but strangely enough they have their own audience and fans, of course we should not turn into clowns and fun for people, we need to realize the whole principle and start acting on the call of the soul. Allow yourself that amount of madness that will kill the fear of the first step, cross this line and life will begin to give you everything that you have long dreamed of.

And the last thing I want to touch on in this article is reasonable selfishness and reasonable pofigism to the opinion of others. What I call reasonable selfishness is when you recognize your right to freedom of expression, stand up for your truth, allow yourself to respond to criticism and praise in accordance with your worldview, while recognizing the right of others to do the same. You protect your personal space from encroachment and do not violate the boundaries of others.

You are on your own mind, keep your distance, while being friendly and friendly to others. What I call reasonable delusionalism to someone else's opinion is when you allow yourself to remain indifferent to a hysterical, biased, unreasonable, excessively emotional, rude opinion of yourself, and a constructive, friendly, tactful opinion, listen and take into account. At the same time, you need to be prepared that you will not be liked and loved by everyone, but freedom of expression is worth it. Do not betray yourself and your truth to please others, no one likes weakness and hypocrisy, be yourself and you will be respected by many and loved even more.



Author: Katya Kurkina



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