All parents know that children are by nature very inquisitive nature, always asking questions: why this, why that, why the fifth, tenth and why? But the answer to all of these children's "why" is not so simple, and parents and then they are baffled, especially when it concerns young parents have no experience in parenting and communicating with children. What can I say – even experienced parents sometimes do not know what to say on a particular issue their child.
So how is it to answer the questions of kids that are baffled, not to deceive, not to laugh it off and not easy to shrug off pesky novice to explore the world of the child, and even have on his cognitive interest stimulating effects?
In our today's article we will talk about it.How to answer children's questions, keeping to a standstill?
Before you answer this serious question, we need to say that the first and most important rule is that the children in any case can not be ignored. And this applies even to those situations when you have no time, you busy with something or the question itself seems a mere trifle.
Agree that there are times when what the child asks us, think we are stupid? But it is not that questions are stupid and that we don't know how to answer them. Moreover, while we – adults – all seems simple, trivial and obvious, the child is just starting to get acquainted with the world around him and to know him phenomenon.
This is the reason that many of the terms, processes, and facts are something new, strange, inexplicable, but that we are those people who are for a child the main authoritative source of, and answer to his questions is our direct responsibility.
Now let's move from discussion to action – below we will consider several variants of answers on the winding to a standstill children's questions. As example, take one of the most common questions: "Why do stars Shine?".The answer is "nothing"
On the question of why the light from the stars, you can answer anything not a carrier phrase, for example:
- Because glow and all
- Grow up – then he'll understand
- Ask mom (or dad/grandma/grandpa) – she knows
You yourself can clearly see that this is not no answers, just a way to get rid of the issue. But if you decide to answer the child in this way, you should know that so you tell him that his question was uninteresting and stupid. Home you just calm that your baby unattended left, and the question the answer is a no given. In fact, such answers are not only not justify the children's expectations, but reduce your own credibility in his eyes. The result will be that very soon the kid will come to the conclusion that the about serious things you can not ask.A provocative answer
Another answer to the question about the stars (and any other in General) the answer will be-a provocation, for example:
- What makes you think that they should be off?
- Do you think the Earth is too light?
Such answers already significantly more efficient than the previous, however, to use the provocative answers only if you are able to continue the conversation. Answering provocative, you will activate the child's thinking, as they offer him to think, to reflect, to look for the answer together. Simultaneously the child begins to show curiosity, which can not but rejoice. But there is one catch – the answer a question with a question causes a flood of new questions that will have to answer.An answer that explains the structure of the world
When a child asks you about the stars, we can respond to him, referring to the fact that this is the structure of the world, for example:
- It is God's will
- This is the structure of the universe
- It affects the laws of physics
The answers are practical, and even the adults can perceive them interesting, and even have philosophical in nature, but here's the thing – for the child, they will once again be a meaningless set of words. The most interesting is that asked, referring to the structure of the world, you do not give the baby absolutely no food for the mind. The fact that the child has enough life experience to appreciate and understand those answers. As a result, the child did not argue, nothing more to ask, but do not understand.The answer of a scientific nature
Here you can tell the child that:
- Stars are huge balls, which consist of hot gaseous substances. Any of the stars has its own chemical composition of these substances, due to which their light can be not only white, but pale red or even bright blue, depending on the temperature of gaseous substances themselves. However, we can only see the white star, because they are the most hot, and only their light comes to people, overcoming millions of light years
The answer, of course, reduced, but the point is, you can catch: when you give a full answer, substantiated scientific data, you, on the one hand, talk on the case, but most likely, the child you just do not understand. Everything else, the scientific answer will not give him any opportunity on the interpretation of the perceived information and the formulation of their own conclusions. So, you only root will deter all attempts to children's curiosity, make baby's living encyclopedia.
The advantage of a scientific answer can be called that child for some time to ask questions. Scientific facts can be palatable to a toddler having a logical mind, he wants to get specific, accurate data.The answer is fabulous
Another way to answer the question on the topic of stars and, again, any other topic may be the answer in fabulous form, for example:
- Because the stars are sewn to the black fabric of the sky by an invisible thread and painted with luminous paint
Responding fabulously, keep in mind that these answers are only suitable to very young kids, because they love stories, and fairy tales, as you know, almost everything is anthropomorphic in nature, in other words, humanized. But the problem of this type of answers is that they do not carry truth, and, therefore, when the child grows up, he will either begin to ask the same questions again, or will grow with a wrong view of reality, with the consequence that knowledge in his mind will have to adjust.Answer multiple choice
Answer multiple choice is one of the best ways to respond to creat an impasse issues. In our case, the answer could be like:
- Someone says that the light of planets that exploded
- Others say that...
- On the Internet you can learn about what...
- And as far as I know ....
If you will answer, tell the child that opinions about any one issue can be several. This allows not only to expand the horizons of your child, but also to direct it to self-reflection and provide the opportunity to make personal conclusions. However, the difficulty with this type of answers will deal with it, what point of view is correct.The response of the subject
Perhaps the best answer which can be. With regards to the stars, it might look like this:
- Our universe is full of amazing phenomena and mysteries. Stars Shine because in space there are certain processes, the results of which we can observe
This answer will be short, thoughtful and truthful, which in itself is just wonderful. In addition, you will be able to give the answer is pretty simple words that the child will be able to understand. But do not forget about space for a child's imagination, i.e. the answer should be arranged so as to present the effect of understatement, is able to continue to serve as a stimulus for a child to acquire new knowledge and conduct their own research.
When your younger and aspiring to explore the world child asks you a question that puts you in a standstill, not seek rather to get out. You need to give attention to any, even seemingly the most absurd, difficult and controversial issues, because the only way you can grow your baby man thinking and looking at the world with healthy eyes.Oscar Brenifier: the 10 commandments for parentsThe eldest daughter, or "older sister syndrome"
And most importantly – every parent should have the understanding that if he will not give the child the answers to what interests him, the child may get an answer (it is possible that very wrong) from someone else, and the effects on the children of strangers, especially strangers without their knowledge to prevent absolutely should not be.
So try yourself to give your child the knowledge that he wants to, but if you do not know the answer, sit down together with your child and do your own research.
Educational success for you and your children! published
Author: Kirill Nogales