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Are you okay with him? So it's his fault.
Dasha hasn't looked well lately. Dasha is a lot nervous about trifles, does not sleep well and started smoking again. She often cries and has no energy. Dasha has a difficult personal life, his personal life is called Pasha.
When Dasha complains about Pasha, she wonders what little things she cares about. He doesn't give her money, you know. He's buying groceries. He's not a millionaire after all. He doesn't talk to her, he gets tired at work. He's actually an introvert. He also arranges insulting interrogations for her, makes her justify herself and then sulks for a long time - but you can also understand him, he values Dasha and is afraid to lose, he had a lot of disappointments in his life. And that he does not give Dasha a ride to work, although he is on the way, so it is quite absurd to be offended by this - he goes to work an hour later than her, what is the point of him getting up earlier?
Dasha's friends don't really understand either. They'd wear Pasha like that. They have none. Friends believe that Dasha is overeating and roaming on a level ground.
Dashina's mother is even simpler. We will not quote, but the general meaning is that Pasha cannot be remade, he is not so bad, he was not hired and in general all the men are clear who. My mother is not very logical, but she has a lot of enthusiasm and clear priorities. Priorities are what is good when a man is, and bad when he is not.
For some reason it does not occur to my mother that It's good when her daughter is good.. Mom isn't exactly an idiot, she doesn't think "Dasha has a man" equals "Dasha's fine." The second part of the equation is missing as such.
Although in fact only the second part matters, and what it is there is equal, it is like the map will lie down. Pasha is not exactly equal, otherwise Dasha would not walk sad and would not swallow various useful pills.
Relationships exist to make a person feel good, and for nothing else. If a relationship exists and a person is bad, a person does not need this relationship.
If a person in a relationship is bad, then it is completely pointless to seek an explanation for this or enter into a position. "I feel bad, but it's because his mother didn't like me (version - because my mother didn't like me)" is no different from the simple "I feel bad" and does not change anything in the situation. The only situation in which a relationship makes sense is “I feel good.”
Different people are good at different things. These things have no sign, only the result is important:
For example, you can love a married person for many years with all the stresses that come with it. But you can only do that if you get excited about how complicated and dramatic your life is. And if you are unhappy, but he is not guilty of anything and can not be as an honest person, this is not your option.
If you feel bad about him not getting married, it doesn’t matter if he’s ready or not. You're sick, period. You don't need this man. In the same way, you may feel bad about him marrying like a lunatic and not wanting to know anything — you will not be comforted by the fact that this is, in general, a commendable intention.
If Dasha is bad because Pasha does not consider it necessary to throw her to work, then Pasha is not suitable for her. She might be well off under the same conditions if, for example, she was happy to be alone and gather her thoughts. Or for some other reason. But it didn't work out. Pasha could have arranged it so that Dasha was good, but instead made her bad. Dasha is bad - Pasha goes to the stump. There he can sleep as long as he wants and drive the car wherever he thinks he can.
Also interesting: Personal relationships: an extremely important rule!
Relationships Like Cake: It's Important to Know When the Cake Is Prokis
Once upon a time, I was going to leave a guy and was really tormented about it. I'm a monster, I told my friend, it's so unfair, he's not guilty of anything.
And this friend told me an amazing thing. He said, "Do you feel bad about him?" It's my fault.published
Author: Malka Lorenz
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: saintpetersburg.zagranitsa.com/blog/3175/kto-vinovat
When Dasha complains about Pasha, she wonders what little things she cares about. He doesn't give her money, you know. He's buying groceries. He's not a millionaire after all. He doesn't talk to her, he gets tired at work. He's actually an introvert. He also arranges insulting interrogations for her, makes her justify herself and then sulks for a long time - but you can also understand him, he values Dasha and is afraid to lose, he had a lot of disappointments in his life. And that he does not give Dasha a ride to work, although he is on the way, so it is quite absurd to be offended by this - he goes to work an hour later than her, what is the point of him getting up earlier?
Dasha's friends don't really understand either. They'd wear Pasha like that. They have none. Friends believe that Dasha is overeating and roaming on a level ground.
Dashina's mother is even simpler. We will not quote, but the general meaning is that Pasha cannot be remade, he is not so bad, he was not hired and in general all the men are clear who. My mother is not very logical, but she has a lot of enthusiasm and clear priorities. Priorities are what is good when a man is, and bad when he is not.
For some reason it does not occur to my mother that It's good when her daughter is good.. Mom isn't exactly an idiot, she doesn't think "Dasha has a man" equals "Dasha's fine." The second part of the equation is missing as such.
Although in fact only the second part matters, and what it is there is equal, it is like the map will lie down. Pasha is not exactly equal, otherwise Dasha would not walk sad and would not swallow various useful pills.
Relationships exist to make a person feel good, and for nothing else. If a relationship exists and a person is bad, a person does not need this relationship.
If a person in a relationship is bad, then it is completely pointless to seek an explanation for this or enter into a position. "I feel bad, but it's because his mother didn't like me (version - because my mother didn't like me)" is no different from the simple "I feel bad" and does not change anything in the situation. The only situation in which a relationship makes sense is “I feel good.”
Different people are good at different things. These things have no sign, only the result is important:
- Your man may not say a word to you for months if you like that no one distracts you from your thoughts. But if you are bent on loneliness, and he is not guilty of anything because he is tired in the service and silent by nature - you do not need this relationship.
- He can be jealous of you like the last baboon, if it is pleasant and flattering for you. If it bothers you, it is useless to convince yourself that he is so crazy with passion.
- He may not have money for caviar if you don't like caviar. If you cannot live without caviar, you should not care what prevented him from earning it.
- He may even meet you every night. If you get an orgasm from a slap. If you don't get an orgasm from a slap, it's not your concern that years in prison have shaken his nerves, let him deal with them himself.
For example, you can love a married person for many years with all the stresses that come with it. But you can only do that if you get excited about how complicated and dramatic your life is. And if you are unhappy, but he is not guilty of anything and can not be as an honest person, this is not your option.
If you feel bad about him not getting married, it doesn’t matter if he’s ready or not. You're sick, period. You don't need this man. In the same way, you may feel bad about him marrying like a lunatic and not wanting to know anything — you will not be comforted by the fact that this is, in general, a commendable intention.
If Dasha is bad because Pasha does not consider it necessary to throw her to work, then Pasha is not suitable for her. She might be well off under the same conditions if, for example, she was happy to be alone and gather her thoughts. Or for some other reason. But it didn't work out. Pasha could have arranged it so that Dasha was good, but instead made her bad. Dasha is bad - Pasha goes to the stump. There he can sleep as long as he wants and drive the car wherever he thinks he can.
Also interesting: Personal relationships: an extremely important rule!
Relationships Like Cake: It's Important to Know When the Cake Is Prokis
Once upon a time, I was going to leave a guy and was really tormented about it. I'm a monster, I told my friend, it's so unfair, he's not guilty of anything.
And this friend told me an amazing thing. He said, "Do you feel bad about him?" It's my fault.published
Author: Malka Lorenz
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: saintpetersburg.zagranitsa.com/blog/3175/kto-vinovat
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