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The 2 most important skill
1. To find a compromise.
Or, if the word doesn't like — and I for one don't really, because you loaded it a hint of "give up", "betray its ideals" — we can say that it is important to have a plan B, to be able to find other ways and not just "forehead against the wall." And sometimes to retreat in some low priority things.
2. Willingness to go to the conflict.
The range of this readiness is the most wide — from the ability to tell the loved one that you don't like football and symphonic music and specifically with such a fun friend to share not going to change profession, country, lifestyle, in spite of the environment. Defend their opinions in the face of "parent", whoever they were.
Both are important.
Because the first skill that allows us to go all the way to the target, even if it is not tiled shower, and head to break bricks, we do not know. Because compromise often allows us to maintain relationships and tactical retreat at a critical moment, remembering that "once things were repaired, not immediately thrown out." Because commissarka uncompromising impoverishes our imagination and makes it impossible to find other options.
And the second will allow you to remember that aggression — quite a vyzhivatelnogo emotion. And if you don't report that you need, it is likely that no one will know. Yeah, you're probably going to look not so "white and fluffy" who you think you are or you used to be. At the same time to go to the conflict means for us to take the risk (it is so, however). We risk relationships, risk their job, good life. In short, risk adjusted balance for the opportunity to establish a new, different level.
By the way, if we will not go into conflict, most often it comes to us. But usually we don't.
And both of these skill are important. The question, as always, the dose, the devil as always is in the details.
Also interesting: to Hold onto the relationship at any cost, is it worth?
5 tricks in conflict
A good way to understand how adequate in this case, one or another way, to check how you feel with this. If after your "compromise" you feel that you have been very generous, everything is fine. But if you are in such situations regularly I feel raped... I Think it is understandable.published
Author: Anna Zarembo
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.facebook.com/AZconsulting.co.il/photos/a.296400827130194.47822.296386553798288/764902946946644/?type=3&theater
Or, if the word doesn't like — and I for one don't really, because you loaded it a hint of "give up", "betray its ideals" — we can say that it is important to have a plan B, to be able to find other ways and not just "forehead against the wall." And sometimes to retreat in some low priority things.
2. Willingness to go to the conflict.
The range of this readiness is the most wide — from the ability to tell the loved one that you don't like football and symphonic music and specifically with such a fun friend to share not going to change profession, country, lifestyle, in spite of the environment. Defend their opinions in the face of "parent", whoever they were.
Both are important.
Because the first skill that allows us to go all the way to the target, even if it is not tiled shower, and head to break bricks, we do not know. Because compromise often allows us to maintain relationships and tactical retreat at a critical moment, remembering that "once things were repaired, not immediately thrown out." Because commissarka uncompromising impoverishes our imagination and makes it impossible to find other options.
And the second will allow you to remember that aggression — quite a vyzhivatelnogo emotion. And if you don't report that you need, it is likely that no one will know. Yeah, you're probably going to look not so "white and fluffy" who you think you are or you used to be. At the same time to go to the conflict means for us to take the risk (it is so, however). We risk relationships, risk their job, good life. In short, risk adjusted balance for the opportunity to establish a new, different level.
By the way, if we will not go into conflict, most often it comes to us. But usually we don't.
And both of these skill are important. The question, as always, the dose, the devil as always is in the details.
Also interesting: to Hold onto the relationship at any cost, is it worth?
5 tricks in conflict
A good way to understand how adequate in this case, one or another way, to check how you feel with this. If after your "compromise" you feel that you have been very generous, everything is fine. But if you are in such situations regularly I feel raped... I Think it is understandable.published
Author: Anna Zarembo
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.facebook.com/AZconsulting.co.il/photos/a.296400827130194.47822.296386553798288/764902946946644/?type=3&theater
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