In a week I will be 40, and in honor of this event, I decided to write about all the most important that has had time to learn for life ... and she wanted to know and understand much earlier.
Website publish revelations 40-year-old woman that she could learn about life.
1. It is important to love and accept myself completely I really believe that if love and accept myself for who I am, with its advantages and disadvantages before, I would be able to avoid a lot of stupid mistakes and wrong decisions. It's so easy - and so difficult. It comes through the pain, but brings freedom.
2. We must not forget to feed your soul does not matter what inspires you - try to give your soul what it needs. Try new look of their own, yet you will not find something that gives a sense of freedom and inner warmth.
3. It is necessary to keep those around a long time, I tried to control everything in your life, be strong and never seek the support of others. But now I realize that our social relationships, our own network of friends and family - it is important that we have. To acquire them was not easy - so hold on to them and allow yourself to be weak though sometimes
4.. Do not be ashamed to be a real Sometimes, when I was really tight, the mask that I wore like adheres to my face - mask is self-confident and independent woman. No one knew what I have actually. Know how to reset the mask and to be present to those whom you love and who really loves you. They will appreciate it.
5. Live for yourself, not just for the other huge part of my life was devoted to the all-consuming concern for others - sometimes to such an extent that I forget about myself. I thought it would make my life full of - but in fact it is gradually devastated me. Be able to find time for myself - you are no less important than the others, even the closest people
6. Optionally always a compromise I could avoid a lot of unnecessary relations, if realized it when I was younger. The compromise is certainly useful - but only if it is really a compromise, no concessions unanswered. Take care to not only give, but to receive something from the relationship - or throw them if you do not want to go to meet
7.. Travels! Travels! This is probably my biggest regret. I managed to travel a bit when I was young and did not have children, and it was very cool. Memories of this - much more valuable than all the things that I could buy. If I had realized this sooner, I would have much more to spend on travel and less - on new furniture. Travel - it's inspiration and freedom
8.. Less anxiety I'm incredibly worried a lot and did not even try to fight it. It seemed to me that the constant anxiety can help me better control of their lives and the lives of loved ones. But it was not worth it. You see, everything will be in order, regardless of your excitement. Just like everything goes goes. Loosen control and you immediately feel better.
9. Do not compare yourself with others Stop compare ourselves with everyone. Yes, it is difficult to resist the comparison with, say, a close friend, whose life is well known to you, but in general, this is normal. However, compare yourself with a Instagramom - disastrous. There will always be someone who is richer than you, you handsome, athletic, successful, and so on. N. As soon as you throw away all those useless comparisons of the head, life once you seem brighter and brighter.
10. The earlier discard the waiting - the better Like many other girls, I grew up on the cartoon about the Disney princesses and dreams of a charming prince. With age, I began to appear certain expectations - what should and should not make my choice. The man, whom I married, at first glance, to meet them, but ... it turned out that he is not close to me. The marriage fell apart with a bang, and I threw all their expectations in the trash - and found the dream man, who took the way he has
11. To live to work rather than work to live if I again returned to my 20, I have tried many professions, I would explore their passions and talents and not for anything would not have allowed myself to work like an ox without pleasure - just for the sake of survival. Work should bring not only money - it must really please you, and if this does not happen - throw it and look for another, his one and nepovotorimuyu
12.. On forgotten save for old age to think in advance about what you will live in retirement. In 20 years, it seems that life is infinite, and youth - believe me, it is not so, and each of us will have to see this. While you are able to work and earn - Share with itself after 20 years, and 50-year-old you are sure to say thank you currently
13.. It is necessary to give more youth selfish, but it is young enough enthusiasm and energy to help someone you know. Give - it's like to invest in your own soul. Nothing warms you over the years, as the realization that you helped people - whether it's volunteering, charity, or simply help someone weaker than you
14.. Forgive yourself and others a lot, too much time I spent on the resentment and anger - and regret it. Resentment destroys the soul of the offended, and yet how many offenses occur simply because of the little things! Learn to forgive, not to put unnecessary obstacles between himself and happiness. The past must remain behind, how painful would it might be, and do not constrain your hands.
15. Why waste time on negative people? Sometimes, someone hard to get rid of negative example, girlfriend, friend from childhood is important for you, suddenly becomes jealous and always nagging burden. Stop calling your house in the negative: if people can not understand that should support and encourage each other, to not only take but also give, then it's not your problem. The same applies to relationships, outdated and turn into a problem: find the strength to break them down and build new
16. "No" - it is a complete sentence was a time when I was very difficult to refuse: I involuntarily sought to ensure that everybody was happy, why should I at any cost. Even when I had to say 'no', for it is often followed by unbearable pangs of conscience. But the older I get, the better I understand that "no" - is the best barrier between me and all sorts of negative and there is nothing to be ashamed of to erect it more often. Also, do not let others impose their will or you waste your obligations. No - and point
17.. It is necessary to think well before you say "I agree" at the registry office Half of marriages end in divorce - such statistics, whether you like it or not. And all because we say "yes" too hastily and spontaneously. If women knew how much pain and guilt bears divorce, even in the case where it is justified and necessary! Think a hundred times before you go to the registrar.
18. Sometimes you have to stop and enjoy the little things in the world we live in, Carroll described in his "Alice in Wonderland": should run very fast just to stay in place ... and run twice as fast, if you want to get somewhere. But even in this world, among the avalanche of cases, calls and e-mails have to sometimes stop and just admire the starry sky or smell the wildflowers.
19. Stop finally worry about "what people think" I wish I could figure it out sooner! Sometimes it seems to me that "the desire to comply" - the root of all our troubles. No, not necessarily look perfect, to behave ideally, be ideal for those whose opinion, like breeze - fly by without a trace. What do you care, "what will people think?" Of all the useless anxieties, this - the most useless. And yes, you can wear to the beach is a favorite bikini. Of course you can!
20. To love changes The older we get, the worse attitude to change. I think the whole thing in the illusion of safety: it seems that as long as nothing changes, nothing bad can happen. Maybe so, but then nothing good to you, too, are not threatened in a world where everything is stable and predictable. Love to change makes us flexible and adventurous. Try from time to time to change anything - the route, breakfast or furniture: even these little things will bring you lots of fun