Money will not give! Bashny.Net

The money issue is the cause of endless disputes, insults, humiliation and manipulation of many families, which is why the majority of people committed to financial self-sufficiency and isolation.

Money - it is not only a universal equivalent of the value of goods and services is not only a symbol of success, power, strength, and other significant characteristics attributed to this symbol of modern humans, but also a great mirror that reflects man's relationship with himself and the environment


Money Talks bares (often ruthlessly) the truth that not every one of us wants to know about themselves and their relationships. Do not count how many families and friendships falling apart because of financial disputes over inheritance, a joint business, the distribution of family income, child support payments, etc. But it's not in themselves money, and not even in their numbers, as with money, and without them can be like a normal person, and not so.

Some people with the money to build hospitals, engaged in charity, invest in education, help their children acquire more useful skills for future independent life, taking care of parents and others with the same money incite war, passionate about the excessive satisfaction of material desires, parents are offended because do not help children to buy education, housing, but do not give freedom without the threat of disinheritance.

So in case if the money? Some people with medium or low incomes despise all around, blame the system and the people in it in all their troubles, do not find a good word for their loved ones, because "life is hard", while other people with the same low level of financial capability are trying to be helpful , help others, if not money, because their time praying, caring, good attitude, in children cultivate their humanity, their parents are treated with respect.

Is lack of money determines the magnitude of the individual? It is clear that in the modern world is much easier to live, if you have the demand in the labor market, a stable income and good opportunities for growth, but the fact remains - the availability of money only shows what is already within us

. About the close relationship we can say the same thing. If a family has young children, the wife does not work, the husband is the sole source of income, but for various reasons, the family breaks up, the normal person will continue to help as best they could, just simply because it is now a woman has no other way to pay for housing, buy for themselves and their children food and clothing.

This is when it comes to adequate, mature and developed man who takes responsibility for the obligations, even if the pleasure is over, but for many men of their money is the manipulation means: behave the way I want - money ladies and taken in head to resist - live without fee as want.

Is it because so zealously defended their right to women such as the professional realization and are ready to go to work a week after birth, leaving the child to grandparents and nannies? Are there many mature and ready for motherhood women who are under the protection and patronage of the financial men who feel completely safe and at the same time shouting: "I want to work! Why do I have to sit with your child, you can not make me do it! "To deny financial support to women who are in a state of extreme vulnerability, not just wrong, but also low. The behavior if women matter in this case, it may be all the same as a man?

Of course, a story in each family: do not always get that one man was able to financially provide the entire family, then it is necessary to work and husband and wife; It is that women like to work, but in any case at the time of the birth of children, it makes sense to interrupt or at least partially reduce the workload (work you will always be, as children grow up once, and quickly); it happens that a family life is - does not want to / can not man be the only breadwinner in the family or a woman more like a partnership, she does not want to sit at home, like all the work divided equally - if two such alignment is large enough, then the good
But when a woman with child support deprives man, it is not normal. This situation can be compared with the wild stories about destructive families in which parents have in their hands all the resources, and full authority over the child, deprived of food for his bad behavior. Do not toy is not sweet, but just do not give is, thus striking at the base of his trust in the people you know and the world as a whole. The child has to survive - to steal, to pretend, to adapt to the elders, then the same must be done and the women in a state of vulnerability

. Manipulation by finance encountered not only in families with children, but also in ordinary couples where one person earns more than the other (or simply only one works). Also, the parents, often without even realizing, use the money as an instrument of control over the children, and if in their teens financial constraints act as an educational tool, then in adulthood is a tool used to maintain their leading position. Mom bought the newlyweds apartment, but comes into it without warning at any time of day or night, to buy curtains and wallpaper on your taste, is there all night, because "closer to work", and wishes to remain central to this "family for three" , is a normal situation?

Parents contain son before his thirtieth birthday, and when he decided to marry the disagreeable lady, they say, "do not give money, already an adult, go yourself." How could he, if he had the necessary quality did not start to develop? This most of the ladies hearts refuse, than from parental support. Children do not support aging parents, because "they are guilty", let them live from hand to mouth and die alone, oh, such a lot, unfortunately (young old age is difficult to understand, but one day all of us will have to face it.

There are, of course, the opposite of history when in marriage or simply creating relationships people are driven by self-interest, but it's also about the relationship with oneself and the world in general. If the inside is no peace and joy, whether it will come with the money, and if they come, then for how long? Financial issues, just like any other, should be brought into the open side.

Parents should say on what terms to pay children's education, buying apartments and cars. Children, in turn, must understand that they need to grow and learn on their own to cover their financial needs, no matter how big was the temptation to live in their parents' money.



Men and women need to understand with whom they form an alliance, the same if they have views on the allocation of funds, whether a man can provide the whole family, and if he has such a desire, whether prepared with the woman to be in his shadow, and if not, whether a man wants to be with a strong, well-earning woman in half to share all the sorrows and joys, including house cleaning, cooking and babysitting. It is clear that technically and alone, and others can do any work at home and abroad, the only question is how this will affect the relationship. In general, everything is as usual - a sober look, discuss, negotiate, try to remain human under any circumstances

. I wish you all happiness!

Author: Dean Richards