For happiness need to go only half way

Relationship - a movement forward. Before people go through life together, they have a long way to do it alone, just closer to each other. In order to meet, learn another, to evaluate and re-evaluate the world, breaking through his relationship, decide the future agree - for all of this takes time and constant movement forward. After the assignment, test, even fear, which is always very much. After a stop, which is inevitable. And more to the result to understand and decide, yes, this is my man

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But it so happens that one person goes forward, and the other stands still and looks like the other approaches. It's very convenient - to stand and watch. Plus, the other person can still something to wear. For example, what the gifts. Or are responsible for these same relations, which manifests itself in everything from money and the choice of where to go or go to the deeper things, for example, what values ​​to share.

So, keep in mind that there is conditional convergence point half way. This is the place the island, where you have to meet and have him start moving together. Each must pass a half and no one should spend more and the other less. And it is doubtful that have something sensible, if one comes after the other, going all the way, take him by the hand, and would lead.

Unfortunately, in real life people are rarely aware of this balance. Always someone is interested in more, some less, some are faster, some slower, some are already free and ready, but someone still has one foot in the old relationship and can not make a choice ... So, that someone has long been on the island and waves his hands, and someone else collects only a backpack ... it is clear that the temptation to run to meet very high in this situation. Do not do it!

Even if you do manage to take over the doubters partner will be a brief moment of euphoria, and then the frustration - you will remember you did it yourself and it will be unpleasant to scratch the ego, causing conflict

. Deep down, you will feel that this person can not be trusted, and live in expectation of something bad. Moreover, you will continue to have to carry all by yourself. Therefore, learn to feel the midpoint of the way!

How? Of course, it can not be reduced to an exercise, but it can try to draw a conventional line, a circle in the middle, and relax without thinking to put a mark on the line where you are now, and where he or she is. Think about why? Most often the answer is obvious - the fear of being alone, alone. Sometimes, it's just nature. We do not notice how the pursuing and pushing. If a woman is used to do everything herself, she is in a relationship of habit to take responsibility. We need time to tell myself 'stop' if you do not want to lug a lifetime relationship on yourself.

If you feel that you take your time - make a break and somewhere to leave. Believe me, if you want - you wait, if you get bored - will seek

. If you feel fear - run to a psychologist or bodily therapist. The psychologist will help to understand the causes of fear, bodily therapist will do the same, but will be able to remove the fear of the body, which is always much more valuable. And yet, we can come to "Tamboliyu" to the question: "why do not add up relations" or "what prevents to believe in yourself?" "Tamboliya" works gently, but firmly. During one game you can see that for a long time hiding from yourself.

Another often asked, but how do you know that I have already reached the middle? It may be necessary to make a couple of steps? If you feel that you have not done everything and you have a neurotic desire is still "work on yourself", and the partner is still a small dot on the horizon, the more likely you are long gone more than you need. You perevlozhilis and seeing no response look for the cause in itself. It is an illusion.

The reason is not in you, and in the other person. If you have something to blame, it is only in its onset, and the depth that does not believe that you can love. When you actually pass the half way, you get a sense of calm and steady investments sufficiency. You did all you could and now just waiting for the other make their moves. The feeling of the island - the feeling of solid ground under their feet. It consists of self-confidence and willingness to accept any outcome of the case. From the knowledge that you do not agree to do everything himself or herself. And what of the fate of no escape.

And yet, it happens that while you are standing on an island waiting for another, a third person suddenly turns around, stretches out his hand, smiling and you suddenly take a step forward, you put a hand in his hand. And yet.

Author: Elena Shubina

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