The world has become gay

feminine problem is now especially relevant, because the world itself became gay. If we take the majority of countries, they live by the laws of men, in a man's world.

Men's laws are fairly simple and straightforward. Faster, higher, stronger. Every man for himself. Who had time, and sneakers. And so on. These are the laws of struggle, competition, dostigatorstva.

Women's laws here so succinctly and clearly can not be described. Relations. Love. Care. Confidence. Somehow too blurry it all to understand. Too often, in order to understand women's laws, you need to listen to the heart. And where the heart speaks, it is already impossible to standardize something, to average, scale.




Even female targets - they are always some strange. They are hard to touch and measure. With man it is clear - to make a million, buy a BMW, two-storey house. And the woman? Create a cozy home. Like this? What counts as comfort? Architectural project? Or is it a creative mess? Euro as at all? The wall, which should be in every home? Or super-original solutions, which do not in any catalogs? How can measure the coziness at home? What is cozy, and what not? Again, whether that include heart?

Or another goal - the family. In principle, it is clear - husband, children. Static images can even imagine - he, she, children, fireplace, dog sofa. Handsomely. Reached? But the relationship is not a static image, but a process. Like all women - process. A man - this is the point. Attainment. Vertex.

The process throughout. Cleaning is not for the sake of completion, and the set point of the ideal order. A cleaning service as a process of purification of the mind from all sorts of debris. Parenting is not for the sake of the diploma in rebenkinyh 18 years - say, the course of "Mama" performed and successfully completed. The baby - it's forever. It is an eternal process of change and growth. Beauty is not for the sake of a photo - that's how I like myself. And the beauty of the process -. Maintain it, to care for themselves, to be beautiful at any time of the day

Men - these are the results. And what happens when we also start to measure yourself male rulers? We stop to enjoy the process and looking for the result.

So we are all waiting for their mothers and when it will end. When he stops yelling at night, when all the teeth come out when he speaks, when he shut up when he goes to kindergarten, school, college, marry, give birth to grandchildren ... And then we sit with old photos and nostalgic. How good it was then! And why is not valued? After all, here he sits on the arms and smiles. It could hug and kiss. And now it is so far away that you can see it every year, and the hug is not particularly given. Where, one wonders, have fled?

So we are starting to go crazy with the household chores, all the while trying to put an end to the cleaning, cooking, washing. Only the floor washed - again stained. Once all washed the - again dirty socks on the floor. Only washed the dishes - cups again urge. What is there to enjoy what is already here meditation during dishwashing. Permanent race. When will it end. And it can not come to an end. As the river can not flow. If it ceases to flow, easy to dry, and life will not be any. Similarly, life - it can result when there is no relationship, when there is nobody to cook, not for someone to wash. But is this happiness?

Relationship - is always a process. If we are attached to the result, we begin to speculate and manipulate. Buy now good behavior in children cartoons and candy, then paying for it - hiking to the doctors and emotional coldness. To seek gifts of manipulation of her husband, not wanting him to serve (ministry because it is a process, there is no end, and manipulation - it is a small point, then, has its end). Even with its beauty - we prefer simple ways to preserve the beauty - to put a shot better than every day to care for the skin

. We are all hard processes. They are too incomprehensible debt. And they are endless. It seems to us a heavy burden, so we're trying to lose. Thinking that happiness will come later. A woman's happiness, it turns out, is also a process. The process of life itself, in its relations, the processes occurring in it. The woman - like a river. And her happiness is the same.

We are always somewhere to run. We used to live masculine ideals and all the time we break ourselves. We are trying to become more organized, more than keep pace and achieve goals. And as a result become trapped horses. Because the nature of the other women. Inside we have a different rhythm, different laws. Quite different.

Women are created for rest, relaxation. Even at home, you can stay relaxed. As if life for you - a process, not the result. Then it is not so terrible a dirty dish in the sink. Then quite a different attitude to children's diseases, and rising night. Then, quite differently to build a relationship with her husband.

It is difficult to live in a man's world. Because you see around calls to live differently. And there is the illusion that dostigatorstvo brings happiness, and women, too. You see successful women that tell you what is needed for happiness career that men can and should change as gloves, kids - this is not an occasion for the decree

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You see a beautiful facade, and you like it. And here, too, want to live. But inside this facade? And if there is something there, inside? It is easy to build a facade, it is very clear - you put walls, paint them nicely - and all. And inside? Inside, everything is more complicated. Inside the case is not ready-made solutions that suit everyone. Unless these decisions do not come from the past and not the test of time. but even such solutions need to first find, explore, try. What is also inherently process.

Beautiful picture - often just a beautiful picture. Just the result of one point in space. And it's the male version of the life of living. Nash, a female, the other. At first it seems that it is more difficult. Because it is necessary to include the heart - and almost never turn off. With the habit it is very difficult.

But when get involved in this process - the process again! - The process of hearing of his heart, it is impossible to stop. It's exciting, addictive, inspiring and opens up new horizons. This creates around you a different world. New. Do not men. Do not standardized. Do not mechanistic. Not dostigatorsky.

New female world. World relations. Peace processes. The world of the senses. The world of emotions. The world relationships.

As anyone, but personally I prefer the female world. It resonates with the fact that I had once been put someone over. Women's world allows me to realize my mission on this earth. And it gives me a feeling of happiness. Therefore, I choose it. And you?
Author: Olga Valyaeva