No matter what kind of person you dreamed about and where to seek the ultimate goal of all of us - happiness. But always there is something that separates us from this one dream, and that "something" - we, or rather our limitations, which for years are built around, and as a concrete wall fence off us from the happy life.
Accidentally or on purpose, every day we limit ourselves in something, hiding from life in some of its aspects, and if one day these barriers will fall, which will be an amazing life. However, you can not wait for this day, and bring it on their own - that's 20 things, letting go of that, you will be able to break through the walls of their limitations and be happy.
1. Approval of the
Who cares about the fact that someone is thinking about them? If you are happy with the decisions that are taking is the right choice, no matter what others might say. Think about how much you will get if you stop constantly look at other people, wondering, like it or not is your decision. Besides, you and half the time not guess what they really think about you people, so is it worth to try?
Listen to advice - please, but do not let others decide how you live your life.
2. Anger and resentment
Anger eats you from the inside, so learn to tolerate those who infuriates you. This does not mean that you can allow others to use you, just to avoid a scandal, just have to learn to deal with anger and hurt, the pain that is inside. Remember that he who angers you, controls you.
Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology, which never received.
Some people relish the insult like a gourmet meal, and it does not lead to anything good. These feelings are not hurt to who you're offended or angry, but only you.
3. The image of the ideal body
How often have you conducted on the tips of the beauty industry, the opinion of your family and friends? Your body - is the little that really belongs to you, and who, if not you, decide how it should look? The only thing that matters - how you feel. Comfortable or not, the rest - decay.
4. The image of the ideal partner
The perfect partner does not exist, not even hope. Each of us has a perfect image, or at least a set of exemplary qualities to be met by a man, but life usually spits on these lists and laughs at them.
What qualities should a partner that you were happy? For all the people the same: you have to love him with all my heart, to feel easy and comfortable with him, and he must accept you for who you are. If you have the first two points - great, you find what you need. It remains to raise a last point.
He is not perfect. You - too, and you will never be perfect. But if he ever made you laugh, if he admits that he is a man, and make mistakes, be with him and give him everything you can. He's not going to read poetry, do not think about you every moment, but he will give you a part of himself, even though he knows that you can break it. Do not evaluate. Do not hurt him, do not try to change it and do not expect more from him than he could give. Smile when he makes you happy, cry when he infuriates you and bored when he is not with you. Love - it's hard to have just because it's there. Because the common people do not exist, but there is one man who will be perfect for you.
5. The ideal life
Just as there is no ideal partner, there is no perfect life. Life - this is what you invest in it, so if you are not willing to work seriously and make an effort, then you are choosing to be miserable. The choices that you made, directly affects how your life goes.
You can create your own world, the most beautiful of all worlds.
6. You are going to get rich
Many people live their entire lives with the idea that they need to become millionaires. Despite the fact that it is not bad, in fact, the purpose, it does take a lot of work. In addition, do not make money is an end in itself, you're not going to swim in them like Scrooge.
The main thing - to find a job that will become your passion, and self-actualization, and then the money will come (of course, if you do not feel disgust for them).
7. The idea that Fortune will turn to face you
Do not wait, when Lady Luck knocks on your door, although it can occur at any time. You appreciate the life that you have and be thankful for what you have. Luck never come if you are expecting it.
There is no time for excuses. Forget what the "no time", there is only "no desire". Excuses - it's just your attempt not to feel that by shit, when you once again not to do that long ago should have made.
9. Thoughts of former
You broke up because of something, in any case, that was the reason. Remembering their former, do not think about the person, and the only lessons that gave you the life that you have received from that person. Do not get stuck on the feelings of the person who will never be with you - it will only destroy a new relationship and make you suffer.
It's hard to admit that you have something wrong. It's just that other people had more knowledge or skills to do something right. So stubborn enough, just accept it as a fact. The less you have of stubbornness, the more you are open to something new. Think about how much you can experience and feel, if you try to understand and accept someone else's opinion except his.
Enough to put off, it's time to hatch.
Stop postponing for tomorrow, live in today. If you are constantly putting off some business, think about whether to do it at all? Maybe it does not need you, really? And if you want, do it now - the constant postponement of tomorrow provides you with only a sense of guilt and stress. Should I suffer so much?
12. Baggage memories
You should not pull a baggage of memories, especially about past relationships. If you're really loved someone, or think that love, you will unconsciously compare, apply the projection on the new man, which is in no way to blame.
Plant a new relationship, get rid of the old, and not only in life but also in your head. And this is true not only for love, but for all relations in general: with friends, co-workers, bosses, etc.
Everything that comes out of your head in the form of thoughts and words, comes back in the form of reality. So change your attitudes to "everything will be fine." Nothing is impossible for a person who believes in it.
14. Do not judge anyone
Why is it so important to all that is happening in the other? So we spend a lot of time discussing and condemning others, and they - we.
As the world - it is a projection of our thoughts, we know that all condemn us (because they themselves do it). A vicious circle: you will not be able to board №1, that is, not to think about you think, if we do not stop to judge other people.
Just remember: you have not been in their shoes, and even if it seems that there were - there were not. Each head cockroaches, but in life - their circumstances (due to cockroaches), so that the tie.
Happiness is not to have what you want, and to want what you have.
Even social networks make people unhappy, because they look at their former schoolmates and acquaintances and green with envy, feeling worthless.
The next time you pierce the envy, think about this: "I wish I could be a man who envy?" Surely not, as you love yourself (even if somewhere very deep).
You look at someone else's life, who does not know you have no idea what this man is thinking. Perhaps at that moment, when he dives into the pool of his private home, he hates himself or wildly afraid of something? Maybe you're walking through the woods on a sunny day, having much more fun than he is basking on the white sand in the Maldives?
In general, enough to look at the others, if you do well now - hence, all right, if not, then do so that was good.
Do happy people tend to have a sense of self-esteem. Just do not confuse it with a bloated ego. Happy people are happy with who they are, they radiate confidence, not afraid to show its merits.
There is no reason for uncertainty, no. If you have traits that you hate yourself, there are two ways: take them or change. In any case, in every human being there is everything at once: a libertine, and the Puritan and deceitful bastard and the right, a free man. You choose who you will be, only you, and not nature, it is all to do with it.
17. To depend on someone to be happy
No one, no one in this life will not fill your void if it is. No one will make you happy when you are unhappy. To share their happiness with someone else, you must first find this happiness, and then find someone else. So do not even hope that your happiness in someone's hands, only you.
Live in the past, then burying his present. Errors were, well, who did not have them? Arrange your memories lavish funeral, only remember, and live on.
19. Total control
Sometimes you need to just relax and let life go the way it goes. You can not control everything, and have to live with it. Otherwise, you'll always be nervous, mad, but in the end still can not do anything. Just there are things beyond your control, that must be taken for what they are.
The main thing - balance. On one side of the beam, which is adrift, with another - the idiot who beats a blank wall.
If you do not wait, you'll never be disappointed.
Often we think that if we do so, then other people have to do the same. That's bullshit. No one you should not like you do not have to. No one should be polite, attentive, careful, honest, agreeable, friendly, after all. And you also do not have to.
Nothing has to be perfect, delightful, pleasant, memorable, but it can be. If it is - fine, if not, you will not be upset. Be prepared to take whatever life sends you, and be happy.