To be able to wait - the secret of happiness

When you celebrate 35-plus, all friends and acquaintances begin delicately so soothing, he says, increased exposure over the years, and how good spirits, it greatly adds to the quality and cost. Yes, damn it, they're right: the more years, the greater the exposure.

What problems arise in life due to the fact that you can not wait! Do not tolerate - this our women tend to overkill (of forgiveness sometimes reduce it would not hurt), but that's it - wait. Do not fire up there and then, when the chief is not the case reprimanded. Do not answer this very second when Naham in the store or transport. Do not call a man who shows no interest to you. Do not go to an hour after a quarrel reconciled to his beloved that he was guilty. Do not yell back, when her husband without warning on rising tone moved. And much more "no", because when you're young, emotions and hormones - over the edge, and a little self-love.

When you become a mature person, even those who previously always been able to bring you out of yourself, say: "Well, you and endurance!ยป You do not know, enjoy it or be upset. Because, on the one hand, exposure definitely not a sign of youth, and the other - sometimes impossible to get a buzz because you know how to govern themselves, that self-discipline - not an empty word, and you still can do it.

in your life probably happened or is something like this ... Wrote one angry SMS - we want eight more after topstitch and explain. Had a fight on the phone with someone close - bursting immediately call back and speak to the end, and calls as long as your number will not block. Not the young man opened the door - will ring the doorbell as long as the police did not cause. Send the last farewell e-mail, and then another three most farewell, and two days later - one conciliatory. Mom all speak out, I left the house, returned in the evening the next day, because rent an apartment - not a fairy tale. My husband and I decided to get a divorce, a statement in the heat of threatened and the next day came to ask for money for boots. Slammed the door in the office of the chief, after half an hour brought an application for dismissal, the night crying in the morning agreed to work overtime against their positions. Thus, he killed all the achievements of the first step, lost self-esteem and proved to be very unbalanced person. To stay would have ...

Stop the flow of consciousness, when the raging hurricanes in the shower, very difficult. This is a high class - such a control is. Anyone who can at the right time just to say: "Stop" uniquely capable of winning any war and any party. You choose what you will: count to 10 or up to 100, 365 to 247 multiply in your mind, take it all around the red objects. Or smash the hell out of your mobile phone, if the hand and drags dial. Or go porevet bathroom. Or go out and get around their neighborhood 15 times or press the floor 50 times. Or a bunch of ways to put himself in a sense - in the sense of self-esteem.

Once in a lifetime comes a time when you realize that your your will, and with it comes peace of mind. You start to realize clearly the best choice may not be the fact that the fate of your throws in at the moment . What if on some occasion you want to cry, it's worth doing once, but all the letters and send SMS in the morning (if at dawn on the street does not dawn in the shower). What's your 35 years, there will be 36 and 37 years ... And life does not stop, the man worthy to meet, and children are born, and the work will be on the heart. What to say about 25, which is already there chasing horses?

It seems to be able to wait - perhaps the most important secret of happiness. Do not miss the first available option, but take it one dreamed about, do not blurt out the first thing that came to mind, and what you will regret, and said aptly , subtle and to the point - and get a real pleasure because he was able to survive and hit the target. Because the right decision - a dish that is best served cold.

You may say, "But what about emotional intelligence, if you suppress your emotions?" Do not suppress, and to realize and manage, respectively, to help thinking. The rare decision taken rashly, are effective. Emotional intelligence - it is certainly not hysterical.

And, most importantly, your shutter speed creates respect for you. This is what is likely to learn in life.

Author: Lily Ahremchik
Illustrated on preview: Fox Nursery Art



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