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10 ways to make yourself happy
Excellent advice on how to make life better.
1. Do not jump to conclusions.
This habit can complicate life in two ways. Firstly, we believe that we know what will happen, so disable your account and begin to act on the basis of this assumption. People - diviners useless. Most of their assumptions wrong, and here - and their actions are wrong. The second aspect of this habit - we imagined that we can read minds, and as if we know why other people do what they do, or what they think. Wrong again, and fundamentally wrong. It is this nonsense destroys the relationship like no other.
2. Do not dramatize.
Many inflate lethal catastrophe of small failures, and react accordingly. The habit of making mountains out of molehills creates anxiety, which is either non-existent or so small that and nothing to worry about. Why do they do that? who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. In any case, this is so stupid, and how detrimental.
3. Do not invent rules.
A huge part of all these "must" and "should" with whom you nosites probably useless. All that they give you, it's nervousness and guilt. What For? Following these imaginary rules you score a brain unnecessary obstacles and childish orders. And when you try to transfer these rights to other, then turn into a frightening or boring whiner opinionated bigot.
4. Avoid labels and stereotypes.
The words that you use, you can substitute. Language of negativity and criticism breeds the same mindset. Trying to cram things into a certain category, you no longer see their real meaning, thus limiting our thinking to the absolute futility. Look - there. Do not hang tags. You will be amazed at what you see.
5. Do not be a perfectionist.
Life is not just a "black or white" or "all or nothing". In most cases, "enough" is just enough. If you're looking for the perfect job, then you will most likely never find it. In all other work will seem worse than they actually are. You will look perfect relationship, and probably spend a lifetime in solitude. Perfectionism - is a mental illness that will not allow you to enjoy, and each time will send you to look for what is not.
6. Do not generalize.
One or two setbacks - not a sign of permanent failure. A random triumph does not turn you into a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events are not always a sign of a prolonged trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.
7. Do not take to heart.
Most people, even your friends and colleagues, do not speak, do not think and do not care about you 99% of your time. The people in your organization, or even living in the neighborhood, probably never to have heard of. Yes, in fact, he does not want to hear. Ups and downs in life, warmth and indifference of other people do not have a person to do with you. If they pretend this is just make you feel more miserable than you need.
8. Do not believe emotions.
What you feel is not always the best indicator of what's really going on. Just because you feel it does not mean it's true. Sometimes emotions can serve as a source of fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a cold. Do you feel you are doing well or badly - the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not the truth.
9. Do not give in to apathy.
Train to be an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. Negative attitude - it's the same thing as looking at the world through distorting, dirty glasses. You will only notice the flaws, ignoring or not noticing anything else. It's just amazing how you can see what is not there, if only to start looking. And, of course, if you start to look for the positive things, you will find them, too.
10. Do not live in the past.
This advice is the most important of all: forget and live on. Most of anger, frustration, misery and despair in this world comes from people holding past grievances and problems. The more you scroll through them in mind, the bigger they will seem to you, and the worse you will feel. Do not fight with misfortune. Forget and live on. Do this, and thereby depriving him of power to hurt you.
And of course, do not listen to others' advice :)
1. Do not jump to conclusions.
This habit can complicate life in two ways. Firstly, we believe that we know what will happen, so disable your account and begin to act on the basis of this assumption. People - diviners useless. Most of their assumptions wrong, and here - and their actions are wrong. The second aspect of this habit - we imagined that we can read minds, and as if we know why other people do what they do, or what they think. Wrong again, and fundamentally wrong. It is this nonsense destroys the relationship like no other.
2. Do not dramatize.
Many inflate lethal catastrophe of small failures, and react accordingly. The habit of making mountains out of molehills creates anxiety, which is either non-existent or so small that and nothing to worry about. Why do they do that? who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. In any case, this is so stupid, and how detrimental.
3. Do not invent rules.
A huge part of all these "must" and "should" with whom you nosites probably useless. All that they give you, it's nervousness and guilt. What For? Following these imaginary rules you score a brain unnecessary obstacles and childish orders. And when you try to transfer these rights to other, then turn into a frightening or boring whiner opinionated bigot.
4. Avoid labels and stereotypes.
The words that you use, you can substitute. Language of negativity and criticism breeds the same mindset. Trying to cram things into a certain category, you no longer see their real meaning, thus limiting our thinking to the absolute futility. Look - there. Do not hang tags. You will be amazed at what you see.
5. Do not be a perfectionist.
Life is not just a "black or white" or "all or nothing". In most cases, "enough" is just enough. If you're looking for the perfect job, then you will most likely never find it. In all other work will seem worse than they actually are. You will look perfect relationship, and probably spend a lifetime in solitude. Perfectionism - is a mental illness that will not allow you to enjoy, and each time will send you to look for what is not.
6. Do not generalize.
One or two setbacks - not a sign of permanent failure. A random triumph does not turn you into a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events are not always a sign of a prolonged trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.
7. Do not take to heart.
Most people, even your friends and colleagues, do not speak, do not think and do not care about you 99% of your time. The people in your organization, or even living in the neighborhood, probably never to have heard of. Yes, in fact, he does not want to hear. Ups and downs in life, warmth and indifference of other people do not have a person to do with you. If they pretend this is just make you feel more miserable than you need.
8. Do not believe emotions.
What you feel is not always the best indicator of what's really going on. Just because you feel it does not mean it's true. Sometimes emotions can serve as a source of fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a cold. Do you feel you are doing well or badly - the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not the truth.
9. Do not give in to apathy.
Train to be an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. Negative attitude - it's the same thing as looking at the world through distorting, dirty glasses. You will only notice the flaws, ignoring or not noticing anything else. It's just amazing how you can see what is not there, if only to start looking. And, of course, if you start to look for the positive things, you will find them, too.
10. Do not live in the past.
This advice is the most important of all: forget and live on. Most of anger, frustration, misery and despair in this world comes from people holding past grievances and problems. The more you scroll through them in mind, the bigger they will seem to you, and the worse you will feel. Do not fight with misfortune. Forget and live on. Do this, and thereby depriving him of power to hurt you.
And of course, do not listen to others' advice :)
