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Tibetan perspective on parenting
- No humiliation and corporal punishment. The only reason that hitting children - they can not fight back.
- The first period of 5 years. With a child should be treated "like a king." Prohibit nothing could only distract. If he does something dangerous, something to make and publish a frightened face frightened cry. The child understands this language perfectly. At this time laid the activity, curiosity, interest in life. The child is unable to build a long chain of logic. For example, he broke an expensive vase. He does not understand that buying a vase you have to work to earn money. Punishment he will perceive as the suppression of a position of strength. You teach him not to beat a vase, and obey the one who is stronger. It you want?
- The second period from 5 to 10. At this time with the child should be treated "like a slave." To set them tasks and require their implementation. Can be punished for non-compliance (but not physically). At this time, actively developing the intellect. The child must learn to predict people's reactions to his actions, cause a positive attitude toward themselves and avoid negative manifestations. At this time, do not be afraid to load the child knowledge.
- The third period from 10 to 15. How to raise a child in this period? How to handle it? As an equal. Not on an equal footing, namely "as an equal", since you still have more experience and knowledge. Consult with him on all important issues, provide and promote independence. His will to impose a "velvet gloves" in the discussion, tips, advice. If you do not like something, then accentuate its attention to the negative consequences of avoiding outright bans. At this time the autonomy and independence of thought.
- Last period of 15 years. Treat it with respect. To raise a child is too late, and you can only reap the fruits of their labors.
What are the consequences of non-compliance can cause these rules?
- If you suppress a child under 5 years old, you suppress it vitality, zest for life, intelligence. Teach him thoughtlessly and habitually obey brute force. Make him easy prey to all sorts of villains.
- If you continue to lisp after 5, the child will grow infantile, unable to work and all the spiritual efforts.
- If you take care of the child as a little after 10, it will grow uncertain, will be dependent on a more independent friends who may not always have the desired impact.
- If you do not respect the child after 15, then he will not forgive and leave forever as soon as possible.