It is time to end the conversation?

There are people who, during boring conversation can simply be switched off and dreaming about something else, some, despite the absolutely uninteresting conversation, continue to listen carefully to the interlocutor, and most importantly, they remember everything about what they are told. The head of such people sometimes becomes like a pantry, clogged with trash: there are the names of the pets, and the results of the pressure measurement, and horoscopes for every day. And now remember myself. Often it happens that you are addicted to some topic, for example, you can endlessly talk about your child or nephew or a healthy diet, yoga, and travel, but it really interesting to talk to? In this article, a few signs, namely 8, which can determine that your partner is already bored and time for you to change the subject. Monosyllabic replies, "Really?" "Exactly!" "Yeah ..." "Uh-huh" - sluggish responses of this type and nodding at random signal you that the source tired. He continued to listen to you because well-educated, but in fact he was already tired of the order of your stories about the health of his beloved aunt. By the way, at times when the source says, "It's fun!", It is unlikely it's funny really. In the end, when we were funny and fun, we laugh or smile. Repeat the last phrase, what you have said information, even if we do not listen to it, it is at any time "stuck" in our brain. And we can quickly play the last heard the phrase. So when we want to pretend that we listen carefully speaking, we can repeat the last sentence, but only questioning tone. Attention, if the person has once again repeats for you, it means he is bored. Simple questions people uninterested in conversation, usually ask a simple question: "How's the family?", "What to do this weekend?". When growing curiosity about the topic of conversation, the issues become more complex and interesting. Changing the position of the body, we all know that better than our words, our body says. We are, without noticing, we submit non-verbal signals. Removal from the interlocutor, crossed his arms, rotate the torso so that the feet point to the door, the position of the feet "foot to foot" (the interviewee shakes his upper leg) - all of which can indicate that a person tired of hearing. I do not really trust the non-verbal language, because she personally always put the foot on the leg and the upper leg shake, regardless of whether I am interested in the conversation or not. Frequent yawning Good conversation should be like a refreshing dessert, eating that, you want more, and not on a tight lunch, after which pulls except sleep. If the source is too often yawns or trying to hold back a yawn - it is certainly a reason to change the subject. When detached view exciting conversation all our attention is focused on the speaker. We carefully look at it. The loss of interest in the eloquent wandering eye (interviewee considers his shoes or parts of the interior of the room) and detached "glass" view into the distance. Interlocutor something fiddles with journal Applied Cognitive Psychology published a study in which a group of people were forced to listen to a very boring lecture, during it they are constantly doing something his hands drummed his fingers on the table, going over some piece of clothing, painted , snapping a mechanical pen or play with wristwatches. It is interesting that in fact all these gestures help the person focus on what he listens to, but if you need to communicate that information to the interlocutor, who has made so much effort to overcome the dream? The interviewer does not participate in the conversation when we passionately about something tells us we forget that this is still a conversation, so the source must somehow comment on what we say. Often the dialogue turns into a monologue, which can be very tiring. So do not forget to give the other party to speak and listen to his opinion, then turn the conversation exciting and fruitful.



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