Learn to speak convincingly

1. Say "and" instead of "but».
eg., "It's you You did well, and if you ...»
instead - "Yes, it's good, but you should ...»

Because "but" negates all that has been said before him.

2. Say "and" instead of "and yet».
eg., "I understand that you can not give an answer so quickly, so let's ...»
instead of, "I understand that you can not answer right now, but still it would be better ...»

Because "all the same" says the person that you deeply care about his wishes, expectations, doubts or questions.

3. Use the word "for" instead of the word "against».
eg., "In order to change something, I'll write down in the sports section».
instead of "What I would still come up against boredom?»

4. Avoid rough "no" because "no" uttered with appropriate intonation, can produce a very negative impression on the partner.

5. strike out the phrase "honest" from your vocabulary, because it sounds like honesty for you - an exception.

6. Say "wrong" instead of "no».
eg., "wrong" or "not now." "As such, I do not like." "At the moment I do not have time for it»
instead of "No, I do not like it" "No, I have no time».

Because "no" off-putting. "No" - is something completed and the final decision.

7. Change the angle of view, using the word "already" instead of "more».
eg., "You've already done half»
instead of "You've taken only half?»

Because the word "already" makes little to a lot.

8. Forever forget the word "only" and "just" or replace them with others.
eg., "It is my opinion," "This is my idea»
instead of "I'm just saying my opinion" "It's just such an idea».

Cross out "just" and "only».

9. Remove the word "wrong." It is better to ask clarifying questions and show the other person that you are also trying to solve the problem.
eg., "It did not work out as needed. Let's think about how to fix the error, or to avoid it in the future »
instead of "Wrong! This is all your fault ».

10. Say "in" and "in so many" instead of "somewhere" and "in the area." Similarly, appointed for a period of time.
eg., "I'll call you on Friday," "I'll call you tomorrow at 11 o'clock»
instead of "I'll call you later in the week" "I'll call you tomorrow around 11».

11. Ask open-ended questions. Not content with monosyllabic answers "yes" or "no».
eg., "How do you like it?" "When can I call you back?»
instead of "Do you like it?" "You can be a call».

Because questions with "How", "what" or "who" ... extract valuable information.

12. Use the phrase "From now on I ..." instead of "If I ...».
eg., "From now on I will listen carefully to the advice»
instead of "If I had listened to his advice. Then this would have happened. »

Because "If I ..." regrets that it has been, and rarely helps to advance further. It is better to look to the future. The phrase "From now on I ..." - a good basis for such a position.

13. Stop evading using the "ought" and "need to be».
Better: "It is important to do this job in the first place»
instead of "You have to think about it" "We need to first finish the job».

"We should have" and "need to be" do not say anything specific. It is better to clearly call it (or something), who or what you say ("I" - "you" - "You" - "we").
Eg., "You should finish it", "You should give priority to this work»

14. Say "I do" or "I want" instead of "I have».
eg., "I would like first to think a little" "I first gather the necessary information»
instead of "I must first think a little," "I have to collect information».

"I have to" is related to coercion, duress or external definition. Everything that you do with this setting, you do not go voluntarily. "I do" or "I would like" sounds much more positive for other, more friendly and motivated.

15. strike out the word "generally" and "property" from your vocabulary.
eg., "That's right»
instead of, "Well, do it right».

"Actually," contains no information and is perceived as a constraint.

16. Say "I recommend you" instead of "You must."
eg., "I advise you to trust me," "I encourage you to think about it", "I advise you to make a decision as soon as possible».

The words "should" and "should" You put pressure interlocutor and robs him an opportunity to make a decision. "I recommend you" sounds much more friendly and positive.

17. Use as alternatives to "I advise you to" like "I beg you" and "I'll be grateful to you».
eg., "I ask you to make a decision as soon as possible" "I am grateful to you if you trust me»
instead of "you have to make a decision as soon as possible" "You have to trust me».

"I beg you" and "I am grateful to you" is very easy to say, and they make a miracle.

18. Avoid all forms of negation; better speak up positively.
eg., "It's going to be okay" "It's a really good idea" "It's easy for me»
instead of "This is not my problem" "The idea is really good" "It would be easy for me».

Speaking negatives, you go a long way. It is too difficult and can cause unpleasant associations. Speak directly and positively.

19. Avoid other typical forms with "no».
eg., "Please do not misunderstand me," "Please think about ...!" "Please make sure ....!»
instead of "Please do not misunderstand me." "Please, do not forget that ....!" "Let's not lose sight of that!».

Such negative expression turns into a positive. Clearly say what you want. Thus focuses all attention on the desired goal.

20. Use the "motivating negations».
eg., "What you said is not quite right" "Here I am with you do not agree»
instead of "What you said is wrong," "Here I owe you object».

Motivating denial makes sense in situations where you need to tell the other person something unpleasant or completely reject his suggestion. It is important that you submit your opinion and at the same time telling the truth. With motivating denial you can say it's more polite. You aktsentiruete attention to the intended target.

21. Prefer the exact notion of non-specific verbs instead of "make", "work" and "to engage».
eg., "We have not yet made a decision on ...." "I just read a report" "The present situation is that ...»
instead of "We're not yet able to understand" "I'm working with the protocol" "We are doing everything we can».

Nonspecific verbs leave too much freedom for interpretation.

22. Ask questions with "when" and "how" instead of such, which can only answer "yes" or "no».
eg., "When you can help me ....?" "When can we meet?»
"When can I talk to you?»

In response to a question with "Do" we receive a response only in the form of a "yes" or "no." When you can count on the results - remains open. So do not ask, it is possible "if" something something something or something, and prdemonstriruyte their positive expectations with "when" and "how».

23. Connect the other using "you" and "we" instead of having to constantly put themselves in the spotlight with "I».
eg., "You see now, what is it" "Please give me your address" "Now we are together we shall understand»
instead of "Now I'll show you what's wrong," "I still need your address" "Now I'll explain it».

If you keep talking in the first person, then you come to the fore themselves and their actions. The use of "you" and "we" are combined and concentrated attention to the interlocutor, too.

24. crosses out of your vocabulary "never", "every", "all", "always" and instead be specific.
eg., "Here you are sure to help me!" "You're late second week» & quot; ... and ... jealous of my success & quot;
instead of "Never nobody helps me," "You are always late" "They're all jealous of my success».

Remove generalization. Think about "what" exactly what happened, "someone" concerned "when" it happened. To clearly identify their goals. Generalizations create a negative moment and limit future opportunities.

25. Produce reaction of the interlocutor with the help of half-open questions.
eg., "How much do you like it?" "What other issues are on your side essentially say?
instead of "How do you like it?" "How do you like my idea?" "What you have more questions?"

Correctly chosen word gives your question in the right direction. You positively affect the reaction. The information you have previously sent in a positive direction.