Control of parasites

People talking.

So, the word “just” weighs down their speech people who are used to actually everything in life ... to complicate. And the more complex the motivation of their intricate actions, the more often the word “just” will slip through their speech. It’s like they’re asking the other person to understand it, because it’s so simple! They are also abused by people who are addicted, often justifying themselves: “I just wanted to see the vase, and it suddenly broke.” Or, “I just told him not to interfere in his own business, and he just took offense.”

The words “type”, “shorter”, “means” are used by people who are somewhat aggressive. More often these are teenagers or people who have retained their dependence on teenager stereotypes in adulthood.
“By the way” says just that a person feels awkward and inappropriate. But with the help of this remark, he tries to attract attention and give words meaning.
“It’s the same” adorns the speech of people with poor memory or lazy, who often do not even try to remember the right word. The intellectual work of finding the right word they shift to the interlocutor. However, they tend to shift their other duties and duties to others.
“Really” is used by people who believe that their inner world is richer, their eyes are sharper, and their thoughts and guesses are more interesting than everyone else’s. They are people who constantly open their eyes to reality. Of course, they firmly believe that their worldview is the only true one.
“As if” is used equally by teenagers (as well as “type” and “means”), and artistic natures who value uncertainty in life situations.
“Practically” is a management word. Very quickly sticks to people living with specific goals, especially not thinking about the philosophical meaning of life. I'm sorry, they don't care so much.
“Actually” is the word of people who are insecure, quickly losing their temper, always looking for a trick in everything that is happening, and those who are ready to start a verbal quarrel even because of nonsense.
“So to speak” and “properly” are vignettes in the speech of the intellectual.

It's Russian!

If, according to the parasitic words prevailing in the language, one tries to determine the character of its carrier, then Russian-speaking citizens, alas, look like people who are uncertain, constantly doubting.
But it is not only the Russians who give out superfluous words. Recently, the news agency Lenta.ru published the results of a survey conducted by the public organization “Campaign for the purity of the English language”.

The purpose of the study is to find out which words or expressions in modern English annoy users the most. Leaders were the phrases “at the moment”, “so to speak”, “absolutely” and “with all due respect”.
In the French speech, researchers refer to parasites too often pronounced interjection euh - "um", the verb "understand", the phrases "how to say it" and "I don't know": "You, I don't know, sports, or what, should do ..." Or, I don't know, go on a diet. There's a lot to think about.

OTHER EXTERNATIONAL

Of course, listening to your interlocutor automatically insert meaningless words into the speech is difficult. But this is an extreme case. Usually, people use extra words relatively moderately to cope with anxiety, hide embarrassment, or buy time for reflection. And the so-called parasites here come to the rescue, make speech more humane.
However, today there is another trend – “smooth speaking”, brought to life by television.

Listen, in the programs of the colloquial genre, it is no longer possible to distinguish a guest from a host: both pronounce a beautifully composed text equipped with psychological and other terms, which has little in common with ordinary human speech. Therefore, when a friend in a conversation with you suddenly begins to talk like Dr. Kurpatov, the joy of communication is not enough. Or here’s the question: Which of the young people who talk about their feelings for you would you rather believe: the one who, holding back the excitement, slightly stumped on a couple of “actually” and a few “so to speak,” or the one whose confession bounces off his teeth, like an announcer? Again, if it stutters, it means it thinks. If the words flow, it is not a speech, but a song. Perhaps aesthetically beautiful, but sung out of love for art, and not addressed to the interlocutor.

In the Risk Zone

Parasitic words, like a virus, can be picked up by anyone. But there are three main groups of people who are particularly susceptible to infection.

First Group
These are those who are afraid of garbage in their vocabulary, so they try their best to explain themselves exclusively in the language of Turgenev. But in an attempt to ennoble their speech, they begin to abuse epithets and winged expressions, which from frequent repetition still sound like words-parasites.

Second Group
These are hypercommunicative people who, because of the desire to find a common language with the interlocutor, begin to copy his movements, facial expressions and, of course, the manner of speech. The same category includes people in the system of values of which the leading position is occupied by the definition of “fashion”. They are simply copying the language of those they think are worthy of respect.

Third Group
These are people who rarely listen to their speech.

Come out of the shadows

If parasitic words are present in your speech and you want to quickly get rid of them, use the following methods.
#1 Start giving words their meaning back. Do not say them without thinking, but always remember what each of them means. This method applies little to the word “actually”, but remember that the word “shorter” is part of the expression “in short”, not difficult. And if, by saying “shorter”, you really formulate your thought in a short and clear way, this word will fit into place and cease to be meaningless. The same thing will happen with “as if” if it precedes the comparison.
#2 Try to replace words with some sound, as they do with obscene words on TV. On the one hand, it will help you keep track of unnecessary words in your speech and speak them unconsciously. On the other hand, it is still indecent all the time to beep, whistling or whistling when talking. So the chance that you'll clear your speech soon is pretty high.
#3 Punish yourself with a fine. I said, "Sort of," and a day without sweets. I said “by the way” out of place – immediately three squats. Very effective method, but difficult to do if you do not have an iron will.
#4 Bring the situation to the point of absurdity – arrange a “Parasite Day”. The whole day (preferably the weekend) is explained only with the help of parasitic words. Not only will you tell them so much in a day that you yourself will get bored, but most importantly, you will clearly make sure that there is absolutely no benefit in communicating from them.
#5 Read more – it will enrich your vocabulary. And next time you don’t have to look for the right word, hide behind “as if” and “like”.
#6 Create an audio archive. Record yourself on a recorder (say, set yourself the task of telling about the past day and events for at least 5-7 minutes), and then listen carefully to the monologue.
No. 7 Enroll in oratory courses.