It’s time to leave if you notice warning signs.

Most people are used to having someone decide for them. It didn’t come immediately, but it happened historically. First it's mom and dad, then teachers, and then the state. Just like that. But quit No one took it from this cycle. A person is free to do as he pleases. Risk, think outside the box, go all-in.



Some people, on the contrary, like to be “in the ranks”. Learn what they say, work where they say it. Then family, mortgage, kids. It's just like humans. But something in your brain clicks and you need to talk. Some people prefer friends. The richest man hires a personal psychologist. And the complaints are the same: something missed, something missing. What to do?! Who knows?

The right to leave Childhood You are a child. You can walk, talk, read and even count a little. Parents take you by the hand and take you to the store. Buying. capSo it's not cold. What? It's warm, it's hot. And you grow, and each time the hat becomes a little small for you. Yes, it stretches, but you still feel uncomfortable. You're cramped.



You say, "Dad, Mom." This hat is small for me and I can no longer wear it.” But parents don't pay attention to it. And now it's up to you. Either continue to wear a tight headgear or take off. Some people even at a young age can buy what they like. That, to paraphrase it, is growing up. Some, by the way, continue to wear a hat up to 30 years.

Now you've grown up and gone to work. That hat you like. You live alone, you take responsibility for yourself. The work is not bad or good, but you did not study in vain, so you know what is done and how.



Now the boss is “rewarding” you with duties. And you depend on him now. Not just you, but also your family. After all, the earned money is needed not only for personal “wants”. And you try, you work, you work hard. And your labor, more or less, is paid on time.

But there comes a moment when you realize that you have outgrown the place where you are now. And his salary, accordingly, has also increased. You tell your employer that you will be understood. Sometimes that happens. But they tell you, "Do what you have to do, there's a pond behind the fence for people like you." You look behind that fence and you see some shapes. They are waiting and waiting for your place.



You go back to work, but something's wrong. You try to push bad thoughts away, but it's above you. And you're leaving. You swing over the fence and wonder: the figures behind the fence are cardboard. There's no one there. But now you're your own head. If you want, you look for a better office, and if you want, you open something of your own.

Here you are in a beautiful hat and do not depend on any bosses. Your ex-boss bites his elbows and cries over a sheet of debts. You're good. It is a pity that it took too long before you realized that you can and should leave. But it's okay. You have done a lot and achieved success.



But again, this itchy prick is somewhere deep in the skull. Something's wrong. Children play at home, half-wall TV and a beautiful wife. But for some reason she's cold with you. It's getting further and further away. Obviously, you were busy looking for ways to feed the kids and make sure your family didn't need anything!

Tell her how you feel when you’re alone. She just takes a long breath and looks up at you. First her lips and then her eyelids begin to shake. Tears are dripping. You realize she has someone else. And apparently for quite a while. You are not the first, you are not the last.



And you decide what to do: stay with the person who betrayed you, because of children and feelings of nostalgia, or leave. Remember, You have the right to do that.! Of course, children should not be left either morally or financially. Naturally, it will be sad and painful. But you're an adult and you make your own decisions. No one will take that right away from you.

Independent, strong-willed people will always find an opportunity to correct the situation without compromise with themselves. Someone simpler just will not get involved and swim with the flow. The great thing is that both of them make their own choices. There is simply no right or wrong decision. There is always risk and calm. Who do you think you are in this life?

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