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I feed my son’s friend from a large family, rings bones at our guests, I love to see his full smile.
Vanya is an eternally hungry boy from a large family that lives next door to Kolya. They have been friends since first grade and do lessons together almost every day. Mom Kohli happily feeds and treats a friend of her son with various delicacies. Tatiana sees that the child is malnourished. But lately, all this has started to annoy Kohl. What the wise mother did to reason with her son, read further in the article.
A few years ago, a large family settled next to us. We immediately met and began to communicate. Tamara is a kind person, a very devout woman. I used to help her babysit because I had only one child. Kolenka liked to be in a large company of guys, at that time he was only 4 years old.
Most of all, my son became friends with Vanya, his one-year-old. The boys went to the first grade together, sat at the same desk and met almost every day at our house to do lessons together. To be honest, I was so used to it that I could not imagine them apart.
My son is 8 years old and he is still a friend. Only recently have I started to notice something wrong. The thing is, I'm constantly feeding Tamara's son. I can see he's malnourished at home. The ever-hungry boy does not look very healthy, thin as a paper leaf. Therefore, I always try to give Vanechka a supplement, which, by the way, he never refuses.
When I pack a backpack for school, I don’t put one sandwich, I put two. The second is Vanya. I do the same with fruits: bananas and apples. It seemed to me that my son understood everything and did not mind. But he didn't like me spending so much time with his friend. He's more important to me than Kolya. I understand what childhood jealousy is. I have spoken to my son several times. Except that doesn't help.
Kolya recently made a scene during dinner. Vanya just finished the second serving of rice soup. My son grabbed a spoon from him and said, “Stop eating my family, you have your own!” Vanya did not answer, only quietly moved away from the plate. I did not scold Kolya in front of his friend. Instead, I took Vanya home and asked him for forgiveness. Then I decided to have a serious conversation with my son.
It was obvious that Kolya was offended by me. I started, ‘Son, your friend really has a family, you’re right. But you must also understand that it is different from ours. Vanya has many brothers and sisters, many of whom are still quite young. His mom doesn't give him as much attention as I give you. She just doesn't have time to do that because she has to babysit the baby.”
Kolya sat up with his nose. And I said, "Kolya, you know how much I love you." And I always wanted you to be a kind and sympathetic boy. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices to help others. And if our sacrifice is just an extra soup for your friend, can't we afford it? ?
My son burst into tears. He was afraid that I would love Vanya more than him, because I always feel sorry for him. I understand that somewhere I made a mistake, somewhere, maybe overstepped the stick. But no matter what happens, it is important to talk to your child in time and explain everything to him.
My Kolenka is a reasonable child. And I'm very happy that he understood. After our conversation, he said he wanted to help not only Vanya, but also his siblings. I asked him to help me make something delicious for the kids. Last weekend we baked cookies, and then went to the light to Vanyusha and his family. Tamara's moved!
That’s how one hungry boy from a neighbor’s large family strengthened my relationship with my son. I know Vanyusha will be fine. I am so glad that I have such a great friend!
Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? Any behavior of a child is always justified for some reason. And the job of the parent is to find out. To do this, Tatiana managed to establish good contact with her son, without breaking down to scream. Children understand everything if they are simply told. Agreed?
Tell me, how would you solve the situation in place of the main character of the story?
A few years ago, a large family settled next to us. We immediately met and began to communicate. Tamara is a kind person, a very devout woman. I used to help her babysit because I had only one child. Kolenka liked to be in a large company of guys, at that time he was only 4 years old.
Most of all, my son became friends with Vanya, his one-year-old. The boys went to the first grade together, sat at the same desk and met almost every day at our house to do lessons together. To be honest, I was so used to it that I could not imagine them apart.
My son is 8 years old and he is still a friend. Only recently have I started to notice something wrong. The thing is, I'm constantly feeding Tamara's son. I can see he's malnourished at home. The ever-hungry boy does not look very healthy, thin as a paper leaf. Therefore, I always try to give Vanechka a supplement, which, by the way, he never refuses.
When I pack a backpack for school, I don’t put one sandwich, I put two. The second is Vanya. I do the same with fruits: bananas and apples. It seemed to me that my son understood everything and did not mind. But he didn't like me spending so much time with his friend. He's more important to me than Kolya. I understand what childhood jealousy is. I have spoken to my son several times. Except that doesn't help.
Kolya recently made a scene during dinner. Vanya just finished the second serving of rice soup. My son grabbed a spoon from him and said, “Stop eating my family, you have your own!” Vanya did not answer, only quietly moved away from the plate. I did not scold Kolya in front of his friend. Instead, I took Vanya home and asked him for forgiveness. Then I decided to have a serious conversation with my son.
It was obvious that Kolya was offended by me. I started, ‘Son, your friend really has a family, you’re right. But you must also understand that it is different from ours. Vanya has many brothers and sisters, many of whom are still quite young. His mom doesn't give him as much attention as I give you. She just doesn't have time to do that because she has to babysit the baby.”
Kolya sat up with his nose. And I said, "Kolya, you know how much I love you." And I always wanted you to be a kind and sympathetic boy. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices to help others. And if our sacrifice is just an extra soup for your friend, can't we afford it? ?
My son burst into tears. He was afraid that I would love Vanya more than him, because I always feel sorry for him. I understand that somewhere I made a mistake, somewhere, maybe overstepped the stick. But no matter what happens, it is important to talk to your child in time and explain everything to him.
My Kolenka is a reasonable child. And I'm very happy that he understood. After our conversation, he said he wanted to help not only Vanya, but also his siblings. I asked him to help me make something delicious for the kids. Last weekend we baked cookies, and then went to the light to Vanyusha and his family. Tamara's moved!
That’s how one hungry boy from a neighbor’s large family strengthened my relationship with my son. I know Vanyusha will be fine. I am so glad that I have such a great friend!
Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? Any behavior of a child is always justified for some reason. And the job of the parent is to find out. To do this, Tatiana managed to establish good contact with her son, without breaking down to scream. Children understand everything if they are simply told. Agreed?
Tell me, how would you solve the situation in place of the main character of the story?
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