What if my mother is waiting for us to visit for the holidays, but my husband has already promised my mother-in-law that we will go to her?

Where to celebrate the New Year, if all relatives live in different cities? Usually in such situations, members of the whole family gather at home with one person. Sometimes there are conflicts on this ground. Especially when it comes to mother-in-law and mother-in-law. How to be in this situation, try to understand our new history.



My husband and I were lucky to celebrate the new year. Our parents live in other cities, so we don’t see each other very often. No one comes home unannounced, rummaging through my lockers, or cleaning up, as is often the case with a mother-in-law. My mom is like that, no matter how much I love her.



When I had my son, it was really hard at first. We had to deal with everything on our own: my husband is always at work, my mother-in-law and my mother are hundreds of miles away. But maybe it's for the best?

I don't get along very well with my husband's mother. She's always unhappy with me, thinks I'm not doing enough for her son. I mean, he's almost hungry here. Of course it's crazy. But to prove something to Olga Fedorovna is simply impossible.



My mother-in-law was widowed last year. My husband did not want her to spend the New Year holidays alone. So we decided to go to her for the New Year and my parents for the next. They are also waiting for us and have been visiting for years.

New plans and nothing, but recently my husband said that this year we should go to his mother. He's already decided! I just forgot to ask. My mom calls me every day and tells me how we’re going. I've already sent photos of New Year's gifts for our Theme. Can I tell her we're not coming? I promised!



I think it'll be fair. One year to visit my mother-in-law and the other year to visit my parents. Especially they live in a private house, near the forest. In the winter, everything turns into a fairy tale!

And the mother-in-law at home does not even have a festive atmosphere. Last year, I spent New Year’s Eve in an embrace with my son, because Olga Fedorovna decided to walk around all the neighbors and show how stately her son became. I hate listening!



Most of all, I don't understand how my husband likes this mother's behavior. An adult man walks by the handle with his mother and congratulates the whole house on the New Year. And his wife is sitting at the table with the child and listening to the Blue Light!

I don't know what to do. I do not want to celebrate the New Year apart from my husband, a family day. But again stuck in the apartment mother-in-law, too, no desire. Perhaps the most annoying thing about this situation is that my husband decided everything without me, as if we didn’t agree on anything. What do you do now?

The situation in which the main heroine of the story appeared signals a lot. Perhaps in the marital relationship came a crisis time. A woman should talk to her husband and find out why he doesn’t consider her opinion. In such cases, it is also important to take into account the child’s opinion.



Perhaps the heroine really needs to go with her son to her parents, and let her husband go to her mother-in-law. Sometimes people need to rest from each other. What do you say?

Tell me in the comments, what would you do in the place of the main character of the story? Where do you think we should celebrate the New Year in these situations?