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Someone loves the New Year, but for me it is a real hard labor.
“I don’t like New Year’s Eve so much that I wouldn’t mind if this holiday wasn’t at all,” says Karina. Her story began as a child, and when she got married, it only got worse. How can you not like one of the brightest family holidays of the year, read more in the article.
I don’t like New Year’s Eve, so I don’t like New Year’s Eve. This was true when I was little and when I grew up. My mother loved putting half the responsibilities on me that I couldn't always handle. I remember when I was 12, she made me make all the Christmas salads. She was the one who prepared me for adulthood. Of course, I failed the task miserably.
Since then, I have tried to make my mother proud. Maybe that's why I grew up so squeamish and my kitchen is always shiny. I just wanted family holidays to have a new meaning for me. Unfortunately, this never happened with my mother.
When I got married, my husband and I started living with his mother. I didn’t know what kind of person she was, and I really hoped that now all the holidays will play with new colors. But things got worse. The New Year has become a real torment for me.
The fact is that Tamara Ivanovna is a sloppy person. She is not friendly, so when her mother-in-law starts cooking, dirt and garbage appear literally everywhere. We have a cat Musya at home. So her hair somehow magically appears in every dish of her mother-in-law.
She doesn't keep an eye on the food in the fridge, so I have to keep throwing out the delay. The same goes for the first-aid kit, which for some reason stores medicines that are older than me.
I have already tried to talk to Tamara Ivanovna and my husband. My mother-in-law says nobody's keeping us here. It's her apartment and she's not going to change anything. And the husband is not ready to move out, because we do not have such a serious financial cushion to pull rent.
I don’t know what to do, I’m just desperate. There is not much time until the New Year. My mother-in-law wants to decorate the apartment, but I'll end up scraping it for another month. Last year, Tamara Ivanovna for some reason smeared all the windows with artificial snow. I wanted it to be beautiful until March. How can it be sustained?
Another point of the mother-in-law is hot drinks. She believes that no holiday can do without them. I'm cool with alcohol, I don't drink. But Tamara Ivanovna almost forces me to eat a drink: “Honey, and for my health?” Come on, or there won't be any money next year!
What could be worse than a drunken woman? I think it's just a hopsy mother-in-law. When Tamara Ivanovna leaves for the New Year break, I want to pack all my belongings and leave this house forever. I have asked my husband to celebrate New Year’s Eve somewhere else. But he is categorically against: “Dear, family holidays should be celebrated in the circle of the closest.”
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I love my husband, but sometimes I just don’t understand him. His mother's behavior doesn't seem strange to him. Moreover, he enjoys eating her cooking with cat hair. Says he's okay with it. Like, since the stomach has never hurt, everything is fine. That's ridiculous.
What makes me even more upset is that I have no one to share my experiences with. I lost touch with my mother a long time ago, which is not surprising. I never had any friends. I feel lonely and weak in character. I don’t want to ruin my relationship with anyone. But then what do we do?
Karina really needs to start making a difference. She clearly doesn't want to endure for life what she doesn't like. However, some effort must be made for this. Given the problems with her mother, we think it would be nice to see a psychologist. We are sure that he would help her to get rid of childhood grievances and become a more determined woman. And there is not far off and a serious conversation with mother-in-law and husband. Who knows?
What would you do if you were Karina? Share your impressions in the comments!
I don’t like New Year’s Eve, so I don’t like New Year’s Eve. This was true when I was little and when I grew up. My mother loved putting half the responsibilities on me that I couldn't always handle. I remember when I was 12, she made me make all the Christmas salads. She was the one who prepared me for adulthood. Of course, I failed the task miserably.
Since then, I have tried to make my mother proud. Maybe that's why I grew up so squeamish and my kitchen is always shiny. I just wanted family holidays to have a new meaning for me. Unfortunately, this never happened with my mother.
When I got married, my husband and I started living with his mother. I didn’t know what kind of person she was, and I really hoped that now all the holidays will play with new colors. But things got worse. The New Year has become a real torment for me.
The fact is that Tamara Ivanovna is a sloppy person. She is not friendly, so when her mother-in-law starts cooking, dirt and garbage appear literally everywhere. We have a cat Musya at home. So her hair somehow magically appears in every dish of her mother-in-law.
She doesn't keep an eye on the food in the fridge, so I have to keep throwing out the delay. The same goes for the first-aid kit, which for some reason stores medicines that are older than me.
I have already tried to talk to Tamara Ivanovna and my husband. My mother-in-law says nobody's keeping us here. It's her apartment and she's not going to change anything. And the husband is not ready to move out, because we do not have such a serious financial cushion to pull rent.
I don’t know what to do, I’m just desperate. There is not much time until the New Year. My mother-in-law wants to decorate the apartment, but I'll end up scraping it for another month. Last year, Tamara Ivanovna for some reason smeared all the windows with artificial snow. I wanted it to be beautiful until March. How can it be sustained?
Another point of the mother-in-law is hot drinks. She believes that no holiday can do without them. I'm cool with alcohol, I don't drink. But Tamara Ivanovna almost forces me to eat a drink: “Honey, and for my health?” Come on, or there won't be any money next year!
What could be worse than a drunken woman? I think it's just a hopsy mother-in-law. When Tamara Ivanovna leaves for the New Year break, I want to pack all my belongings and leave this house forever. I have asked my husband to celebrate New Year’s Eve somewhere else. But he is categorically against: “Dear, family holidays should be celebrated in the circle of the closest.”
491378
I love my husband, but sometimes I just don’t understand him. His mother's behavior doesn't seem strange to him. Moreover, he enjoys eating her cooking with cat hair. Says he's okay with it. Like, since the stomach has never hurt, everything is fine. That's ridiculous.
What makes me even more upset is that I have no one to share my experiences with. I lost touch with my mother a long time ago, which is not surprising. I never had any friends. I feel lonely and weak in character. I don’t want to ruin my relationship with anyone. But then what do we do?
Karina really needs to start making a difference. She clearly doesn't want to endure for life what she doesn't like. However, some effort must be made for this. Given the problems with her mother, we think it would be nice to see a psychologist. We are sure that he would help her to get rid of childhood grievances and become a more determined woman. And there is not far off and a serious conversation with mother-in-law and husband. Who knows?
What would you do if you were Karina? Share your impressions in the comments!
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