Why Men Stay Single

Very often, everyone says that women should get married before the age of 25, because then no one will call: a new generation of brides will grow up. But researchers say that according to statistics singles much more than the fair sex. And every year that number is growing. And even after a divorce, women are much more likely to remarry than men to marry.



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The world is changing, and the number of bachelors is growing, especially the small chance of finding family happiness in men after 35. Editorial "Site" I'll tell you why this is happening.

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1. Self-doubt
   In our time, self-doubt does not so much originate in childhood as it is born in the illusion-filled world of social networks. When young people flip through the tape with pictures of beautiful life, they begin to feel inferior and unable at this stage of life to start a family. Psychologists seriously raise this topic and advise to control their pastime on the Internet. In addition, men react more painfully to the refusal to meet in social networks and on dating sites than women. To increase self-esteem, experts recommend finding a purpose in life and dealing with all your blocks that prevent you from behaving confidently with women. Also engage in self-development and be a realist, rather than looking for the idealized fruit of their fantasies among women.
   
   
   
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2. Untidy appearance
   Whatever it was, but women pay attention to the appearance of a man, because with him to fall asleep all his life and give birth to a child. If a man does not wash things or iron them, does not clean shoes and does not visit the barber on time, this is very repulsive. And over the years, untidyness becomes only more, because a man without a woman lives aimlessly and often wears that the first will come to hand. Men need to remember that many shortcomings of appearance are correctable. And, in the end, the charm and charisma that you can develop in yourself, make a person attractive. Therefore, it is worth remembering that a full wallet is not a guarantee of attractiveness for women.
   
   
   
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3. Employment
   Many people complain that they don’t have time for personal life. But do not forget that everyone has 24 hours in a day, and somehow others manage to engage in self-development, career and family. So it is worth doing time management and self-discipline. Many guys think that first before the age of 25-30 they will make a career, create a material base and start looking for a bride. But you need to work all your life, and a person is so arranged that he is always not enough - you just can not understand when there are all the benefits to create a family.
   
   Excessive love for work, according to experts, can hide internal problems: loading themselves with work, people thereby flee from loneliness, anxiety, fear. Psychotherapist Irwin Yalom advises busy people to stop and ask themselves where you are going and why.
   
   Spending all the time at work, men lose the ability to communicate with the opposite sex, and with young girls they have different views on life, and their peers are either married or self-sufficient and can afford any man.
   
   
   
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4. Experience in previous relationships
   Let’s say that a man dated a woman for 5 years, in the end they separated. The reasons can be very different: from banal infidelity to the fact that the relationship simply outlived itself or the woman is tired of waiting. The painful experience of previous relationships often leads to a single lifestyle. Men are very vulnerable on this soil. An interesting observation: the longer a man remains alone after a breakup, the more likely he is to remain single forever. But it's always the fault of two. If all previous relationships have failed, it’s worth considering whether it’s about you or whether you always choose women with the same set of qualities. Remember that youth is fleeting.
   
   Smart people say that men and women are allowed to lead a loose lifestyle up to 23 years, then you need to build a serious relationship.
   
   
   
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5. Fear of responsibility
   Every man subconsciously understands that family is a big responsibility, and many are afraid of it. Often, these are people who find it difficult to make important decisions, or they are used to overprotection by their parents, or have many opportunities and choices. The latter is the paradox of modernity and does not help in life, but, on the contrary, makes us unhappy. Psychologists say that the reasons for the fear of taking responsibility are many: fear of making a mistake, fear of competition, fear of failure, low self-esteem and even genetics.
   
   
   
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6. The habit of living alone
   Long-term loneliness becomes a habit. It is difficult to imagine that someone can share personal space with him. It often happens that a man aged 35-40 can have a girlfriend, date her for more than a year, but he does not invite her to live together. He's just better off alone. If 20 years ago there were clear roles in the family: the husband is the breadwinner, the wife is the hostess, now a man and a woman can happily live independently of each other. There are also many attractions and entertainments that young people can afford. And they put off getting married for later. But then they can no longer give up their freedom. Yes, they can suffer and even drink in the evening because of loneliness, but they can no longer take the responsible step.
   
   
   
   
   
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7. Divorce
   Previously, it was believed that a man after a divorce is more advantageous than a woman. But time has changed. Courts are often on the side of women. In addition, she became a mother and can easily find a job, and later a new husband. A man has alimony on him. Unmarried girls are no longer very eager to consider such a candidacy, and divorcees already know exactly what they want and see if he is suitable for life.
   
   
   
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They say family values are collapsing. Men and women now know that the world is full of opportunities and do not want to waste their time building a family. They have children, but they don’t live together, build houses, but spend time alone. Now many people strive to create the illusion of happiness, but few people really experience it. There may be nothing wrong with being alone, but still a person needs a person. And often people are unable to build strong relationships due to a lot of psychological trauma.

We also talked about the possibility of happiness in solitude.

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