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Despite the form of marriage, people don't change
Some of the situations that occur in contemporary family and personal relationships, and causing controversy and outrage some of us will become clearer and clearer if we carefully consider and learn the process of the formation of the family in historical perspective.
Learning family history I pushed the case with one of my patients, who did not hesitate, had taken a second wife and moved her in with the first, citing the fact that his action is consistent with the provisions in the book of Engels and "the Communist Manifesto".
History is very important to us, without it it is difficult to understand the processes that occur in the present. To mankind for many centuries, is the norm – monogamous marriage, but in ancient times it was different.
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Human development has several stages.
The first stage is savagery which in turn is divided into several steps. At the lower stage, lasting several thousand years, people did not cook their foods and lived naturally in nature, gathered edible plants and nuts. Perhaps at this time begins to form speech.
During the middle stage of the people open fire, creating the first tools, starting to eat fish. Begin to live not just where necessary, and choose places next to the river. At the highest level guns become more complex, created the first bow and arrow, with which it is possible to hunt for game.
The second stage — barbarism. He has also been on stage. On the lowest rung of people tame animals, grow plants, and begin making pottery. The intermediate stage is characterized by the fact that people are starting to build houses with stone and brick.
Grow plants for food and create an irrigation system to care for them. Of domestic animals formed herds, the people are better nourished thanks to dairy food.And already at the highest stage of humanity enters on the path of civilization, which begins with the application of copper ore for the production of artillery pieces and create letters.
The third stage — civilization, during which all the already acquired skills are developed and expanded manufacturing, spreading the art.
But what about the family? A well-known fact that a herd is formed only where there is polygamy. Where there is a strong family appearance of the herd is extremely rare. Family limits the jealousy of the male, and it also separates the family from the herd. Jealousy in the herd is missing, there all males tolerant of each other, so the existence of large groups possible.
In such herds, and there was a transition from animal to humanoid, and then to the man. So thanks to polygamy we have become and still exist. We can say that polygamy is part of our nature and it exists naturally in us, so deal with it pointless. Much more useful to try to fit it into the existing framework adopted in the society of polygamy.
Before to create a monogamous marriage, humanity has gone a path of development and education the following types of families.
Group marriage.
First there was group marriage, which was attended by a lot of men and women belonging to each other. This form of relationship is almost precluded the jealousy, and that it contributed to the formation of human society. This period of polygamy existed long enough. According to F. Engels jealousy appeared much later and was more social than biological.
Biological jealousy more common in men because the offspring carries the genes, and thus continues you and your family, so it's important to be sure of the loyalty of women. But in ancient times there was no understanding of the purity of the offspring, knew nothing about incest. No one is bothered sexual relationship between relatives, siblings and even between parents and children.
Of such unions were born sickly children who did not live long. And only later, with the discovery of incest and the prohibition of kinship, stop spending time and money on the care of non-viable children. But even with such loose morals sometimes formed pairs that unconsciously to himself for some time were monogamous, had lived together, worked.
Kinship family
The first step of the family was consanguineous family in which relations between children and parents was absent, but sexual intercourse between brothers and sisters was taken for granted. This type of family is long gone, but some elements can be found among the aboriginal tribes of the Hawaiian Islands. Analogs of such relations are found in modern society. A vivid example — a family ritual celebrations and meetings. But usually, the sex here doesn't reach the final stage due to principles of morality or other circumstances.
All this is evidence that people failed to be realized professionally, and energy they bring to the relationship with family. If the couple is really into each other, the need to visit such events are practically absent.
Manualna family
The following family – munalula, it is the marriage between siblings is prohibited. Such groups became more developed and stronger than the tribes of incest. In unloading families the woman may be the common wife of several men, but which do not include her siblings. Conversely, a man may be a common husband of several women, among them his sisters.
In our time this form can also manifest itself in the so-called "Swedish" families, so again – don't judge anyone, we all have one story. In the group families do not always know who the child's father, as a few men, but the mother is always known – so kind in those days began to be conducted through the maternal line – so there was the institution of the family. All sisters, brothers and children of one mother-founder made the first old.
Steam family
Within the group of families could form a pair, who long time lived together, used to each other and abusability. It formed the paired family. Those families in which there was no incest, has produced more healthy offspring, respectively, in the future, these families and tribes became stronger kinship groups. But at some point the number of women decreased and they had to pay any ransom to live only with one man.
Steam family appeared in the period of transition from savagery to barbarism, she still does not have their farms and property. Also important moment is now the family had one father, all the children were from one man, which provided a home and grow food. In the case of family dysfunction and divorce – the boys stayed with the father and the family, and the girls with the mother were excluded from it. So there was a Patriarchal family in which women's rights have become infringed, she and her children became the property of her husband.
Monogamous family
The emergence of the monogamous family out of steam – the beginning of the era of civilization. The head of the monogamous family – the man who is the father of the children, and to change his wife has no right. The husband can change, to have slaves, but his wife is understated and does the housework, not participating in public Affairs. At this time, widespread prostitution.
In monogamous families had the economic aspect is community property, what was more important than love, we can say – it was a marriage of convenience. Appears the inequality of the sexes, men suppress women.
Freedom in sexual relations with the introduction of monogamous marriage has not disappeared – were the development of prostitution. Women, in turn, had lovers, and establishing paternity of children born within marriage were based only on moral aspects.
Men's personal hell
5 conditions required to reach
Despite the form of marriage, people don't change in marriage, they remain the same as they were before, so any marriage becomes like a peaceful cohabitation, called the quiet family happiness.
When the marriage is of convenience, he somehow takes the form of prostitution, more often from women, the only difference is that the woman sells her body once and for all, into the slavery. In modern times, very often in a “decent” families of daughters adjust to the fact that you need to look for a rich husband that can provide. published
Author: Michael Litvak
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: litvak.me/statyi/article_post/istoriya-formirovaniya-semi
Learning family history I pushed the case with one of my patients, who did not hesitate, had taken a second wife and moved her in with the first, citing the fact that his action is consistent with the provisions in the book of Engels and "the Communist Manifesto".
History is very important to us, without it it is difficult to understand the processes that occur in the present. To mankind for many centuries, is the norm – monogamous marriage, but in ancient times it was different.
Twenty six million four hundred twenty eight thousand three hundred forty four
Human development has several stages.
The first stage is savagery which in turn is divided into several steps. At the lower stage, lasting several thousand years, people did not cook their foods and lived naturally in nature, gathered edible plants and nuts. Perhaps at this time begins to form speech.
During the middle stage of the people open fire, creating the first tools, starting to eat fish. Begin to live not just where necessary, and choose places next to the river. At the highest level guns become more complex, created the first bow and arrow, with which it is possible to hunt for game.
The second stage — barbarism. He has also been on stage. On the lowest rung of people tame animals, grow plants, and begin making pottery. The intermediate stage is characterized by the fact that people are starting to build houses with stone and brick.
Grow plants for food and create an irrigation system to care for them. Of domestic animals formed herds, the people are better nourished thanks to dairy food.And already at the highest stage of humanity enters on the path of civilization, which begins with the application of copper ore for the production of artillery pieces and create letters.
The third stage — civilization, during which all the already acquired skills are developed and expanded manufacturing, spreading the art.
But what about the family? A well-known fact that a herd is formed only where there is polygamy. Where there is a strong family appearance of the herd is extremely rare. Family limits the jealousy of the male, and it also separates the family from the herd. Jealousy in the herd is missing, there all males tolerant of each other, so the existence of large groups possible.
In such herds, and there was a transition from animal to humanoid, and then to the man. So thanks to polygamy we have become and still exist. We can say that polygamy is part of our nature and it exists naturally in us, so deal with it pointless. Much more useful to try to fit it into the existing framework adopted in the society of polygamy.
Before to create a monogamous marriage, humanity has gone a path of development and education the following types of families.
Group marriage.
First there was group marriage, which was attended by a lot of men and women belonging to each other. This form of relationship is almost precluded the jealousy, and that it contributed to the formation of human society. This period of polygamy existed long enough. According to F. Engels jealousy appeared much later and was more social than biological.
Biological jealousy more common in men because the offspring carries the genes, and thus continues you and your family, so it's important to be sure of the loyalty of women. But in ancient times there was no understanding of the purity of the offspring, knew nothing about incest. No one is bothered sexual relationship between relatives, siblings and even between parents and children.
Of such unions were born sickly children who did not live long. And only later, with the discovery of incest and the prohibition of kinship, stop spending time and money on the care of non-viable children. But even with such loose morals sometimes formed pairs that unconsciously to himself for some time were monogamous, had lived together, worked.
Kinship family
The first step of the family was consanguineous family in which relations between children and parents was absent, but sexual intercourse between brothers and sisters was taken for granted. This type of family is long gone, but some elements can be found among the aboriginal tribes of the Hawaiian Islands. Analogs of such relations are found in modern society. A vivid example — a family ritual celebrations and meetings. But usually, the sex here doesn't reach the final stage due to principles of morality or other circumstances.
All this is evidence that people failed to be realized professionally, and energy they bring to the relationship with family. If the couple is really into each other, the need to visit such events are practically absent.
Manualna family
The following family – munalula, it is the marriage between siblings is prohibited. Such groups became more developed and stronger than the tribes of incest. In unloading families the woman may be the common wife of several men, but which do not include her siblings. Conversely, a man may be a common husband of several women, among them his sisters.
In our time this form can also manifest itself in the so-called "Swedish" families, so again – don't judge anyone, we all have one story. In the group families do not always know who the child's father, as a few men, but the mother is always known – so kind in those days began to be conducted through the maternal line – so there was the institution of the family. All sisters, brothers and children of one mother-founder made the first old.
Steam family
Within the group of families could form a pair, who long time lived together, used to each other and abusability. It formed the paired family. Those families in which there was no incest, has produced more healthy offspring, respectively, in the future, these families and tribes became stronger kinship groups. But at some point the number of women decreased and they had to pay any ransom to live only with one man.
Steam family appeared in the period of transition from savagery to barbarism, she still does not have their farms and property. Also important moment is now the family had one father, all the children were from one man, which provided a home and grow food. In the case of family dysfunction and divorce – the boys stayed with the father and the family, and the girls with the mother were excluded from it. So there was a Patriarchal family in which women's rights have become infringed, she and her children became the property of her husband.
Monogamous family
The emergence of the monogamous family out of steam – the beginning of the era of civilization. The head of the monogamous family – the man who is the father of the children, and to change his wife has no right. The husband can change, to have slaves, but his wife is understated and does the housework, not participating in public Affairs. At this time, widespread prostitution.
In monogamous families had the economic aspect is community property, what was more important than love, we can say – it was a marriage of convenience. Appears the inequality of the sexes, men suppress women.
Freedom in sexual relations with the introduction of monogamous marriage has not disappeared – were the development of prostitution. Women, in turn, had lovers, and establishing paternity of children born within marriage were based only on moral aspects.
Men's personal hell
5 conditions required to reach
Despite the form of marriage, people don't change in marriage, they remain the same as they were before, so any marriage becomes like a peaceful cohabitation, called the quiet family happiness.
When the marriage is of convenience, he somehow takes the form of prostitution, more often from women, the only difference is that the woman sells her body once and for all, into the slavery. In modern times, very often in a “decent” families of daughters adjust to the fact that you need to look for a rich husband that can provide. published
Author: Michael Litvak
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: litvak.me/statyi/article_post/istoriya-formirovaniya-semi
