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WRONG pain
I think in our world there are not many people loving and wanting to experience negative emotions, to endure pain and suffering to live with a sense of inner dissatisfaction, to face rejection, rejection and injustice.
There are, of course, the particular lovers of the above conditions, which one wants to be in pain a lot and often, the benefit of the common man to join their ranks is very difficult.But even in small doses is similar condition are useful.
Pain and internal discomfort can make a person start looking for the source and the means for healing, I draw it to himself, forced to stop, to listen to the feelings and sensations, and at the most successful situation and to restructure their thinking, and ultimately behavior, and even their lives.
But you can often hear from people that their pain is some kind of "wrong", the suffering of a loved person is also baseless and do not have the right to life, and indeed, detail is everything.
And in my opinion, there is a big difference between the ability to track these pop-UPS, negative state, trying to keep them under control, and the illusion that nothing in this world can bring you out of balance, except that any fallen from the sky a meteorite for a second knock down and the hair will spoil, and all the rest is nonsense.
Is that stupidity or negligence, we cause ourselves harm: eating spicy food, having a sick stomach, we find ourselves in the eye with a sliver from a log, because the saw took, and not wearing safety glasses, take the stick and hammered a nail, because I was walking barefoot and not looking where you step, break teeth, trying to open their bottle of champagne, set fire to the hair or eyelashes, lighting a cigarette, etc.
It would seem that such trifles, why pay attention to them, but agree that if any part of the human body will have at least a little damage, then it will be a little banged up, but the feeling is not very good. It seems to be okay, but paralyzes normal life, for example, with a broken tooth to be invited to the feast, not very comfortable, with a sliver in the eye and opalennye eyelashes beautiful makeup to do not very good, with a nail at the foot of the cross will not run, but with pain in the stomach and do not want to.
Or take the common cold — stuffy, sore throat and ears blazing, and what you cannot do! Scuba diving no-no in karaoke too, singing does not work, and the secret to who's ear to whisper I will want to listen to really.
And in each of these cases, most people do not pay much attention, because "all live", which is trivia time to lose.
And if in the childhood to our suffering environment more responsive (at least to the suffering of the body), the older a person gets, the less attention to every "microbism".
But in vain! Accumulate imperceptibly, and the effect is tangible.
The power shortage, low self esteem, fear of intimacy, fear, victories, love and happiness, no contact with the body and his own soul — that is the result of a large number of tiny, but unrecognized negative conditions. Congratulated a friend's birthday, and he forgot about my — zanoski, gave the girl flowers and she left them on the bench — a splinter, like a guy, and he started Dating a friend of carnations called out and changed my mind half an hour — a button. Dad promised to give the bike, and gave book, mom promised to come to play in school, but it did not work, the older brother took a walk, the younger sister cut favorite dress, grandma said that your cake is tasteless, grandpa said that hands curves, spoons cut do not know. The teacher at school when you all announced that you made more mistakes in the dictation, a classmate loudly noticed you have put on a few pounds, a classmate told friends that yesterday you went on a date, and today he is already calling someone else.
And how many of these small studs, buttons, chips and splinters... each person a full box. With this box it is difficult to accept even the new "income" from your life, and what can we say about the pain of others.
Because it turns out that instead of careful analysis of past failures, learning from them and healing the wounds of people it is much easier to pretend there is no pain that they do not touch all those little rejection, neglect loved ones, lack of support, sincere friendship and love in their lives. There is work and interesting projects they can participate and enjoy, and most importantly — where it's not painful, except that lost money.
But for losing moneyis the explanation — an unstable economy, poor niche, unscrupulous suppliers, competitors, sanctions, in the end. And for loss a heart there is no explanation, for the cruelty of the people closest to us to find the explanation is not so simple, it needs to be done in the course of which it turns out that the brutality and negligence of the environment stems from the fact that they themselves never knew another treatment.
But even this realization does not free us from domestic problems, it is necessary to train the heart to forgiveness and release from them.
The pain of another person is annoyed by the fact that the resonance starts with the same state within us, and of his own resentment, fears, anger and aggression are forced to face too unlovable part of ourselves — the shadow side. People don't like to face this part of yourself, it is much easier to blame yourself and others in weakness and softness — "what's this fuss about? and imagine how people during the war, living as they have to seriously!"
Yes, it's true, the world is full of pain, and compared to the starving children, refugees from devastated countries, dying from an incurable disease, a destruction of the family or worrying about a sore knee seem nonsense, but unless every person has the right to experience what experiences? It is clear that cut finger and the body damaged in accidents, have varying degrees of damage, but in that and in other case they cause the person discomfort and the inability to live a full life. Five minutes if, five days or five years, but normal life stops, it requires changes in usual behavior requires additional attention and resources for healing.
In a world where many children die from cancer, this does not mean that a cold or allergies of other children is not worthy of attention. If hurricanes destroy houses, it does not mean that in houses with leaking roof should be left as it is.
Each issue need to be addressed in a timely manner, and the more little trouble eliminated, the less likely the occurrence of the great disaster, and the more there is strength to help those who really need it.
Disabled food receptors cannot recognize spoiled food, with a bum knee is not so easy to catch the robber snatch the bag at the pensioner, with chopped hands, you can not afford to get out of the abyss it loose. The healthier each of us, the more chances to help others not only cope, but also see a lot of beauty.
Of course, I would like to see the measure among giving yourself the opportunity to suffer and live through every negative emotion, because here there are distortions. It's one thing if you consciously deal with healing, living out their negative processes in therapy, come with your problems to the priest in the Church or can be healed with the help of a loved one or close friends, then everyone there are acute, when all the past seems too heavy to bear, so the tears and despair, and fears, and bouts of aggression can happen to a person. It's quite another when people generously share their negative States with each counter — that portion of discontent to the waiter, that portion of the cries and claims of the seller in the store, then the look of contempt the guard house, and then slap the child for a bad grade, then husband/wife to be angry, to put all the bills for his failed life, and to repeat this ritual every day. This is called emotional incontinence and desecration of space itself, I would not like to have such reputation.
Value assessments of the damage is also encouraged by accidentally ottoptannye in the bus leg is hardly necessary to insist on the proceedings, and for the purchase of an appealing pair of shoes, a different man in your face smash Windows, throw a tantrum by rolling on the floor and wild ora for the entire store and not worth it.
Also interesting: 7 signs of emotional exhaustion
People love to confuse themselves...
Adults sort of have to learn to cope with life in this world, and suddenly the next week a new flow of goods to happen, and you have all the relationship soured. Don't do that.published
Author: Dean Richards
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.facebook.com/dina.v.richards/posts/10153700067034452
There are, of course, the particular lovers of the above conditions, which one wants to be in pain a lot and often, the benefit of the common man to join their ranks is very difficult.But even in small doses is similar condition are useful.
Pain and internal discomfort can make a person start looking for the source and the means for healing, I draw it to himself, forced to stop, to listen to the feelings and sensations, and at the most successful situation and to restructure their thinking, and ultimately behavior, and even their lives.
But you can often hear from people that their pain is some kind of "wrong", the suffering of a loved person is also baseless and do not have the right to life, and indeed, detail is everything.
And in my opinion, there is a big difference between the ability to track these pop-UPS, negative state, trying to keep them under control, and the illusion that nothing in this world can bring you out of balance, except that any fallen from the sky a meteorite for a second knock down and the hair will spoil, and all the rest is nonsense.
Is that stupidity or negligence, we cause ourselves harm: eating spicy food, having a sick stomach, we find ourselves in the eye with a sliver from a log, because the saw took, and not wearing safety glasses, take the stick and hammered a nail, because I was walking barefoot and not looking where you step, break teeth, trying to open their bottle of champagne, set fire to the hair or eyelashes, lighting a cigarette, etc.
It would seem that such trifles, why pay attention to them, but agree that if any part of the human body will have at least a little damage, then it will be a little banged up, but the feeling is not very good. It seems to be okay, but paralyzes normal life, for example, with a broken tooth to be invited to the feast, not very comfortable, with a sliver in the eye and opalennye eyelashes beautiful makeup to do not very good, with a nail at the foot of the cross will not run, but with pain in the stomach and do not want to.
Or take the common cold — stuffy, sore throat and ears blazing, and what you cannot do! Scuba diving no-no in karaoke too, singing does not work, and the secret to who's ear to whisper I will want to listen to really.
And in each of these cases, most people do not pay much attention, because "all live", which is trivia time to lose.
And if in the childhood to our suffering environment more responsive (at least to the suffering of the body), the older a person gets, the less attention to every "microbism".
But in vain! Accumulate imperceptibly, and the effect is tangible.
The power shortage, low self esteem, fear of intimacy, fear, victories, love and happiness, no contact with the body and his own soul — that is the result of a large number of tiny, but unrecognized negative conditions. Congratulated a friend's birthday, and he forgot about my — zanoski, gave the girl flowers and she left them on the bench — a splinter, like a guy, and he started Dating a friend of carnations called out and changed my mind half an hour — a button. Dad promised to give the bike, and gave book, mom promised to come to play in school, but it did not work, the older brother took a walk, the younger sister cut favorite dress, grandma said that your cake is tasteless, grandpa said that hands curves, spoons cut do not know. The teacher at school when you all announced that you made more mistakes in the dictation, a classmate loudly noticed you have put on a few pounds, a classmate told friends that yesterday you went on a date, and today he is already calling someone else.
And how many of these small studs, buttons, chips and splinters... each person a full box. With this box it is difficult to accept even the new "income" from your life, and what can we say about the pain of others.
Because it turns out that instead of careful analysis of past failures, learning from them and healing the wounds of people it is much easier to pretend there is no pain that they do not touch all those little rejection, neglect loved ones, lack of support, sincere friendship and love in their lives. There is work and interesting projects they can participate and enjoy, and most importantly — where it's not painful, except that lost money.
But for losing moneyis the explanation — an unstable economy, poor niche, unscrupulous suppliers, competitors, sanctions, in the end. And for loss a heart there is no explanation, for the cruelty of the people closest to us to find the explanation is not so simple, it needs to be done in the course of which it turns out that the brutality and negligence of the environment stems from the fact that they themselves never knew another treatment.
But even this realization does not free us from domestic problems, it is necessary to train the heart to forgiveness and release from them.
The pain of another person is annoyed by the fact that the resonance starts with the same state within us, and of his own resentment, fears, anger and aggression are forced to face too unlovable part of ourselves — the shadow side. People don't like to face this part of yourself, it is much easier to blame yourself and others in weakness and softness — "what's this fuss about? and imagine how people during the war, living as they have to seriously!"
Yes, it's true, the world is full of pain, and compared to the starving children, refugees from devastated countries, dying from an incurable disease, a destruction of the family or worrying about a sore knee seem nonsense, but unless every person has the right to experience what experiences? It is clear that cut finger and the body damaged in accidents, have varying degrees of damage, but in that and in other case they cause the person discomfort and the inability to live a full life. Five minutes if, five days or five years, but normal life stops, it requires changes in usual behavior requires additional attention and resources for healing.
In a world where many children die from cancer, this does not mean that a cold or allergies of other children is not worthy of attention. If hurricanes destroy houses, it does not mean that in houses with leaking roof should be left as it is.
Each issue need to be addressed in a timely manner, and the more little trouble eliminated, the less likely the occurrence of the great disaster, and the more there is strength to help those who really need it.
Disabled food receptors cannot recognize spoiled food, with a bum knee is not so easy to catch the robber snatch the bag at the pensioner, with chopped hands, you can not afford to get out of the abyss it loose. The healthier each of us, the more chances to help others not only cope, but also see a lot of beauty.
Of course, I would like to see the measure among giving yourself the opportunity to suffer and live through every negative emotion, because here there are distortions. It's one thing if you consciously deal with healing, living out their negative processes in therapy, come with your problems to the priest in the Church or can be healed with the help of a loved one or close friends, then everyone there are acute, when all the past seems too heavy to bear, so the tears and despair, and fears, and bouts of aggression can happen to a person. It's quite another when people generously share their negative States with each counter — that portion of discontent to the waiter, that portion of the cries and claims of the seller in the store, then the look of contempt the guard house, and then slap the child for a bad grade, then husband/wife to be angry, to put all the bills for his failed life, and to repeat this ritual every day. This is called emotional incontinence and desecration of space itself, I would not like to have such reputation.
Value assessments of the damage is also encouraged by accidentally ottoptannye in the bus leg is hardly necessary to insist on the proceedings, and for the purchase of an appealing pair of shoes, a different man in your face smash Windows, throw a tantrum by rolling on the floor and wild ora for the entire store and not worth it.
Also interesting: 7 signs of emotional exhaustion
People love to confuse themselves...
Adults sort of have to learn to cope with life in this world, and suddenly the next week a new flow of goods to happen, and you have all the relationship soured. Don't do that.published
Author: Dean Richards
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.facebook.com/dina.v.richards/posts/10153700067034452
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