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Myths and facts about marriage
1. Happiness - married
Myth: Because of the high divorce rate, which ends unhappy marriages, people who stay married are happier than people of previous generations who were married and living with a person no matter how good was a marriage.
Fact: According to the data obtained as a result of several large studies, the overall level of happiness of the people who are not married has increased and probably declined somewhat. Some studies have shown that marriages in the 21st century, compared with those who were to 20 or 30 years ago, characterized by large presence of work-related stress, a lot of marital conflict and less-family contact and interaction.
2. Standard cohabitation
Myth: Cohabitation - is the same as marriage, only without a stamp in the passport.
Fact: Cohabitation, as a rule, does not bring the same benefits (physical health, emotional and financial well-being) that marriage. In view of these benefits, cohabitants are more like singles than married couples. This is due in particular to the fact that cohabitants not "perfect," as couples, they are more focused on their personal autonomy and less on the welfare of his partner.
3. Sexual Life
Myth: Married people are less satisfied with sexual life, and less likely to have sex than single people.
Fact: According to numerous large-scale studies, married people are much more likely to have sex, and they are getting from him more satisfaction than singles. Not only do they have sex more often they get from it more fun, both physical and emotional.
4. Domestic violence
Myth: The marriage puts women at higher risk to face violence.
Fact: Many studies show that, on the contrary, being unmarried and living with a man outside marriage, women are at more risk to face violence. One reason for such conclusions could be that married women may hide the presence of the facts of domestic violence. In addition, fewer women are getting married and more divorced from those who are inclined to violence. But it is also true is the fact that married men are less likely to commit domestic violence because they are invested in the welfare of their wives, and therefore their families. These social factors appears to aggressive behavior and help men do not go beyond what is permitted.
5. Life expectancy
Myth: People today should not expect that the marriage will last a lifetime, as it was in the past, because life expectancy is now much higher.
Fact: If the comparison referred to in the myth, its roots in the events of a hundred years ago, then there is no reason to believe in this myth. Increased life expectancy due to a sharp reduction in infant mortality. And while the adult is living a little longer than his grandparents, he at the same time and get married at a later age. Therefore, the typical duration of a marriage without divorce, has not changed much over the past 50 years. In addition, many couples get divorced long before their marriage will knock a solid round date: half of all divorces happen in the 7-year marriage.
6. Living together before marriage
Myth: Couples who live shorter lives before marriage, able to test how well they fit together, such marriages are more durable, and partners get more satisfaction from them.
Fact: Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have a lower level of satisfaction with marriage, the chances are that eventually life as couples end in divorce, is much higher. One of the reasons is that more afraid of roommates obligations and that they are more likely to leave when there are any problems. In addition, the fact of living together can lead to the development of such relations, which "complicate" the possibility of a happy marriage. The results of one recent study showed, for example, that fewer roommates motivation to resolve conflicts and to maintain the existing close. One important exception: cohabiting couples who plan to marry in the near future, have the same chances of success of marriage, as well as those who had not lived together before marriage.
7. educated women are more difficult to get married
Myth: The more educated a woman is, the lower her chances of getting married.
Fact: A recent study based on an analysis of percent of marriages among educated women in the 1990s, came to the conclusion that today's women graduates of universities are more likely to marry than their uneducated "colleagues", regardless of age, which creates a first marriage. This myth is a thing of the past, when women with high levels of education really rarely marry.
8. Romance and strength of feeling
Myth: The key to a long and happy marriage - is romantic love.
Fact: One of the most common reasons for the longevity of marriage - is interested in each other, partnership and companionship rather than luck and love. Such couples talk about their marriage as a creation that involves hard work, dedication and commitment (to each other and the institution of marriage). Happy couples are also friends with each other, who share life and have the same interests and values.
9. Marriage is strengthened with the birth of children
Myth: Having children typically brings spouses and increases marital happiness.
10. The benefits of marriage
Myth: From marriage get more benefits men, not women.
Fact: Contrary to the results of earlier studies, recent experiments have shown that women and men have about the same benefit from marriage, although it manifests itself differently. Both men and women live longer, happier, healthier and richer when they are married. Husbands tend to get more health benefits, and wives get more financial benefits.
Myth: Because of the high divorce rate, which ends unhappy marriages, people who stay married are happier than people of previous generations who were married and living with a person no matter how good was a marriage.
Fact: According to the data obtained as a result of several large studies, the overall level of happiness of the people who are not married has increased and probably declined somewhat. Some studies have shown that marriages in the 21st century, compared with those who were to 20 or 30 years ago, characterized by large presence of work-related stress, a lot of marital conflict and less-family contact and interaction.
2. Standard cohabitation
Myth: Cohabitation - is the same as marriage, only without a stamp in the passport.
Fact: Cohabitation, as a rule, does not bring the same benefits (physical health, emotional and financial well-being) that marriage. In view of these benefits, cohabitants are more like singles than married couples. This is due in particular to the fact that cohabitants not "perfect," as couples, they are more focused on their personal autonomy and less on the welfare of his partner.
3. Sexual Life
Myth: Married people are less satisfied with sexual life, and less likely to have sex than single people.
Fact: According to numerous large-scale studies, married people are much more likely to have sex, and they are getting from him more satisfaction than singles. Not only do they have sex more often they get from it more fun, both physical and emotional.
4. Domestic violence
Myth: The marriage puts women at higher risk to face violence.
Fact: Many studies show that, on the contrary, being unmarried and living with a man outside marriage, women are at more risk to face violence. One reason for such conclusions could be that married women may hide the presence of the facts of domestic violence. In addition, fewer women are getting married and more divorced from those who are inclined to violence. But it is also true is the fact that married men are less likely to commit domestic violence because they are invested in the welfare of their wives, and therefore their families. These social factors appears to aggressive behavior and help men do not go beyond what is permitted.
5. Life expectancy
Myth: People today should not expect that the marriage will last a lifetime, as it was in the past, because life expectancy is now much higher.
Fact: If the comparison referred to in the myth, its roots in the events of a hundred years ago, then there is no reason to believe in this myth. Increased life expectancy due to a sharp reduction in infant mortality. And while the adult is living a little longer than his grandparents, he at the same time and get married at a later age. Therefore, the typical duration of a marriage without divorce, has not changed much over the past 50 years. In addition, many couples get divorced long before their marriage will knock a solid round date: half of all divorces happen in the 7-year marriage.
6. Living together before marriage
Myth: Couples who live shorter lives before marriage, able to test how well they fit together, such marriages are more durable, and partners get more satisfaction from them.
Fact: Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have a lower level of satisfaction with marriage, the chances are that eventually life as couples end in divorce, is much higher. One of the reasons is that more afraid of roommates obligations and that they are more likely to leave when there are any problems. In addition, the fact of living together can lead to the development of such relations, which "complicate" the possibility of a happy marriage. The results of one recent study showed, for example, that fewer roommates motivation to resolve conflicts and to maintain the existing close. One important exception: cohabiting couples who plan to marry in the near future, have the same chances of success of marriage, as well as those who had not lived together before marriage.
7. educated women are more difficult to get married
Myth: The more educated a woman is, the lower her chances of getting married.
Fact: A recent study based on an analysis of percent of marriages among educated women in the 1990s, came to the conclusion that today's women graduates of universities are more likely to marry than their uneducated "colleagues", regardless of age, which creates a first marriage. This myth is a thing of the past, when women with high levels of education really rarely marry.
8. Romance and strength of feeling
Myth: The key to a long and happy marriage - is romantic love.
Fact: One of the most common reasons for the longevity of marriage - is interested in each other, partnership and companionship rather than luck and love. Such couples talk about their marriage as a creation that involves hard work, dedication and commitment (to each other and the institution of marriage). Happy couples are also friends with each other, who share life and have the same interests and values.
9. Marriage is strengthened with the birth of children
Myth: Having children typically brings spouses and increases marital happiness.
10. The benefits of marriage
Myth: From marriage get more benefits men, not women.
Fact: Contrary to the results of earlier studies, recent experiments have shown that women and men have about the same benefit from marriage, although it manifests itself differently. Both men and women live longer, happier, healthier and richer when they are married. Husbands tend to get more health benefits, and wives get more financial benefits.