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How to get grandparents to sit with their baby
“When I had to go to work after my maternity leave, I faced a big problem: I had no one to leave my three-year-old son with. The child now lives with his grandmother. She is already 81 years old, and I understand how difficult it is for her, but I have no other choice.
Lyuda hoped for the help of her mother-in-law, but her husband's mother refused to help. Lyudmila does not know how to convince her mother-in-law to look after her own grandson. They have repeatedly discussed this, and Alina Petrovna does not want to listen to any arguments. Should she spend her time sitting with a baby?
I am a doctor by specialty, as soon as the decree ends, immediately to work. My husband also works hard, sometimes we don’t even cross paths because I often work the night shift. Gleb had to be left with my grandmother Rimma, who is 81. She gladly agreed, but I understand that it is very difficult for her. Age makes itself felt. In kindergarten, the situation is critical. It is necessary to enroll the child before birth, I confess, we were late in this matter. We're waiting for the room to clear. A great-grandmother cannot see an active child on the street, she does not often walk with him. At home, she tries. Cooking, feeding, putting the baby to bed.
Finding a good nanny is not easy. We had four nannies. One found another job, the other flirted with her husband when he came home, the third disappeared somewhere and did not call back. The fourth was a little younger than my grandmother. We're still looking for a babysitter, but qualified babysitters charge for their services that we simply don't have.
My parents have not yet retired, they can not pay attention to Glebushka. But Alina Petrovna is the second year in retirement, she is a little older. When my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law kept asking when she would have a grandson, and now she doesn’t have time for him.
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Freedom-loving mother-in-law Alina Petrovna in her old age decided not to burden herself with any worries, to devote time to herself. She goes out with her friends, doing embroidery. She recently got a date. I suspect that's why she doesn't want to waste time on her grandson. She says she raised her children, and she doesn't have to babysit us.
Yeah, she doesn't have to. But is that what relatives do? It's a grandson. And when she needs help, will he refuse? It's all wrong. I think people should help each other in a difficult situation. We are in a hopeless situation, and how to convince Alina Petrovna, I will not put my mind.”
Children are a great happiness, but also an even greater responsibility. When a child is born, it should be understood that parents are people who should primarily care about the well-being of their infant. The baby comes first, whatever it is. The question of mother-in-law is controversial. You can accuse her of not liking her grandson and so on, but when you think about it, she's right, isn't she? A person has given most of his life to his family and work, and in retirement he already wants to devote time to himself.
Parents’ support is expensive, but it’s a personal matter. Someone has their own plans, someone has neither the desire nor health to take responsibility for looking after other people's children. There are stories in which women accuse the mother-in-law of sitting with the child and raising him differently than the parents. So you need to be responsible for your actions, try not to shift the responsibility for your children to other people’s shoulders. Parents and children will thank you for your care and attention. What would you do in Lyudmila’s place?
Lyuda hoped for the help of her mother-in-law, but her husband's mother refused to help. Lyudmila does not know how to convince her mother-in-law to look after her own grandson. They have repeatedly discussed this, and Alina Petrovna does not want to listen to any arguments. Should she spend her time sitting with a baby?
I am a doctor by specialty, as soon as the decree ends, immediately to work. My husband also works hard, sometimes we don’t even cross paths because I often work the night shift. Gleb had to be left with my grandmother Rimma, who is 81. She gladly agreed, but I understand that it is very difficult for her. Age makes itself felt. In kindergarten, the situation is critical. It is necessary to enroll the child before birth, I confess, we were late in this matter. We're waiting for the room to clear. A great-grandmother cannot see an active child on the street, she does not often walk with him. At home, she tries. Cooking, feeding, putting the baby to bed.
Finding a good nanny is not easy. We had four nannies. One found another job, the other flirted with her husband when he came home, the third disappeared somewhere and did not call back. The fourth was a little younger than my grandmother. We're still looking for a babysitter, but qualified babysitters charge for their services that we simply don't have.
My parents have not yet retired, they can not pay attention to Glebushka. But Alina Petrovna is the second year in retirement, she is a little older. When my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law kept asking when she would have a grandson, and now she doesn’t have time for him.
35Freedom-loving mother-in-law Alina Petrovna in her old age decided not to burden herself with any worries, to devote time to herself. She goes out with her friends, doing embroidery. She recently got a date. I suspect that's why she doesn't want to waste time on her grandson. She says she raised her children, and she doesn't have to babysit us.
Yeah, she doesn't have to. But is that what relatives do? It's a grandson. And when she needs help, will he refuse? It's all wrong. I think people should help each other in a difficult situation. We are in a hopeless situation, and how to convince Alina Petrovna, I will not put my mind.”
Children are a great happiness, but also an even greater responsibility. When a child is born, it should be understood that parents are people who should primarily care about the well-being of their infant. The baby comes first, whatever it is. The question of mother-in-law is controversial. You can accuse her of not liking her grandson and so on, but when you think about it, she's right, isn't she? A person has given most of his life to his family and work, and in retirement he already wants to devote time to himself.
Parents’ support is expensive, but it’s a personal matter. Someone has their own plans, someone has neither the desire nor health to take responsibility for looking after other people's children. There are stories in which women accuse the mother-in-law of sitting with the child and raising him differently than the parents. So you need to be responsible for your actions, try not to shift the responsibility for your children to other people’s shoulders. Parents and children will thank you for your care and attention. What would you do in Lyudmila’s place?